Are you a blatant person?
I say things blatantly about 100% of the time. And this goes with anything, for example: if somone is really ugly, ill go up to them and be like..."You are ugly as crap" or be sarcastic like..."Why you so pretty?...SIKE...*insert somthing true*" or even if its my opinion about somtihng, idk. But im a blatant person. So im asking you guys are you the same way? Dont get me wrong, im caution in what i say because i wouldnt say somthing that would provoke something bad, but about 95% of the time. Ill say anything about anything or anybody. So...are you guys blatant as well? And if you say "No" please say why you are not.
March 8, 2012
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Blatant to an extent.
There's just some things you don't do or say.
[quote=NoobCake]I would consider myself a pacifist and I still treat people the same way he does. Many people complain about my personality and I tell them to stop being so dam soft and sensitive.
Why are people so dam sensitive to everything these days? Who cares if I lower their oh-so-already-low self esteem? Maybe they should suck it up and realize that not everyone is going to wipe their bum like a baby anymore. To me, words are meaningless. Just ignore the person or deal with it (but knowing them, they're too butthurt to even confront the person about it).
Teenagers that commit suicide over bullying are pathetic and weak. If they couldn't handle a couple of insults being thrown at them, maybe they wouldn't be able to handle the [i]real world[/i] altogether.
My advice: Men, grow some balls. And women, grow some lady balls.[/quote]
I love you...
I couldnt agree more.
I'm blatant in a good way. If someone is someone is having a problem, I just go, you [____], lemme fix that.
[quote=NoobCake]I used to be like that in elementary school, letting words get into my head and causing more stress on my life. Then I realized that as I cared less, so did the stress. What I'm saying is, words shouldn't even have an impact on people anymore. Everyone is going to get criticized at some point of their life, whether it's intentional or not (like a form of a joke which was taken seriously) and what matters is how you react to it.[/quote]
My mother dies.
Someone insults my mother.
...
[quote=NoobCake]I would say that I can easily relate to them, but I was able to escape that hell hole of a shell and brighten myself as a person. Who benefits from being depressed? No one. If people were to become less sensitive and stop getting all depressed over things then their life would become a lot brighter. Ever since I came out of my "shell" (this was in grade 7), my life has only gotten better since then. I've used to take insults seriously, especially the ones targeting my disabilities, but I learned to ignore it, or just laugh it off. People shouldn't let words hurt them, it's not worth it.[/quote]
You were fortunate in that you weren't overwhelmed from it, but you claim to have emerged from it apathetic and carefree; it's not a rewarding course of action at all, and can only be done temporarily.
To simply NOT CARE is not going to get you anywhere, and if you were to tell me you're in high school, I couldn't help but think of you as that seemingly depressed loner who mutters to his equally weird outcast friend "man those girls are totally superficial, I want a real woman who loves me for who I am" everytime the hotties walk by. Not to say that's what you are and not to reinforce stereotypes, but it's what I envision, and needless to say, it's because to not care is an excuse to not make better of yourself (now how do you argue you DO improve yourself when you don't acknowledge any criticism in the first place?).
To clarify - I acknowledge people will always be criticized, which can be both a positive and a negative thing. It can be positive if someone takes it and finds a way to improve or have an easier time accepting it (constructive criticism, delivered in a mild manner), but it is negative when taken in excess and to an unbearable degree or when it causes suffering.
[quote=NoobCake]Your argument seems to be specifically about people who are stressed and depressed, while I was targeting the everyday butthurt (excuse my lack of a better and more formal word) and sensitive people. [/quote]
Spreading hate, causing depression, spreading the mentality, etc. It's a vicious cycle that perpetuates thanks to the nature of societal competition.
[quote=NoobCake]What ever happened to the old saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"?[/quote]
A quote used to feign confidence or a quote used by someone who has not understood the concept of mental stress.
[quote=Boss]The real world isn't a pool of sharks. The concept of "growing balls" and "sucking it up", a strange pairing, is so misunderstood by people that it's almost hysterical.
First off, no one is going to the gym to enlarge their balls and no one is going trying to improve their suction; you cannot prepare yourself for emotional stress.
With that said, you have to quantify the amount of stress one receives in order to really understand the concept of depression. You say a couple insults, yeah, but those insults echo in the head of the individual and amplify, eventually reaching a point that surpasses the capacity they have for stress, unless it is reduced.
Knowing this, why would you want to add stress to someone's life? You ever have a bad day where you just wanna punch someone out, and some prick says some wise-ass garbage to you? On a normal day you'd brush it off, but at that point in time it's not the same. Don't speak for others when your state of mind isn't able to relate and your understanding is dim.[/quote]
I used to be like that in elementary school, letting words get into my head and causing more stress on my life. Then I realized that as I cared less, so did the stress. What I'm saying is, words shouldn't even have an impact on people anymore. Everyone is going to get criticized at some point of their life, whether it's intentional or not (like a form of a joke which was taken seriously) and what matters is how you react to it.
I would say that I can easily relate to them, but I was able to escape that hell hole of a shell and brighten myself as a person. Who benefits from being depressed? No one. If people were to become less sensitive and stop getting all depressed over things then their life would become a lot brighter. Ever since I came out of my "shell" (this was in grade 7), my life has only gotten better since then. I've used to take insults seriously, especially the ones targeting my disabilities, but I learned to ignore it, or just laugh it off. People shouldn't let words hurt them, it's not worth it.
Your argument seems to be specifically about people who are stressed and depressed, while I was targeting the everyday butthurt (excuse my lack of a better and more formal word) and sensitive people.
What ever happened to the old saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"?
[quote=NoobCake]I would consider myself a pacifist and I still treat people the same way he does. Many people complain about my personality and I tell them to stop being so dam soft and sensitive.
Why are people so dam sensitive to everything these days? Who cares if I lower their oh-so-already-low self esteem? Maybe they should suck it up and realize that not everyone is going to wipe their bum like a baby anymore. To me, words are meaningless. Just ignore the person or deal with it (but knowing them, they're too butthurt to even confront the person about it).
Teenagers that commit suicide over bullying are pathetic and weak. If they couldn't handle a couple of insults being thrown at them, maybe they wouldn't be able to handle the [i]real world[/i] altogether.
My advice: Men, grow some balls. And women, grow some lady balls.[/quote]
The real world isn't a pool of sharks. The concept of "growing balls" and "sucking it up", a strange pairing, is so misunderstood by people that it's almost hysterical.
First off, no one is going to the gym to enlarge their balls and no one is going trying to improve their suction; you cannot prepare yourself for emotional stress.
With that said, you have to quantify the amount of stress one receives in order to really understand the concept of depression. You say a couple insults, yeah, but those insults echo in the head of the individual and amplify, eventually reaching a point that surpasses the capacity they have for stress, unless it is reduced.
Knowing this, why would you want to add stress to someone's life? You ever have a bad day where you just wanna punch someone out, and some prick says some wise-ass garbage to you? On a normal day you'd brush it off, but at that point in time it's not the same. Don't speak for others when your state of mind isn't able to relate and your understanding is dim.
yea dude i agree with Boss.
theres a difference with being blatant and what you are OP. seems to me youre a bully of some sort in your local middle/highschool. you have to change that later on thou. being "blatant" isnt going to take you anywhere, just cause problems.
i dont know you or anything, might be wrong but if someone told me something offensive just because that person is blatant..id react very badly, like any sane person would.
[quote=Boss]Thank God you have a first of solid iron. No, you likely don't talk to the right (or wrong) people. Everybody thinks they're hard when they talk, but there are people who wouldn't waste a second chatting if a fist can fly; you've been lucky or wise in who you say stupid things to.
...and thank God you have a casing of impermeable titanium around your heart, you emotionless fiend!/sarcasm For real though, perhaps you should look at the anti-bullying campaigns, teenage suicides, etc., which I'm sure you've been made aware of, but chose to dismiss regardless for... I don't even know what reason. Why would you even argue this? Simply because you claim to be macho and impossible to faze (lol) doesn't mean everybody else is.[/quote]
I would consider myself a pacifist and I still treat people the same way he does. Many people complain about my personality and I tell them to stop being so dam soft and sensitive.
Why are people so dam sensitive to everything these days? Who cares if I lower their oh-so-already-low self esteem? Maybe they should suck it up and realize that not everyone is going to wipe their bum like a baby anymore. To me, words are meaningless. Just ignore the person or deal with it (but knowing them, they're too butthurt to even confront the person about it).
Teenagers that commit suicide over bullying are pathetic and weak. If they couldn't handle a couple of insults being thrown at them, maybe they wouldn't be able to handle the [i]real world[/i] altogether.
My advice: Men, grow some balls. And women, grow some lady balls.
[quote=SkyFourth]What a solid iron first[/quote]
Yes, thank you for spotting the typo I shall edit that.
I usually hide anything negative unless I'm really annoyed or I just don't like the person. I used to be pretty blunt, I would tell ugly people they are ugly, that they smell, that they should brush their teeth cuz their breath stinks.... but now I'm much calmer. I think I am 25% blatant though.
[quote=CoIorIess]Careful what you say to a girl, you might get back-slapped in the face one day if you're that blatant.
Not at all. I'm pretty sarcastic sometimes though.[/quote]
I agree, but there is a difference between saying somthig to someone that is true, and just saying something to be funny. Im not gonna be blatant when i lie. Im not blatant when arguing with my parants (usually not), but in situations where it doesnt make a difference, then I will be.
I can be, I suppose. For the most part, not really.
[quote=hendeewabo]Dude, first of all, I've been blatant all my life and I've had numerous people want to fight me, will they? No. I can fight if needed anyway.
Secondly "spreading insecurity"? Have people really gone that soft now-a-days? I don't go out of my way to insult someone but when I say something mean people shouldn't take it to heart. One person shouldn't affect another's life so much. People insult me, I get over it. I have no need to care.[/quote]
Thank God you have a fist of solid iron. No, you likely don't talk to the right (or wrong) people. Everybody thinks they're hard when they talk, but there are people who wouldn't waste a second chatting if a fist can fly; you've been lucky or wise in who you say stupid things to.
...and thank God you have a casing of impermeable titanium around your heart, you emotionless fiend!/sarcasm For real though, perhaps you should look at the anti-bullying campaigns, teenage suicides, etc., which I'm sure you've been made aware of, but chose to dismiss for... I don't even know what reason. Why would you even argue this? Simply because you claim to be macho and impossible to faze (lol) doesn't mean everybody else is.
Yes, but I don't go out of my way to do it.
yes i can be blunt sometimes-- but it's usually to the benefit for the other person.
'what do you think of my outfit? '
'ehhh...i don't really like it'
>see in reality if i said it was BEAUTIFUL and blah blah and she wore it, other people would snicker behind her back
think i saved her from some embarrassment
Most of the time I'm really sarcastic but people take me seriously.
It's not like I give two dams whether they hate me or not though, as long as they have good reasons to.
I guess many would call me "blatant," "coldhearted," "jerk," "a-hole," etc.
I'm blatant, and a lot of my friends thank me for my honesty. It's nice to compliment people sometimes etc or embellish things a little, but I like to be straight forward. If a dress makes you look fat, it makes you look fat, wear another one. I prefer saying useful things than just any old thing or generic response.
no... cuz i'm just not.
No, because if I did, I wouldn't be alive.
In your context of being a "blatant" person, I sure as hell am not.
Your example, while just an example, is in such poor judgement that I can't possibly take you seriously. You claim to be cautious in your speech, but if you're going to be a little snob "95% of the time", I daresay you contradict any caution you take. Spreading insecurity like you do will quite successfully make you unpopular with people and perhaps warrant reconstructive surgery after you're pummelled. In other words, no, I won't be a jackass and last time I checked I'm older than 8 years old, so I also won't use "crap" for comparison.
The world is bad enough as it is, why make it worse for others?