I really, really, can't stand my parents.
I'm a senior in High School getting ready to apply the college/university of my dreams to be a computer software engineer. Ever since I went a free computer science class/camp a couple of summers ago I knew for sure that I want to do it. When I told them that I wanted to go to school for this, my Dad would not shut the hell up, up until now. They kept yelling at me saying "How come you won't go to a medical school like your cousins in Florida, and be a doctor, this is not what you want to do for the rest of your life!" My parents are ignorant immigrants that can't even speak English well, they didn't even finish grade school in their home country. I also freaking hate how they compare me to other peoples children. I am just soo frustrated because they never support me for anything I want to do, anything I say, or anything I love.
LF> Loving, understanding, supportive non-F.O.B parents. =[
EDIT: By the way, I'm not Asian.
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@Acousmatic: lucky you. both my parents cried and said I was going to go to jail. I told them it's decriminalized and my mom said "you don't know that"
actually i do lol
Your parents think being a doctor will make you super rich? I laugh at them.
If you were to be a doctor, you would have to get a LOT of loans, and you wouldn't even be able to pay it off for a long time!
Tell them to stuff it and consider this, because this is REALITY:
4 years college <- money, competitive (depending where you wanna go)
4 years medical school (i think that's 4 years) <- money, competitive
x years Residency <- money, competitive
3 years fellowship <- money, competitive
And I'm thinking since your parents are immigrants like mine, they don't make much.
My parents let me be who I want to be, which is awesome. x] I got led to the medical field all on my own, feels great.
[i]kill them.[/i]
I hate it when parents do this to their kids. Forcing one's son or daughter into a rigorous field of study that he or she does not even [i]care about[/i] is just terrible, period. Especially the medical fields. I really do fear the future, knowing that a good chunk of up and coming medical practitioners don't even care for their line of work, and probably just went into it because their parents told them to. Sure is great knowing that the person who may cut me up someday isn't even passionate about their work, and may even be too busy daydreaming about "what could have been" to do a decent job.
I'll be basically dragging myself there for all throughout college, 4 years for BS in Pre-med, 4 years medical school, 4+ additional years residency to earn MD. If I really wanted to do this I really wouldn't care for the length but, this is not for a person like me. My guidance counselor even said this. I'm gonna do what makes me happy and in the future they will hopefully understand and accept what I chose.
[quote=MrClean]Give me your home number. I can pretend to be someone from the school and I'll tell them the merits about being a computer software engineer.
Engineers are the most wanted majors currently, with more starting salary than any other undergrad major.[/quote]
Engineers are in high demand, but computer software engineers aren't.
I know a good 5 or 6 people that are computer software engineers, but are either out of a job, or working a menial job (such as a waiter, cashier, etc).
I'm not sure if the TS wants to specialize in a certain area, or what she wants to minor in (if she said, I didn't read that far), but anything videogame-related is a dead end.
All-in-all, you're better off finding a different career. You don't want to be wasting your hard earned money, not to mention time, on something that you will be getting paid below average yearly wage, or simply not working in that field at all.
That being said, you're a senior, your life with your parents is almost over. You will soon be moving out and fending off the world on your own.
Just look forward, and the present will fly by.
[quote=Acousmatic]Here's a conversation about school in my house.
"Have you decided what you want to do yet?"
"nah, just going to keep working until I really figure it out. I'm still taking that class in january though"
"well it can't conflict with moving"
"well I'm not sure when exactly i'm moving out"
"oh, well let us know"[/quote]
my parents would have like this but even 200x more slack until they found weed in my car.
now my mom tried to hold my hand through everything. screw off woman, I made honor roll without you.
Although I can understand why you posted on basil, that's not the answer. You need to sit your parents down and talk to them. Don't let them interrupt until what you have to say is clearly out there.
[quote=magixren]Becoming a doctor means not having a life until your like 40 D=[/quote]
Actually, during medical school, you still get paid and after that's over, you will be about 28-30 years old which is when you can start as a certified doctor
Tell your parents that they won't be there when you make all your decisions so you need to be able to make your own. Saying that, tell them that you're making the decision of following your dreams and picking what you want to be to make yourself happy. As parents, they should realize that they have to respect your decision.
[quote=kayfabe]not that I disagree with you, but becoming a doctor isn't the best choice for everyone. :F[/quote]
Yeah, it really isn't. But everyone always envisions success as being a well paid doctor, especially if you come from some 3rd world country, so maybe to her parents it's the best option for her.
They're unhappy because you WANT to be a software engineer? o_____o
I thought most parents would be happy with their kids making 6 figure salaries..... and not having to deal with lawsuits if you accidentally kill a patient.
As your parents, they should respect and support your decision. Going against it shows a lack of care to your hapiness. It seems to me your parents are choosing your future for you. Personally I would talk them through and tell them it's my decision and you should be happy with it. With my mistakes, I learn from them. Tell your parents that it's your goal and dream in life to become whatever you want and as parents, it is their responsibility to accept and support you on your journey.
It seems to me your parents dont have a clear interpretation of hopes and dreams..
Maybe you could just be a regular engineer and they won't bother you so much about it. I'm working on becoming a combat engineer in the Marines then probably demolition when I get out. They probably don't like it because of the word computer in front of engineering.
[quote=Beca]They just want the best for you. Your parents are also trying to live through you and get you to do things that they had dreams of. Don't worry, just keep on trucking and show that you are happy with your life and that they have raised you well.[/quote]
not that I disagree with you, but becoming a doctor isn't the best choice for everyone. :F
They just want the best for you. Your parents are also trying to live through you and get you to do things that they had dreams of. Don't worry, just keep on trucking and show that you are happy with your life and that they have raised you well.