Just honestly confused with a lot
Alright, I've come with a question. Do you think possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time. Because honestly I'm struggling with feelings for two girls which I'll explain down below
GIRL A. She is a long time friend for about 6 years and we dated for 10 months or so around 3 going on 4 years ago. All of a sudden we start talking again and its ridiculous how much we still click
More of a story on her would be acceptable to be found in http://www.basilmarket.com/forum/1511705
I do have a confession about that thread though, at the time I had been embaressed to say that we had met on MS instead of RL so I wrote a story around the whole concept but a lot if not most of the story was real.
She ended up ending the relationship due to conflicts that arouse when I moved down to Florida and we just stopped talking for the most part except for the occasional FB messages between us which were very vague and had no depth to them.
But, while we were talking a few nights ago she had said that she regrets ever breaking up with me and that it was a mistake. It was awkward because I never really lost feelings for her but I can't tell her that because of the relationship I'm in now.
GIRL B. This is the current girl I'm dating and we've been dating for a little over 3 years. She was originally one of many rebound girls after girl A but we eventually started getting closer and closer. I can honestly say I love her and she just is way too good to me. We've hit some bumpy spots in our relationship when it comes to communcation, which I've tried just about everything you can to get her to talk to me more and for us to interact more on a personal level. but she just isn't like that
We've been distant, and she has a hard time opening up a lot and it bugs me. But what can I do, you know? :I
I know I should just let go of girl a. in that sense but I just can't bring myself to do it. Nor could I ever end it with girl b just because of the fact we are very close and I do love her.
Basilplz lol
So yea, If you don't mind the read that would be cool if you added what you thought or what your opinions are of loving/having strong feelings for multiple girls/men/both who cares
Thanks, there is no TLDR.
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Sharing is caring. In a perfect world you shouldn't have to choose. J/k
I watch this show and like the romance in it. The girl was really nice to the guy. She was always there to support him. She bit him on the arm leaving a scar on his arm so he'd remember her for the rest of his life. She got wounded fighting by his side. They always tease each other sarcastically. They were a cute couple and got along naturally. I wish I could find a nice girl that love me that much and we got along wonderfully. I had it but lost it.
Who comes up in your thoughts more? That person is who you like more. Would it be easier to live with A or B? Put yourself in different situations and see which one you would want more, or which you couldn't be without.
I don't believe in long distance relationships so I say go for B, but don't give up hope with A.
Who did you fall in love with first?
You don't love that person enough because you went and fell in love with someone else.
Choose #2
[quote=SodiumOH]In this thread, I will use Pokemon for my analogy:
I've been in a similar situation.
Red or Blue
Gold or Silver
Ruby or Sapphire
Diamond or Pearl
Black or White
X or Y
So yes. It's possible, but in the end you can only put one cartridge at a time. In the end, you will have to make a choice (for whatever reason).
Side notes:
- There will be a yellow which is better than the other two
- There will be a crystal which is better than the other two
- There will be an emerald which is better than the other two
- There will be a platinum which is better than the other two
- There is no gray so there isn't always a better one
- There might be a Z. Should I risk it and wait?
I'm tired, I should sleep. [/quote]
I was going to say this. Well, without the Pokemon metaphors.
A wise chipmunk says you should choose the second one
In this thread, I will use Pokemon for my analogy:
I've been in a similar situation.
Red or Blue
Gold or Silver
Ruby or Sapphire
Diamond or Pearl
Black or White
X or Y
So yes. It's possible, but in the end you can only put one cartridge at a time. In the end, you will have to make a choice (for whatever reason).
Side notes:
- There will be a yellow which is better than the other two
- There will be a crystal which is better than the other two
- There will be an emerald which is better than the other two
- There will be a platinum which is better than the other two
- There is no gray so there isn't always a better one
- There might be a Z. Should I risk it and wait?
I'm tired, I should sleep.
Become a Mormon
[quote=Flexography]Yes you can love more than one person at the same time
yes polyamorous relationships can work[/quote]
Def. Not in this situation, nor would I be ok with both at the same time... ugh
@Rtyu: One lives up in NYC while the other one is here where I live...
and the problem is now I'm talking to "A" for at least an hour a day and then my current GF "B" is over all the time so we spend plenty of time...
[quote=Rtyu]It's possible, but you must love one more than the other.[/quote]
I guess my problem is I'm just having the hardest time finding out which one that is... ;-;
Just as a mormon if it is possible
Pick the Asian one.
If they're both Asian, I'm going to need pictures.