About this girl
Hey guys, long time no see.
There's this girl that I've known for a couple of years already but recently we started chatting each other and seeing each other more often. We've gone out a couple of times now; Looking for some clothes for her and asking if they look good on her, gone eating, talking and just chilling together etc. Today we went out again to eat and she wanted to know what I think of certain clothes she wanted to get, got some ice cream and pretty much the usual. After leaving the town center we went to my home and watched a DVD of this musical that I was in, having one of the main roles. She got to know my family better and we had a lot of fun. I walked her to a local supermarket where her mother picked her up. Hugged her and said that it was really nice seeing her again and she replied the same to me, then left.
The thing is, I really like her a lot. We have many things in common and it's sometimes quite odd but funny how we, for example, once on Facebook I came online and saw that she was online too, I clicked on the chat with her, and exactly when I started typing she started typing too. We think very alike and we have pretty much similar hobbies and interests. She's honestly the most beautiful girl I know, she's very kind and caring, always when I look at her I just feel like smiling, and when she looks straight into my eyes and gives a little smile, there's like the biggest nest of butterflies in my stomach, when we just start laughing at something and can't stop, I feel so happy. When we chat on FB, was the subject anything, the conversation just keeps on going, just like IRL. We're both somewhat geeky (we both know pretty much all the memes, laugh at ragecomics together, but not geeky in like programming matter or being superknowledgeable with computer) but we are still very very outgoing and social, which leads to the only problem:
She has [b]a lot[/b] of male friends. Well, the only problem is that there's these two guys basically, one of them is a guy she dated a while ago but she kind of hinted me, or told me, that he changed. The other one actually just suddenly joined us at the town center, he basically just called her and asked where she was. She said that she was with me and then he just joined without asking us. Anyways, the real problem is that [b]I can't tell if she's interested in me, guy number 1, guy number 2, or none of us.[/b] I don't know what she thinks of guy#2, but anyways he's saying these pervy things to her and she sometimes looks at me and rolls her eyes, but sometimes on the other hand she might give a little laugh at his sayings. The guy always compliments about the stuff she's wearing like, every 10 seconds or so, and winks at her every other time he says that stuff. Guy#1, don't know too much about him but she was dating her (not in a relationship, just dating) for some time, but as I mentioned already, she has said that he can be a little weird sometimes and not how he used to be.
[b]Too lazy to read?[/b] There's this girl I really like but I have competition. How can I tell if she's into me and not one of the others? Read about the other guys above.
So. When should I tell her about my feelings and any tips on how? I've dated many many girls before but this time she just feels like the right one for me.
Also, what would you think - would she rather be Guy #1's, Guy #2's or my girlfriend..?
Please help me out fellow basilers,
Thanks for the inputs...
[b]Edit:[/b] Today there was a concert where two bands from my town, mine and a choir where she sings (That voice, my god it's amazing..), played. It was in a town near us, and we all went there on the same bus. We sat next to each other and just talked about regular stuff. At the gig, there's this song where she sings solo, and there's a part which would translate into "Your shaggy hair on my chest" (I have dreadlocks and we always laughed at that song line) and the moment she sang that she looked me straight in the eye. Breathtaking.
Later that day, when the bus was about to leave back to our hometown, she sent me a message and told me that she and her friend would stay here and go home by a train later that day. I asked her if my company would be nice and she replied "Sure " We went to get her a dress for her best friends graduation party and it really looked great on her. Anyways, we spent time at a mall and got some ice cream and you know, at some point we just couldn't stop laughing and she wiped a tear off my face (I tend to cry a bit when I'm laughing hard). When her friend couldn't finish her ice cream, we just looked at each other and grabbed the friends ice cream cup and would split it. Later we were walking to the train station and we saw these sweet motorcycles and I would be like "Pleaseeeeee " and she would just reply "Allrighty let's go!" and like grab my hand and walk me across the street.
We got to the station, grabbed our tickets and went to the train. We checked our place numbers and they were like in the same row, but the places went like (Her friend - She - isle - Me - Nobody) and she was still standing when me and her friend already sat down, and she would take a look at her ticket and was like "My place is there... but.. I'm gonna sit here" and jumped next to me. We had a lot of fun on the way back and she told me on at some point that I've already been proposed (Not the real thing, probably just like as to be her boyfriend? Don't know..) by 5 guys and told me who. I know them all but.. I'm not sure if I understood it correctly, but she turned down the 'proposals'?Anyways, there was also drunk people in the same cart (Or what they're called) and she saw this couple sitting across the isle a few rows away from us, and the woman had her hand in the mans crotch. When she pointed me that she was like "LOL look at those... going like this" and looked at me and started moving her hand towards my crotch and we both kind of cracked out laughing looking at each other. When the train came to our hometown, we hugged and said goodbyes.
It was such a great day, and every second I just think about her more and more.. Heh.
[b]Edit 2:[/b]
Things are going good with her, met her a few days ago again, and we just hanged out for like half an hour or so because her train to one of her favourite band's concert was leaving soon. It was a rainy day, so after hanging out at the town center I walked her to a nearby train station and gladly I had my umbrella with me. When we went outside, I just opened it and then placed it also over her head so she didn't get wet. She clearly liked it and thanked me for being a gentleman and smiled at me and maybe gave me a little wink, it was nice. So yeah, she met up with her friends who were also going to the concert, we said goodbye's and then I left home.
I've been texting and chatting with her quite a lot as usual, and yeah. She's also been telling me stuff that I believe she doesn't tell others, like, nothing too 'private', but just if she's feeling low or so and then I tend to cheer her up by suggesting if we for example, us both loving disney animation films, if we had a disney marathon with popcorn and stuff, and she'd reply my that it would be fun .
Also, it's nice that it's not always me who starts a convo, for example one schoolday a few days ago before summer break, she sent me a really long text message with a few of our new inside jokes and stuff and yeah. It's just great how easy it is to talk to her and how the convo's keep on going.
Now that she has a summer job, she's a little busy, but I'll try to meet up with her some day now. Trying to get to be together with her for a longer while and maybe tell her about my feelings towards her and hope for the best...
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Hi , what's your favorite colour ?
Not all comments have to be about the girl , now does it ?
[quote=Irony]Best advice for you is to never get jealous. xD[/quote]
Heh, I bet. I'm now just trying to concentrate on her and me rather than on the other guys' situations with her..
Anyways.
Things are going good with her, met her a few days ago again, and we just hanged out for like half an hour or so because her train to one of her favourite band's concert was leaving soon. It was a rainy day, so after hanging out at the town center I walked her to a nearby train station and gladly I had my umbrella with me. When we went outside, I just opened it and then placed it also over her head so she didn't get wet. She clearly liked it and thanked me for being a gentleman and smiled at me and maybe gave me a little wink, it was nice. So yeah, she met up with her friends who were also going to the concert, we said goodbye's and then I left home.
I've been texting and chatting with her quite a lot as usual, and yeah. She's also been telling me stuff that I believe she doesn't tell others, like, nothing too 'private', but just if she's feeling low or so and then I tend to cheer her up by suggesting if we for example, us both loving disney animation films, if we had a disney marathon with popcorn and stuff, and she'd reply my that it would be fun .
Also, it's nice that it's not always me who starts a convo, for example one schoolday a few days ago before summer break, she sent me a really long text message with a few of our new inside jokes and stuff and yeah. It's just great how easy it is to talk to her and how the convo's keep on going.
Now that she has a summer job, she's a little busy, but I'll try to meet up with her some day now. Trying to get to be together with her for a longer while and maybe tell her about my feelings towards her and hope for the best...
Thanks for the comments guys, it's been a pleasure reading them.
Best advice for you is to never get jealous. xD
[quote=Oscuuz]Heh thanks for the long reply And yeah, haha, hope she thinks that way. Gonna ask her when I get the chance. [/quote]
No prob sorry for the wall of text. I suck at keeping it short.
Good luck and update us/me how it went ^-^
[quote=Nashi]Nah that's silly. If someone else was able to get her - so be it, it wasn't meant to be then. But she supposedly turned the other guys down - maybe she's waiting for TS to take the step (why would she tell him that? To me it sounds like a hint for him... like... "there were guys, they wanted me, but I only want you, ASK ME OUT, YOU FOOL..."
I'd think that if she likes him back there's no way someone else could steal her away.
I know that when I had a crush on my now Fiance nothing and nobody could have stopped me or taken away from him heh! Caring guys that pay a lot of attention and such are really attractive. At least imo. She'd be a fool to reject a guy like that xD
Anyway, TS, good luck ^^ And if you feel nervous about asking her out just ask her directly what she thinks about you.
I mean think about it: A relationhip is only good if there's honesty, when you can openly talk about ANYTHING and never have secrets ( cause no secrets and honesty = trust and that's what love is built on. No trust, no love. Simple as that.)
Why don't you start with what's needed already?
Ask her if she has feelings for you and (in case you don't wanna risk her saying "no" out of nervosity) add that you like her quite a bunch. Don't be scared.
Be manly hehe!
But yeah ^^ I wish ya the best[/quote]
Heh thanks for the long reply And yeah, haha, hope she thinks that way. Gonna ask her when I get the chance.
[quote=CheesyVampire]Ah love..,I HATE IT! lol jk umm ask her to be your girlfriend before the other guys get her first [/quote]
Nah that's silly. If someone else was able to get her - so be it, it wasn't meant to be then. But she supposedly turned the other guys down - maybe she's waiting for TS to take the step (why would she tell him that? To me it sounds like a hint for him... like... "there were guys, they wanted me, but I only want you, ASK ME OUT, YOU FOOL..."
I'd think that if she likes him back there's no way someone else could steal her away.
I know that when I had a crush on my now Fiance nothing and nobody could have stopped me or taken away from him heh! Caring guys that pay a lot of attention and such are really attractive. At least imo. She'd be a fool to reject a guy like that xD
Anyway, TS, good luck ^^ And if you feel nervous about asking her out just ask her directly what she thinks about you.
I mean think about it: A relationhip is only good if there's honesty, when you can openly talk about ANYTHING and never have secrets ( cause no secrets and honesty = trust and that's what love is built on. No trust, no love. Simple as that.)
Why don't you start with what's needed already?
Ask her if she has feelings for you and (in case you don't wanna risk her saying "no" out of nervosity) add that you like her quite a bunch. Don't be scared.
Be manly hehe!
But yeah ^^ I wish ya the best
Thanks for the comments guys
Didn't tell / ask her yet, because didn't really get the chance.
Now basically just waiting to see her again and spend time with her and then tell her.
Wish me luck!
4-some?
lol
How did it go ?
@3bood4Knight Allrighty, just wanted to know.
@Thief9283 ...Very well said, thanks.
@kavalok I won't!
Thanks for the comments guys!
Don't run after your opponents, run after the prize. She seems interested in you, just ask her out.
@Oscuuz noooooooo , I was just wandering in a relationship thread giving random advice.
But seriously , I HAVe been in many relationships and as I have said before , I have many female friends that show me their perspective of the relationship . Don't get me wrong , I have guy friends but I was just trying to make a point.
@3bood4Knight Many many thanks for your tips once again. And thank you!
Oh btw, is this advice coming from a person in a relationship or not?
I guess I've done everything to help you.
Good luck on facing thy maiden
@3bood4Knight Haha yeah it's me, but I didn't cut it, I got dreadlocks and they're really great.
And hm, I get your point. And yeah, I'll definitely first go eat with her since food = makes you automatically happier. And yeah, I'll just try to work this out.
@Knight9777 Well, then I at least know that I tried. Just gonna hope for the best and expect the worst...
WAIT ! ur the guy who had long hair for around 10 years but decided to cut it ?
Your avatar looks similar to the guy who made the thread and showed us a picture . If u are him , PLEASE reply lolz
Anyways... Back to the girl ...
Are u even reading what i said ,there is no need for you to tell her during a sunset. It so corny in a slightly cute way but it really depends on her reaction. Another point is .. dont plan when ur gonna ask her since if u miss out 'cause of some unfortunate incident , your gonna be heart-broken. Let it come out naturally .
Girls don't like it when you say something .... whats the word im looking for ... "rehearesed" . I know this since I have many female friends that tell me this kind of stuff and I just learn. I'm not saying I'm a professional with women ( i dont want anyone to rage at me)
One last thing , don't catch her in a bad mood , make sure you've spent at least the last hour with her since she seems to be very comfortable around you . I guess that's all i have to say.
Tell me how it went if you decide to tell her
EDIT : I'm just being nosy but does this girl play Maplestory ?
Thanks for the comments guys! I'm gonna go for it pretty much as soon as possible. A walk at the local riverside at sunset perhaps? I don't know...
@GreasedCat Why thank you.
I think you need stop being a youngn and grab her
@Oscuuz Oscar... Never knew you actually had these kinds of probs F3 Tch tch tch... Just go with it mang c: She obviously likes you~ Or you can try to slip it in while going out with her :O And I love how you are describing her LOL It's so sweet xD Nice to see you being human-esque Always thought you were like a super human XD
Many many thank you's for the comments guys!
[quote=3bood4Knight]@oscuuz waiting for the right moment might not be such a good idea . I mean .. Who cares if u ask her if she has feelings for u while gazing at the sunset while it's raining and u two are cuddling under an umbrella or a car . When she goes out with another guy , u will regret " waiting for the right time " . Another point I'd like to mention is that if she didn't talk about her ex with you , it could mean that she doesn't want to lessen the chance that you may have feelings for her. Meaning that if I talked about my ex with my current gf , she WILL get pissed . So she MIGHT have feeling for you .
Now my question is ( Deja Vu ? ) : Do you have any other female friends that might intimidate her as much as her male friends intimidate you ?
As for someone who said that she isn't looking for any relationships , this might be true since she said she " wants to be just friends " with her ex which clearly states " NO RELATION SHIPS " but she will look another way for the TS 'cause of history and such .
Wait , 1 more question : how long has this girl dated her ex ?
LAST QUESTION : how old are the both of you ?[/quote]
True, true. Thanks for the tip.
Hm, well, I do have many female friends but I've avoided talking about other girls when I'm with her. But she knows my personality so well that I think that she probably understands that I have no that kind of feelings to the others.
Yeah and about the no relationships thing; I'll get to that in a moment.
If you mean guy #1, I'm not sure. Not for too long though. Maybe a month tops? She mentions his name sometimes, for example when she finally got this watch she has been wanting for a long long time, she saw this alarm clock and was like "Heh, I really need to get this to -Guy #1-, he's always late from school and stuff.." and rolled her eyes.
And she just turned 18 (I drew her a card with a comic of her with memes and some other inside joke things that we have and a poem out of my head... Call it going over the top, but she said to me when I apologized that I didn't have a gift for her because I was so busy making the card over a two week span, that it was the best gift she could ever get ) and I'm 17.
@Fusion09 Thanks for the tips. And yeah, I really really want her to be my girlfriend..
@IKantSpall Hm, I wouldn't say that she friend-zoned me, since she never said that she just wanted to be friends, and she sometimes says these bwady things to me or some other hints..
@PcPls123 I'll get to that in a moment.
@Reasonable
@CheesyVampire Working on that!
@metaghost4 Why yes, yes I can. I'll edit the thread starter in a minute!
Ah love..,I HATE IT! lol jk umm ask her to be your girlfriend before the other guys get her first
@oscuuz waiting for the right moment might not be such a good idea . I mean .. Who cares if u ask her if she has feelings for u while gazing at the sunset while it's raining and u two are cuddling under an umbrella or a car . When she goes out with another guy , u will regret " waiting for the right time " . Another point I'd like to mention is that if she didn't talk about her ex with you , it could mean that she doesn't want to lessen the chance that you may have feelings for her. Meaning that if I talked about my ex with my current gf , she WILL get pissed . So she MIGHT have feeling for you .
Now my question is ( Deja Vu ? ) : Do you have any other female friends that might intimidate her as much as her male friends intimidate you ?
As for someone who said that she isn't looking for any relationships , this might be true since she said she " wants to be just friends " with her ex which clearly states " NO RELATION SHIPS " but she will look another way for the TS 'cause of history and such .
Wait , 1 more question : how long has this girl dated her ex ?
LAST QUESTION : how old are the both of you ?
[quote=PcPls123]Maybe she doesn't even want to date anyone. How bout them apples.[/quote]
that might be. but youll never know if you dont ask.
the question might save you....or kill you
hmm tough one dude. shes into you, no doubt that.
the thing with girls like this one(pretty, smart, outgoing) is thatt a lot of guys will try for her. a lot of guys will be hitting on her, flirting, etc. and thats how it is, girls have lots of guy friends too, you included.
now, you want to stand out from the rest. you guys share the same intrests, thats good now go above and beyond. do the simple things like, asking her how was her day. how is her family. girls love to talk, and specially when you ask them. make them a favor and ask them. youll only get positive results. as you guys talk, always look at her in the eye. having a high self confidence is always attractive.
i imagine you want her as a girlfriend right? well, when you feel comfortable, you gotta ask what she feels about you. its corny , i know but thats the only way if she truely feels anything for you. worst thing that could happen is you would be friendzoned but i doubt it.
Thanks for the comments guys.
@3bood4Knight Hm, true. I'll see how stuff works out, gonna wait for the right moment. And no, she hasn't definately friend-zoned me. She talked to me about her and her ex, that they decided to be just friends after breaking up (Not guy 1 / 2), and we haven't talked about anything like that. So, nope, not friend-zoned.
@Dorks Thanks for the tips.
@tkirsch Hm, true. Thanks for the comment!
Ask her out. she is odviously in to you from what you said, otherwise just keep being nice to her. beucae if guy #2 is being perverted she wont like him and it can get akward around ex's
Look her straight in the eyes and tell her you like her. You may have competition, but that's no excuse to not try.
Edit: I am a girl with a ton of male friends and I can see that's a tad intimidating. My recent ex lost his temper with me because I was wishywashy and didn't want to get into a relationship even though I liked him back. That sounds bad, but it did shake me to see his point. Sometimes you need to take command. Not because you're a guy, but because you like her.
It seems like your her "favorite" or closest guy so I suggest you ask her out quick . The reason is that ur in 1st place right now , maybe guy 1 or guy 2 will do something to be a little closer to her , then it might me too late . OR she could have a date / relationship with someone other than guy 1 or 2 since u said she had many guy friends.
Now my question is , do u feel like she friend-zoned you ?
Just ask her out dude
[quote=ultrabeast]It's best if you don't think about how to do it. You'll know when you feel it.[/quote]
Allrighty, thanks.
[quote=upermelvin]Seems like she's in to u, if I were u I would ask her.[/quote]
Hm, gotta think about it.
@arianagrande Allrighty.
Thanks for the comments!
Seems like she's in to u, if I were u I would ask her.
[quote=Fyrus]You'll never know till you try?[/quote]
Haha true, true. I just don't want to rush things, just thinking about the way I should tell her, when, and where..
[quote=TheLolitaTrap]Oh basil.
The place people come to post tldr threads about poop nobody cares about. [/quote]
Shouldnt you go back to sleep?
You'll never know till you try?