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Looks always matter. Most attraction is physical at first, and then personality is kind of the glue that holds the relationship together.
Like there are a lot of boys (like 2) at my school that I consider physically attractive, but I wouldn't say I have a crush on them because they have terrible personalities (or they're straight and I don't do that but w/e).

[quote=xreminiscing]Saying looks doesn't matter at all is naive. Of course looks matter. If you're in a room with two strangers, one of which is attractive and the other is not, you're obviously going to be more interested in talking to the attractive person. How you feel about their personality after you get to know them is a whole different story.

Looks play an important part in other aspects of life as well. My professor was telling me about how he has a really ugly cousin that got out of the draft because the army felt he was so ugly that he would demoralize the troops. It's also been estimated that ugly people make about $250,000 less than their more attractive counterparts throughout their lifetime.[/quote]

Wow, didn't think a person could be so ugly that it would demoralise the troops.

OT: Your physical appearance attract people to you, but your personality keeps them around.

Saying looks doesn't matter at all is naive. Of course looks matter. If you're in a room with two strangers, one of which is attractive and the other is not, you're obviously going to be more interested in talking to the attractive person. How you feel about their personality after you get to know them is a whole different story.

Looks play an important part in other aspects of life as well. My professor was telling me about how he has a really ugly cousin that got out of the draft because the army felt he was so ugly that he would demoralize the troops. It's also been estimated that ugly people make about $250,000 less than their more attractive counterparts throughout their lifetime.

@metaghost4: k

Looks make me interested.
Personality makes me love.

No one wants to date someone hideous.
No one wants to date someone irritating.

@metaghost4: I don't judge people as "ugly" unless their personality is nasty. Then their looks will automatically match the display I have of them.
and you're pretty disrespectful ~w~ don't talk to me if you aren't able to read

@teensora: I think everyone is unique. There is always that will differ you from someone. You can't have 2 identical people, even twins will differ somewhat in the end.
There are many factors, you won't find someone with the same background story, the same circle of friends, the same attitude, the same looks, the perfectly same set of genes.... Even if it gets close to it, the least that could make you differ is the area you live in and the steps you've taken.

Of course you can't claim looks don't matter at all, everyone judges people by looks automatically within a second or less. It doesn't take long to have a profile of someone in your head. But eventually if it's about choosing a partner... you can't face two VERY similar people and then go ahead and choose solely by looks. Your decide who is best for you emotionally, if you fall for the "uglier" one then he may just have a personal feature that touches you emotionally more than the attractive appearance of the other person.

@metaghost4: I don't know cause when it's about partner-choice I never even wasted much thought about what my partner should look like.
Sure, I had types of guys I found overly attractive (though that has also changed a lot), but when I fell for my Fiance I didn't even consider his looks, I was far too caught by his personality and our "history"/background story.
Of course there's people I somewhat judge by look at first glance but I don't let that mess with me until I found out about their personality.
Though I gotta say it's pretty easy to see in someone's face that they're stupid or mentally... distorted... and their personality will match their looks automatically.
It may not be attractive to me but there will be those genetically close to them that will suit much better.

In the end you automatically fall for someone who suits you anyway. It's not really a use if you judge someone by looks but that person's body odor is absolutely unbearable to you...
People may say looks matters and all... but then try to live with an overly stupid/soft/freaky person and see if you find their appearance as attractive still... doubt it. Cause their face will slowly start to look very, very ugly.

aand I'm zoning out cause my thoughts are going allllll over the place atm. My bad.

Its not so much about being attractive, but about not being ugly. Have good hygiene, take care of your body, not too hard if you're a sober person.

The biggest problem I've ever had was horrendous acne, I tried everything and it wouldnt leave my face till 18 when I took accutane, and it still comes back from time to time.

[i]Let me tell you from experience, from going from a pimple faced skinny twig with glasses, to an almost overly muscular highschool football player with contacts, a bit of a beard and improved hygiene : Your appearance is incredibly important and will decide how you are treated, who you are approached by and the type people you will surround yourself with [/i]

It doesnt take long for people to look beyond your appearance when you make it to a comfort zone with them socially. Character will always thrive in the long term.

Looks don't matter that much, but it isn't unnecessary. I am not expecting my friends to look absolutely gorgeous, but at least you have to keep your appearance clean. By clean I meant: your hair is not dirty, your face is clean, your hair is neatly up (or down), you dress appropriately << those are what matters to me

If you look fit, then you probably exercise and care about your health (though it's hard to say for sure if you're in high school, since metabolism hasn't slowed down for many yet). If you have a nice haircut and are well dressed, it means you aren't oblivious to western culture, which places great importance on outer beauty. Even though there are features that you're born with that may never change (without surgery), you still have some control over decent chunk of your looks. Take advantage of that control, make a good first impression, and you will want to be known.

Personality, character, their hobbies, what their career is, their financials, their thoughts on having kids, and all that other stuff that's relevant to a relationship can all individually be as important as looks (if not more so). If you treat it all as one big phase, then looks is probably a deal-breaker (at least when you're young). If you split it up into two phases (i.e. before you know them, after you know them), then looks would be very important in the first phase (behavior that you can observe from a distance can also make you ridiculously attractive, but I guess you can lump behavior with looks). Beyond that (and especially as you age and your horomones settle down), not so much.

Honestly looks [b]do[/b] matter. The other person doesn't have to be gorgeous/handsome but good enough and [i]you find[/i] them attractive. There has to be some sort of physical attraction between the two. Personality comes in second, of course their personalities must be great too. It's about a 55:45 % looks : personality ratio for me. For physical appearance, it doesn't always have to be they have a good-looking facial structure, but they are well-put together. Your personality will enhance your looks.

[quote=NekoChan]@Hatchet: I read it, and it was white knight bull-crap.[/quote]

Read it again.

Looks (to me) matter, but it's second to personality and if I can connect to said person.

I've known girls that, at first impression didn't find very attractive but after getting to know them little by little they started to seem more attractive in the end.

Now, it doesn't mean this is generally always how it is. As I've met some very beautiful people that I know I would not wish to be friends with or know.

But in the end both are needed, you can be ugly yet have a nice personality and people will love you or you can be deemed beautiful but have the personality of a doorbell.

Actually reminds me of Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie back in the days, people like Paris better because everyone loved how she looked but hated her personality where as Nicole was deemed second to Paris yet had the better personality in the end and was loved either way.

If I'm going to be spending a good amount of time with someone, especially on an emotional level, I gotta like what I'm looking at.

They matter, but personality is tied to it as well. Need both of them.

[quote=xXlinkedXx]There are 3 different kinds of "looks".
1. Appearance - Basically what you wear and stuff
2. Actions - How people look at you based on your actions
3. The Video Gamer - Using game logic IRL hand-in-hand with either 1 or 2. (Example is wearing mainstream items or doing "reaction commands" randomly IRL like in dodge ball in gym class you "spam" "Dodge Roll" trying to look cool)[/quote]

Oh god i do number 3 a lot D: I'M A NERD

[quote=NekoChan]Looks matter, to everyone looks matter, if someone says only personality matters they're dumb or spewing bull-crap or both. You don't like someone because they're nice to you, you like someone because they look nice to you and only then would you give a dam if they're nice or not. Looks come first, looks always come first to everyone who can see. Looks 70%, personality 30%.

As for comments like the one above me, that is the white-knight bull-crap right there. "Smart and funny" dam that's some cliche crap.[/quote]

I don't even think you read my comment.

I believe it does matter to some point, but I would rather have a decent looking girl who is smart and funny than a gorgeous girl who has the sense of humor as a door knob and is as smart as a rock.

Appearance does matter, not as much as personality but it still matters.
Its okay if someone isnt super beautiful, as long as that someone has average looks.

Looks matter quite a bit for me.
I would actually consider myself quite shallow, and I don't exactly like that about myself.
The issue is that I consider personality to be [i]equally[/i] important though.. and I don't exactly take the time to get to know someone unless they've held my attraction, physically..

And this is why I'll remain forever alone. Woo for honesty.

yeah looks matter totes.

[quote=Nashi]you can't have two people with the "same" personality, everyone has their own unique life and personality combination.

To me, I can't quite say if looks matter at all. My own.. kind of, since I'm not happy with it. But I'm gonna work on that.

My partner...
well, when I used to be friends with him I didn't find him interesting or anything. Not ugly either though. I just accept their looks as display for their individuality.
There are some overly "pretty" and some that I don't find visually appealing at all but that doesn't make me think less of them (unless their personality matches their looks if they're ugly or they have a horrible personality with comparably good looks )

I fell for him becaue of his personality. At the time I didn't even consider his looks anymore, I somewhat forgot how he looked exactly back then. Though ever since we started dating he's the most attractive man to me on this planet

Relationship-wise it didn't matter at all to me.
If it's about strangers it matters even less...
friends... couldn't care less either.

idk[/quote]

It was a hypothetical situation to prove that looks do matter so saying they absolutely don't would be a lie. Also people aren't unique. There are 7 billion of us on this planet and each of us are replaceable by someone. I will admit that most people don't share the exact same personality with someone, but for almost everyone there is another person who have a very similar personality.

There are 3 different kinds of "looks".
1. Appearance - Basically what you wear and stuff
2. Actions - How people look at you based on your actions
3. The Video Gamer - Using game logic IRL hand-in-hand with either 1 or 2. (Example is wearing mainstream items or doing "reaction commands" randomly IRL like in dodge ball in gym class you "spam" "Dodge Roll" trying to look cool)

you can't have two people with the "same" personality, everyone has their own unique life and personality combination.

To me, I can't quite say if looks matter at all. My own.. kind of, since I'm not happy with it. But I'm gonna work on that.

My partner...
well, when I used to be friends with him I didn't find him interesting or anything. Not ugly either though. I just accept their looks as display for their individuality.
There are some overly "pretty" and some that I don't find visually appealing at all but that doesn't make me think less of them (unless their personality matches their looks if they're ugly or they have a horrible personality with comparably good looks )

I fell for him becaue of his personality. At the time I didn't even consider his looks anymore, I somewhat forgot how he looked exactly back then. Though ever since we started dating he's the most attractive man to me on this planet

Relationship-wise it didn't matter at all to me.
If it's about strangers it matters even less...
friends... couldn't care less either.

idk

It does to me, quite greatly. I usually look at the outer appearance before deciding whether or not to interact with them. :l For some reason I just can't handle socializing with someone 'ugly'. Call me shallow, but I can't help it these days.

For me, to be truly honest, it's about 60% personality 40% looks. So they matter a lot, but not as much as other things. I guess I'm just superficial though haha

90% is about looks. i dont care how stupid he is I WANT A MAN

you're right.. looks do matter, but still i wouldn't be with someone super beautiful if they have the crappiest of attitude and personality.
I think... personality and compatibility kick starts a girl in becoming a possibility, but then after that, looks are a bonus <3

To me looks matter a lot, probably way too much. I honestly don't care what people tell me about it. I just don't want to end up with someone not as attractive as me. To me it's normal having to look for someone that is around the same level of attractiveness as me.