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[quote=monkeh892]Just a question. And yet you have time to play MapleStory?[/quote]

no i dont play maplestory anymore. i quit like, wut? a year? 2 years? forgot...

hey yo there!

[quote=ZombieOverlord]I agree with you partially, but I disagree with your view of education.
Sure you may get into top colleges for the sake of a high-paying job, but is that really everything?
Is being rich really all that it's cut out to be?[/quote]

Rich? No. But there is nothing more important than being able to provide your children with every opportunity possible. There is nothing more important than making sure you can afford the best health care for your children, etc...

A poor person, sadly, can not provide their children with that.

Does that mean I suggest everyone becomes a soulless Wall Street Investment banker making annual bonuses of 7M a year? Heck no!

Do I feel that being able to get a solid education and send your kids to good, safe, crime-free schools is of utmost importance? Heck Yes!

Even the simple things, like being able to spend time with them, is easier if you have a good education and job. You have more time to spend teaching them the intangible, but critically important, things in life that helps them to be GOOD people as well as successful.

@PockyAddict You're right- ones major isn't that important. But establishing a history if successfully setting challenging goals and achieving them is critically important. (Example: getting admitted into a competitive school and getting great grades).

[quote=myrdrex]You don't need 'to get some action in your life'. You need to focus on school. That is your primary concern right now- anything else is absolutely insignificant, within reason.

Any girl you're interested in today will mean nothing 1 month, 1 year, 5 years from now. I couldn't even tell you any of the names of my first 5 crushes. I honestly don't even remember the first girl I thought I was in 'love' with. I want to say is was a blonde named Jessica, but I can't be sure.

Trust me, we all go through angst and feelings that we've being overwhelmed.

It's not reality- it's simply hormones wrecking havoc upon your mental stability.

It'll pass- don't fret about it, and don't lose sight of the ultimate goal- getting into a top college.[/quote]

I agree with you partially, but I disagree with your view of education.
Sure you may get into top colleges for the sake of a high-paying job, but is that really everything?
Is being rich really all that it's cut out to be?

[quote=Legendslives]@myrdrex
@ZombieOverlord

ya but, i need a little freedom with my friends. and yes i like this girl like she is the only girl alive. 0.0 man it just turned into a love problem.

OT: like i was saying, so what if im 14. i need to get some action in my life once in a while... i am able to keep my school and social life both under control... trust me.
im a solid teen... i know what is best for me, most of the time...[/quote]

You don't need 'to get some action in your life'. You need to focus on school. That is your primary concern right now- anything else is absolutely insignificant, within reason.

Any girl you're interested in today will mean nothing 1 month, 1 year, 5 years from now. I couldn't even tell you any of the names of my first 5 crushes. I honestly don't even remember the first girl I thought I was in 'love' with. I want to say is was a blonde named Jessica, but I can't be sure.

Trust me, we all go through angst and feelings that we've being overwhelmed.

It's not reality- it's simply hormones wrecking havoc upon your mental stability.

It'll pass- don't fret about it, and don't lose sight of the ultimate goal- getting into a top college.

Just a question. And yet you have time to play MapleStory?

[quote=Legendslives]@myrdrex
@ZombieOverlord

ya but, i need a little freedom with my friends. and yes i like this girl like she is the only girl alive. 0.0 man it just turned into a love problem.

OT: like i was saying, so what if im 14. i need to get some action in my life once in a while... i am able to keep my school and social life both under control... trust me.
[b]im a[/b] solid [b]teen[/b]... [b]i know what is best for me[/b] most of the time...[/quote]

And teens are totally known for doing what's best because they know what they're doing....right?

@myrdrex
@ZombieOverlord

ya but, i need a little freedom with my friends. and yes i like this girl like she is the only girl alive. 0.0 man it just turned into a love problem.

OT: like i was saying, so what if im 14. i need to get some action in my life once in a while... i am able to keep my school and social life both under control... trust me.
im a solid teen... i know what is best for me, most of the time...

I pity your pathetic and insignificance problems.
"Stop acting so immature" is something I would say....but then I realized you're 14.

You're 14- don't worry about it.

With the exception of getting good grades in school and not loosing a parent/sibling, nothing that happens to you really matters at this point.

I know it all seems important right now, but any girl you like, and friend you may have, means absolutely nothing in the long run.

Trust me- getting the absolute best grades possible are all that matters. (Unless you're a superb athlete and are going for a full-ride to a top school based off a sporting ability).

Here's the best part about the truth I'm telling you now- once you accept it, your social life suddenly falls into place and all stress goes away. If I had only known how absolutely irrelevant high school was when I was in it, my whole attitude would have made me insanely desirable to the opposite sex. It's the reason that as soon as you get engaged/married (as a guy), every chick all of the sudden loves you and wants to get with you. Your self confidence is so high, that it's like Spanish fly.

In other words, not worry about stuff is a self-fulfilling prophecy- once you stop worrying, you have less to worry about as problems resolve themselves.

@Iceheart1111 thats because i am =)
@twinstrike14 no, i think thats a little to extreme

=) You sound asian

@LonelyStoner dude, im depressed because im missing out on everything my friends doing... you know how bad it is to say "oh i cant go..." "my parents are over protective"
@TronicX trust me, i know how to... im a will-ful guy

[quote=Legendslives]like i said before, [b]i know how to control myself. can control temper, desirer, and complete 100% drugs...[/b]
i just want a social life because i want to hang out with friends. it wouldnt deplete my academic life because [b]i know when to stop and such.[/b] its not like im going to go everyday...just enough so i have some fun once in a while[/quote]

That's what they all say...

like i said before, i know how to control myself. can control temper, desirer, and complete 100% drugs...
i just want a social life because i want to hang out with friends. it wouldnt deplete my academic life because i know when to stop and such. its not like im going to go everyday...just enough so i have some fun once in a while

A social life will deplete your academic life. I know this from experience.

Listen to your parents and DON'T COMPLAIN.

If your friends are good people, try inviting them over sometime, to not only hang out, but to also let your parents get a good look of who you are friends with at school. If your parents approve of your friends, then your chances of going out should increase.

Besides, you're only 14. Just chill for a moment, k?

@Nina ill see if i can try to talk with the school counselor. you know when you get the feeling that you dont want to talk about the subject, thats sometimes wut i feel when i have some problems. but i will try to talk with them
@ZackIsPwn ya, my parents want me to be the smartest person alive. well, i may have over thought that but, u know. and yes, i do need some social life because i dont have any right now... ty for that evidence of "not making through life without friends"

Go see a therapist.

It helps.

/imbeingserious

@Legendslives: I would recommend talking to the school counselor, that's what they're there for. Try seeing him/her on a lunch break. I used to talk to one when i was in college and it did help.

@EatCereal no, their just overprotective. i understand that im their son but, they just need to loosen this rope that they got on me... its like them having the rope and you're tied with it...no i know how to control myself and they would never understand im depressed because when i say i want to do something with my friends since im depressed, they would just do they regular speech...

@SlicedPulp i joined a sport, but no more in school since, ya, its spring. if u know me, im in a very hard school and can only get A's in 3 out of my 6 classes...others i get B's or a slight chance of a C

[quote=Nina]i thought this site could help http://www.wikihow.com/Persuade-Your-Parents-to-Let-You-Go-Out-on-Your-Own
what about joining a club at school? will your parents let you have friends over? that way they wont worry as much. You have to let them know you feel alone because you dont have a social life with your peers.
Edit: Simply ask them this. "I know you are worried about me when I leave the house but I want to prove to you that I can be trusted. I would really like to talk about this, how can I earn your trust?"[/quote]

well, there are no club in my school right now because they ended the "signup thing" and now i cant join any of them. since where i am is spring and the last season for school, there will be no more clubs this year.
what you said about "let me show you that i can prove it", my parents are not that "flexible" when it comes to something they stand for.
being alone, no, i said that and my mom doesnt believe me...then i said "im at home 24/7." and then she changed the subject and went on a spaz attack.....

i thought this site could help http://www.wikihow.com/Persuade-Your-Parents-to-Let-You-Go-Out-on-Your-Own
what about joining a club at school? will your parents let you have friends over? that way they wont worry as much. You have to let them know you feel alone because you dont have a social life with your peers.

Edit: Simply ask them this. "I know you are worried about me when I leave the house but I want to prove to you that I can be trusted. I would really like to talk about this, how can I earn your trust?"

@lordzubin
im putting asterisks in those words because i dont really want to be "banned" again... just saying

i know i cant drive, have a job, or anything. but i still need a social life. im popular in my school but no one knows how i live my life. 24/7 at home...
all my friends hang out, go to the movies, or even play bball.
i need to have friends to get through life you know...not just a loner at school missing out on all the action

Why are you putting asterisks in words like "stupid" and "freaking"? And you're fourteen, you can't drive, you don't have a job, they can tell you whether or not you can hang out or not since you're not able to drive or anything. They provide for you, you don't provide for them.

@nina i do get good grades, do chores, and didnt start the conversation in a mad man way. i said calmly that "why cant i go out with my friends". and then they just start flipping over yelling stuff at me

the only way is to talk to them not in an OMG I DONT GET TO DO ANYTHING EVER! kind of way. It's all about compromise and explain how you feel. Lay out your own plan like curfew and consequences. Tell them you would like to earn privileges by helping around the house or just earning them with good grades, like if you get bad grades you lose privileges (such as cell phone, going to friends or movies/mall, computer). It sounds like a trust issue so prove to them that you can be trusted ^.^