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I actually hanged out with my friends today
Haven't felt so good in a while.

@Longboarding: I'm telling him based on experience a better way of meeting new people. It's his decision if he wants to take my advice or not, but school is definitely not a good place for socialize. You can meet new people quickly at school, everyone wants new friends, but you can't socialize [b]in[/b] school. If he opens his comfort zone then he would be able to meet a lot of different people. What's the reason he doesn't have many close friends? Most likely because he hasn't met enough people. Making new friends also has more benefits than socializing, it would expand your connections when you're looking for a career. You may get a job over someone else just because you have connections. It also has health benefits but I'm not going to get too much into that.

So what's my point? Keep your head up from this break up experience, move forward, meet new people and continue your newly better life.

@Longboarding: What do you accomplish in 5mins? When I hang out with friends, I'm usually with them for at least 4 hours, nothing less or I'm not hanging out. Now you're saying that 5mins is socializing? I barely have time to go to my locker AND the washroom in 5mins.

@Longboarding: Most people only talk to each other within the same grade or if they're in the same class. Most of the time the teachers don't let you socialize because you'll get "off topic" or something. Besides, the stuff you could do in the classroom with friends is pretty limited.

@evonexus: Yes I watch anime, it's just that I don't find anything worth watching these days.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xN09THSNo_k

Best song for getting over someone

[quote=Shroom934]When i watch tv i forget bout horrible stuff.
Or I stop eating which u shouldn't do.
i usually get depressed. Im not helping
but u could watch tv or like print a pic of her
and throw like darts at her. Thats what i see in movies LOL [/quote]
LOL, that's a bit too harsh. Thanks for the input though bahahaha!

@cyberdudelol: Haha I know, and I really appreciate that. You're a big help.

@SirMushington Pink swear? :O Sorry if I'm making this sound like a joke more than I should btw, I just like to help people because I don't want them to make the same mistakes I did. But seriously yeah, I'm here.

@PcPls123: I'm 16 and we dated for 7 months.
@cyberdudelol: Bahaha sure thing<3
@PhanniLynn: Yep, my parents told me the same thing. Guess it's just a part of growing up.

@SirMushington: it's okay it's your first relationship, the first time when people experience it. but it's fine to feel this way, it happens to everybody in a period in their life.

@SirMushington Alright, if you ever need anyone, even if I don't know you very well, always here. CALL ME<3

@PhanniLynn: I guess first-time relationships aren't as successful as I thought it was. I was gullible and naive for thinking that I can maybe spend most of my life with her, haha pretty silly.

@cyberdudelol: Thanks man, but you helped me plenty bro. It's great hearing your opinion and experience!

@Meritha: Yeah, but we did have our share of fights and arguments. I occasionally got upset at her out of jealousy and sometimes we had low self esteem, because she felt that she wasn't pretty enough for me even when I always emphasized about how beautiful she is and how proud I was to be with her. I had my times when I had low esteem as well, and she was probably bothered by that. I'm just assuming those are the reasons why she had to end it.

@SirMushington Seriously bro, if you need to PM me, go ahead, I know a decent amount about your situation & I'd b glad to help.

Let this be a first-time life lesson. Not saying it's a bad thing but if it ever happens again you would be able to cope with it more easily. It's like what they always say, you learn from your mistakes. I know how it feels to be depressed about someone who you really cared about, and not having them feel the same way. I've coped with the EXACT same thing.

From my experience, I did crush on this person for quite a long time actually. At first they actually liked me back but later told me off because they liked someone else. From there, I couldn't stop thinking about them. I would lie in bed everyday and think about it, it did NOT feel good to go through that everyday. Some days I would even break down in small tears. When summer finally came, I was able to forget about them because I never spoke to them which was good. School started and they coincidently were in my class AGAIN ugh then my feelings started to come back at me. It was a horrible feeling but at the same time it was so hard to control. From there, I crushed on them AGAIN for almost the whole school year. Like I said, they never really cared about my feelings because they liked someone else.

FINALLY, I was able to stop caring about them. However, this was when they started liking me again... They even asked me a couple times to go to the movies with them or to the park. Fortunately, I rejected them, but in a nice way. I told myself that there was no way I would put myself in that situation again after being rejected.

Sorry it was kind of a long story but I'm trying to say is that the second time it happened to me I was able to handle it easier because I already experienced it the first time. Don't feel too upset about. In fact, one of the things I tried to do to forget about them was to remind myself of all the horrible things they did to me. It made me feel better and it works even though it's a bad habit. Again, let this be a first-time life lesson.

You can do it!

Sad songs and hang out with close friends.

[quote=Meritha]I'm sorry for asking since you're actually trying to forget about her.
However, I'm curious. Did she not tell you the reasons for the breakup? Since you said it was out of nowhere.[/quote]
She didn't, she just said things don't last forever and it has to end. I told her that if there's anything wrong with me I can fix it, like how we always solved our problems. She didn't believe me though, she said people don't change and it's better for the both of us if we break up.

[quote=Segumisama]Go do stuff that keeps your mind off of her. Things that you love, things that you need your full attention for.[/quote] The thing is, the break-up hit me pretty dang hard. I feel demotivated to do a lot of things, even eating or sleeping.

Go do stuff that keeps your mind off of her. Things that you love, things that you need your full attention for.

[quote=zyronixx]Well you said you're not social and don't have many close friends other than her, why not just chat on basil?

I know it sounds weird but look at how many people are replying to your post and trying to help you, without even knowing you. Just stay on basil, make new posts and comment on others posts. Sounds weird but you could find some friends on basil that you could talk to who know your situation like @cyberdudelol or @meritha[/quote]

Yeah I am [b]really[/b] thankful to everyone trying to help, it's really helping me organize my mind right now. However I shouldn't continue spending my time on the computer too much anymore, like people said it makes me think about her even more. I'm trying to find people I can spend time with over this summer, it's just saddening how I can't even have a decent conversation with her anymore, and it's just not the same.

SO ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS @zyronixx TO MAKE IT BOLD FONTED? Wow the more you know, yea @SirMushington glad to help & be your friend. <3 No hom... actually yeah.

[quote=SirMushington]@cyberdudelol: Thanks man, that's good to hear. My flaw was the fact that I might have not given her enough space, because I occasionally asked her to hang out with me when she had the option to hang out with her friends. Hopefully we can at least be friends when she feels that I've given her enough time and space. However I'm the type who always puts too much hope in a situation, so I shouldn't think about that too much.[/quote]

First of all, idk how to like, quote just the name. My flaw with my relationship, I didn't give her NEARLY as much attention as a girl like her deserves, I was younger, naive, & didn't know too much about relationships as I should have. It's okay if you ask her to hang out a lot, just don't do it too much or it seems like your over-dependent on her & don't have many others to hang out with. Yeah, good idea, try to stick away from her just a bit, maybe next year when things are different, she will come to her senses. Dw, I always think about how we can still be together & never gave up hope that one day things can go back to how they used to be. If you've learned from your mistakes, it might turn out even better than before. Just remember DO NOT TAKE HER FOR GRANTED because you'll just wind up losing her again. Good luck bro & I'm glad I could help.

@cyberdudelol: Thanks man, that's good to hear. My flaw was the fact that I might have not given her enough space, because I occasionally asked her to hang out with me when she had the option to hang out with her friends. Hopefully we can at least be friends when she feels that I've given her enough time and space. However I'm the type who always puts too much hope in a situation, so I shouldn't think about that too much.

[quote=SirMushington]I considered that possibility too, and sorry if I sound ignorant but I always wonder why she would have to cope with losing me if she's the one who broke up with me. I know everyone has different reasons but it just came out of nowhere, I question if she even loved me at all. Either way it hurts pretty bad knowing that I can't even have her as a friend because it would probably hurt. Thanks for the input.[/quote]

Same here. We used to talk every day, now she barely even notices me. But seriously, DO NOT stress out about this. Give it time. When me & my girl broke up, we didn't talk for a whole year, so long I almost forgot what happened. Then, once we got back in school, we slowly, very slowly started talking to each other again. Even though I thought after so long we would never be again, it happens. She was also my first, time apart IS GOOD. You WILL get back to how you used to be. Trust.

[quote=Meritha]In my case, I was the one that suggested the notion of friendship, considering we were close friends prior to our relationship. It was confusing since he seemed fine speaking with me and inviting me to hang out with our group of friends at first. However, after I left, I barely exist to him anymore. I guess it eventually hit him that it was really over and perhaps even friendship was difficult to cope with.

My situation was very complicated and confusing. Since I was in the position of the one that made the decision of separating, he assumed that I was having a wonderful time without him since I was starting to spend more time with my friends (which is unusual for me since I'm not very social). However, that certainly wasn't the case when we were together for four years and we ended up living together. If anything, my time outside was to distract myself from the amount of confusion, denial, and guilt I felt for the whole situation. Which is why such an assumption was upsetting.

I don't personally know your ex-girlfriend but since I'm in a similar position, I feel I could shed some light on the other end. It's possible that she didn't "easily" get over the whole thing in an instant. Perhaps "her having fun" is to help HER cope with the situation as well. Which may possibly be why she suggested the possibility of you being friends at first without being able to go through with it. On another note, I could be entirely wrong and perhaps she did since I don't personally know her. However, it's a possibility. I was fortunate enough to recover from my past relationship much more "easily" because I had an amazing friend that was there for me. To someone observing my situation from the outside, it probably seems like I left the relationship without a scratch. However, I don't feel it's always as simple as whether a person had suddenly gotten over it overnight or not. That just doesn't happen. Regardless, it was better for the both of us. And I'm sure that perhaps it was better for you too.[/quote]

I considered that possibility too, and sorry if I sound ignorant but I always wonder why she would have to cope with losing me if she's the one who broke up with me. I know everyone has different reasons but it just came out of nowhere, I question if she even loved me at all. Either way it hurts pretty bad knowing that I can't even have her as a friend because it would probably hurt. Thanks for the input.

And to everyone, I know it's unhealthy to be depressed over the first relationship, but she was such a huge part of my life. I guess that was my flaw, loving her too much while she maybe didn't.

[quote=Criticism]It's his first relationship. Who exactly do you know who stayed with their first girlfriend/boyfriend? Getting depressed over your first relationship isn't a good thing.[/quote]

I didn't say anything about first relationship or anything. I was just refferring to your comment. Yeah I know, I agree it isn't healthy or the smart thing to do to get all depressed over your first relationship, but the first one is always going to be a struggle since it's the first time it has ever happened. It's like the first day of school, you don't know anything, but after a while you start to learn how to system works. As a first relationship, it's hard for him to realize what he should be focusing on & what he shouldn't be. Forgot whatever else I was going to say.

@SirMushington: listen to this song by Maroon 5.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcklKUeniU8

Time heals all.

[quote=Criticism]How old are you, and how long did you go out? From what I'm seeing, it sounds like a typical example of some highschool kid overreacting over a simple relationship.[/quote]

Last time I checked, love didn't have an age limit.

@Longboarding: Yeah I was actually thinking about jogging everyday, just to let everything out.

@Longboarding: Haha, nobody to go to the beach with. Yeah, I feel that I can connect with people at school more than strangers around my neighborhood.

^ Haha, I've been there T_________T
So yeah, I have some idea what it's like for you

[quote=Demonlord]@SirMushington: Online dating sites, good luck.[/quote]

Ever the opportunist, I like that.

@Kurokiru: Bahaha, I can't read the mood. Thanks for trying DemonLord. xD
@BBxAva: That quote is so depressing, but somewhat true. Thanks bro, I'm trying.

Oh and here's a really good quote:

[i]Why are you crying? She lost someone who really cared about her. You lost someone that didn't really care about you.[/i]

Head up, man <3

[quote=SirMushington]Sorry, it wasn't my intention to make anyone else feel bad.
I just want to know a way to get over someone.[/quote]

lol dwai he wasn't being serious, he was just pretending to be really pathetic to make u feel better in comparison, rofl

@Demonlord: Wtf are you stranger-zoning me?

[quote=Demonlord]Hey, at least know that [b]AT LEAST YOU HAD A GIRLFRIEND[/B]. DUDE I CAN'T EVEN GET A GIRL-FRIEND, as in a friend that is female. [b]GET OVER YOURSELF[/b].
I should be the one crying, not you.

Feel better?[/quote]

Sorry, it wasn't my intention to make anyone else feel bad.
I just want to know a way to get over someone.

@Criticism: Thanks, I'm actually talking to my friend about meeting up somewhere tomorrow. It really is hard to think that she's someone that I can just forget about though. She's the only girl that liked me, and I know it sounds dumb and unrealistic to say that she's perfect. Maybe it's just because she was my first.

[quote=Demonlord]Hey, at least know that [b]AT LEAST YOU HAD A GIRLFRIEND[/B]. DUDE I CAN'T EVEN GET A GIRL-FRIEND, as in a friend that is female. [b]GET OVER YOURSELF[/b].
I should be the one crying, not you.

Feel better?[/quote]

I'll be your girl-friend

[quote=MyUsernameOwns]Distract yourself with Maplestory.[/quote]

^^^ what I am doing right now.

[quote=Criticism]How old are you, and how long did you go out? From what I'm seeing, it sounds like a typical example of some highschool kid overreacting over a simple relationship.[/quote] I'm 16, we went out for 7 months. I know I probably am overreacting, but it still hurts either way knowing that I lost someone so close to me. Like I said earlier I never really had that much friends, and she was the one person that I really opened up to.

@Mush727: I actually got a fresh haircut right before the day we broke up haha...yeah I'm having a bit of trouble eating but if it means being able to go out with friends I'll try.

@MyUserNameOwns: Haha, MapleStory is too boring for me now. I can barely stay online for 5 minutes.

Know what, I found that going out with friends and buying some new clothes to make yourself fresh and sharp again really helps. Also, get a haircut, eat out with friends and realize that your world doesn't revolve around her.

[quote=Meritha]I've had my first breakup two months ago. Quite a similar situation though I would be on the "girlfriend breaking up" end.
I believe my ex had coped with it by avoiding contact with me and distracting himself with video games, culinary classes, and friends.
Fortunately, he was very social but you're saying you're not. As others have already said, the most that you can do is to try and go out of your way to seek out distractions (which is most helpful when you meet new people).[/quote] She told me that we can be "friends". However she avoided contact with me and didn't treat me like one so ever since I've been trying to figure out ways to just do something without thinking about her. I haven't talked to her since but it's so depressing knowing that she's having so much fun without me, how did you feel about your break-up? Did you regret it for a while, or did you feel good about breaking up with him? Sorry if it's too personal, I'm just curious about how it feels to be the one breaking up.

@ZombieOverlord: I know, I really want to but it makes me feel worse knowing that she's probably doing the same thing. I am angry though, at myself especially for letting it end like this.
@NoobCake: Sorry if I sound really rude but how was your first break up?

Find flaws in her and hate her. Fill yourself up with anger and hate whenever you think about her.

It's a terrible way, but it works.

[quote=lolomgbbq]let this be a lesson for your next girlfriend, Balance time between friends and gf so you dont end up with absolutely none in the end.

Just go out and do something, thats all i can give you right now.[/quote] Do you think feeling angry about it is the right thing?

[quote=SirMushington]@lolomgbbq: School is the only place I know where I can maybe socialize with others, and unfortunately it's summer break right now..
I'm also really demotivated, I feel that I can't do anything but just stay in my room. Sleeping is something I can't do anymore, because I'm afraid that I'm going to keep thinking about her.[/quote]

Stop being an antisocial guy and go outside and meet new people! Hang out with friends if that'll help you meet new people.
How is school your "socializing place?" School is the worst socializing place ever, so for you to classify it as that is pretty dam low.

The only way to improve yourself is if you realize your flaws and improve them. Your first break up is the hardest but don't let it stop you from living a better life from that experience.

[quote=SirMushington]@lolomgbbq: School is the only place I know where I can maybe socialize with others, and unfortunately it's summer break right now..
I'm also really demotivated, I feel that I can't do anything but just stay in my room. Sleeping is something I can't do anymore, because I'm afraid that I'm going to keep thinking about her.[/quote]

let this be a lesson for your next girlfriend, Balance time between friends and gf so you dont end up with absolutely none in the end.

Just go out and do something, thats all i can give you right now.

@lolomgbbq: School is the only place I know where I can maybe socialize with others, and unfortunately it's summer break right now..
I'm also really demotivated, I feel that I can't do anything but just stay in my room. Sleeping is something I can't do anymore, because I'm afraid that I'm going to keep thinking about her.

[quote=SirMushington]I forgot to mention she was the one person I spent the most time with, and I don't really have much friends. They're always busy with their own business.[/quote]

Make new friends, go out and meet people. Even if its someone you arent as close with just ask to hang out with them.