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@Sirenprince: Mmm? o.o

By all means whatever issues you have there are A LOT of people suffering from the same problem. It's out of question, whatever you experience will never be a first-time experience (meaning there's always been someone that went or is currently going through the same crap)

Personally when someone tells me they like me I don't trust them if I don't know them well, if it's people I've interacted with a bunch and that I know I'm still fishy about it but I don't think much about it, I just enjoy the time I have with them.
If they do decide to turn their backs on me I do get upset but eventually it's their loss cause it was them that lied or ruined a friendship since personally I see no reason to fool someone, lie to them or end a friendship over a tiny arguement or misunderstanding. They lost a loyal friend, not me.

Look at your situation from the outside, if you would know someone in your position what would you think and what would you suggest them?
It may help you to see this from another person's view, a situation always looks much worse for the person that has to endure it and they're stuck in their pain whereas people from the outside only see plain facts and can logically figure out what should be done or what's going on
Don't sweat over one person, you'll be fine.

Admittedly there are many corrupted assholes out there and you gotta be craplucky to be able to find some decent people but that's no reason to isolate yourself. If you don't trust people they'll feel it, especially when you obviously block them when they try to take steps towards you, and it'll be you screwing something over that was potentially good.
And please don't attach your heart to someone you barely know.... get to know people first. There's a great variety of (<apparently you can't write these two words after another&gt humans too so don't punish one unique person cause of someone else.

[quote=nuffinmich]Whenever someone says 'I like you' to me, I tend to not believe what they're saying. I just ignore the fact that they said it and try to move past it. Why? Because deep down, I feel like they're just trying to ease me up so they can walk all over me. Otherwise, I'd always just end up getting my hopes up and I get hurt in the end. Unfortunately, I let my guard down for this one person. Things changed. I was used, mentally abused, and kicked to the curb by someone that meant so much to me within 1 day. I cried so much, that my eyes became blood shot red and puffy. I feel so worthless now. I haven't ate anything in the last 12 hours and my body is freezing cold. For the most part, I can't feel anything or try to be happy. Nothing is helping me whatsoever. The person wouldn't give me my closure to move on, so I'm dying inside and suffering in so much pain. My heart literally aches.

Can someone please reassure me that I'm not the only one that's felt this way and that I will get better in due time? My self-esteem hit rock bottom and I feel like I'll live life closing the door on people who want to get to know me in the future...[/quote]

Oh, girly, it's okay. I'm very much like you.
I have trust issues because some numbskull said "I love you to me." When he clearly liked another girl and he just used me so he can have some sort of satisfaction. Course, nothing bad happened except one thing I won't say.
The thing is, it's a risk. And you have a lot on the line. But unless you find that one person, then it'll be okay.

For now, focus on you getting better. People will be people and pick the ones that are truthful. It'll take a while for your self-esteem to get back to normal.

@nuffinmich: What can I say? It's what I do. B)
You're only human, you know. You'll get past this, but you won't have to do it alone. I myself have not experienced anything like this, so I probably don't know what it's like lol. I try to be careful too. Caution is smart, but it will limit you sometimes. I think all you need is time, and to get your priorities straight. I guess half the healing process is over once the mental part has been conquered. And I'd be happy to cheer you up anytime if you need it. Take care.

[quote=JaydenVo]I like you.

Lol just messing with ya. You're definitely not alone. Take a look at yourself, and despite how long it might take, you will realize your worth. Feelings are uncontrollable most of the time, and that's normal. This experience will only contribute to your strengths and your wisdom. Positive things are waiting, but only if you get your ass up and keep moving forward (:
/fortunecookieOUT[/quote]

This made me smile. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I just hate that when I get close to someone, I become a bit fragile when things happen.
@WingDrow : I hated high school. I'm pretty sure anyone could agree, but you're right. I just gotta see this as a lesson.
@xsupakoreanx : Thanks for letting me know the perspective of class A dbags. I'm glad to know that if you were able to move on, then I should be able to brush this off my shoulders like nothing. Seriously, thank you so much.

I'm grateful for you guys to give me advice and to move on. Don't know how long it'll take, but I'll try to be productive and cheer myself up. Bless you all.

I really liked this one girl last year, grade 11 , and I told my best bud to help me out. He knew I was going for her for 3 months, then he started dating her. One of the worst feeling I ever had in my life

Lol love is the best and worst thing in life.

If I were you I would go watch some Spongebob or Ellen Degeneres
Or listen to some sad music, it makes you happier apparently.
Take care young one!

Well, that's unfortunate.

Don't let it get to you too much

I know how you feel. It sucks.
It's happened to me and I'm still recovering from that state.
You should find a hobby to make you forget about these terrible moments in life and be happy.
I ran into adobe flash making animations. They're incredibly bad, but I enjoy it. It keeps me happy and makes me forget about the terrible things in the past.
Find a hobby and I'm sure you'll feel a little bit better!

Go take a shower. It helps.

But yeah, you'll get better. Probably will take quite a long time but life will go on. I don't usually believe these kind of threads on Basil but you seem to have actually put effort into it. Hope you feel better soon.

Don't hurt yourself.

Alright, let's see.

If you want real-time similarities, I may tell ya something; Childhood troubles!

So I had this childhood friend of me, yes. We had our differences, but we were still besties. He was a damn canibalistic scientist (Well, for more mindfork). When we got to... ahem, third grade? In school, I don't know how that is in America, but we were like 14 or 15 years old when it happened, he began to get more away from me. I used to be the typical nerd who's driven away from the social group, and, rather than being an arsehole like the rest of my class and society? I prefered that so much.

So I asked my 'friend' what was with him, why didn't he want to talk to me anymore. His response? 'You're a society scum, dude, I'll look for my own group before you take me to hell with you'. Backstabbed by my own childhood bestie. 100 score to heart-breaking feelings.

1 year later, I met my actual bestie; a heavy metal guy who's a freak like me, and I doubt he'll backstab me. Can't say the same about the people he introduced me to; They were a bunch of otakus, and I enjoyed their company, but was reluctant to show myself. After a time, I began to talk with them more, being that time the most enjoyable of my life... If only it wasn't because of something that happened.

1 year after I met them, we decided to make an official gathering, a group, of otakus and nerds in our town, since it was full of people 'hidden in the shadows' as we would say. Me, my bestie, and 2 of them, were the heads of the operarion, and it went so well during that year. That was, until we made a third meeting for all of us; It was a full weekend, on Xmas, from friday to sunday. We had videogames, manga, anime movies, sellers, etc... Nothing could go wrong, and I was enjoying it, while working with my companions.

Sunday, I began to feel sick, as in, dizzy, body burning, headache... I had to stop cleaning; 'Guys, I don't feel very well; I'll go home'. I grabbed my things, went to home, drop into the bed, and fall asleep. I didn't awake till the next day; I had 40º fever.

Then, my bestie called me. He seemed serious, when I asked what was wrong; 'Dude, they've all agreed on getting you out from the group'. At the beggining, I was reluctant to believe that, after so many happiness and else, but it certainly was true; They didn't want me anymore there, and I never got to understand why. I called our president, a damn fatass kid, but he refused to answer.

You could basically say I feel the same as you, and I don't send this to you on a PM, because you need courage to post something like that on the nets; And so, I set myself to the same level.

And look at me now; Doing 'reaction' threads, being unoriginal, happy and things, time will heal wounds. Of course it hurts now, but all I could tell you is to let it slide, and take some kind of lesson from it; I took mine.

I like you.

Lol just messing with ya. You're definitely not alone. Take a look at yourself, and despite how long it might take, you will realize your worth. Feelings are uncontrollable most of the time, and that's normal. This experience will only contribute to your strengths and your wisdom. Positive things are waiting, but only if you get your ass up and keep moving forward (:
/fortunecookieOUT

well this makes me sad more because as a person who usually makes the first move/confesses, i'd hate for someone to be unable to feel good about it. it sucks that you've been betrayed like that, but when it comes to the right person i'm sure you'll do fine. they'll be able to understand and accommodate your trust issues without feeling bad, and eventually you'll learn that they're worth giving yourself to.

Love means taking risks and getting hurt.

If you can't deal with the pain, don't play the game,

But yeah, how old are you.