My friends ignoring me?
I know Basil is the worst place, but I honestly don't know where else to ask, so please help me out here.
So, I have this friend, and I've known him for a few month or so, but we just recently started talking. I also met him over Skype from another friend. We were like, best buddies, talking to each other every day, and then now, he suddenly stopped talking to me. And I'm like bgifnndgioregn WHYYYYYYYYY in my head. I'd ask my friend who's bffs with him if he thinks I'm annoying in a way or if he's trying to ignore me, but he'd be like "lol y u asking me dis."
I also started kind of ignoring him because he told me a lie, but I'm over that now. I just want our friendship back.
Honestly, I'd ask him if I'm annoying him, or something like that, but I don't know if I should. Or should I ask him something else? Maybe strike a conversation, I don't know. It just seems awkward saying something after a week of ignoring each other.
Summary for those lazy readers:
friend and i are kind of ignoring each other. i don't know if i should ask him what happened. i want our friendship back, but i don't know what to say or if i should i ask him why he's ignoring me. it's also been a week since we've stopped talking
This is a serious question and I'd like serious answers. I do know that this is Basil... but please try to help me out here? D:
FYI: I'm a girl, and i'll admit it, I have a teeny crush on him, but we'll never date.
now you basilers know that i'm a female.
18 Comments • Newest first
@032193sid:
Yeah, that could be it. Well, I better fix this before 6 months pass. ._. Thanks for sharing what happened to you! helps me a lot
@ExpiredMilk:
Well, I should have added this to my post too. I was talking to a friend, and then I accidentally typed to him instead of my friend, so I said "whoops wrong chat." He didn't even say anything after that. =/
so yeah, i dont think he's waiting...
[quote=Vinathi]Ah, I see. Are you happy being friends with her now?
@ExpiredMilk
Me: Why did (name) add me on Skype?
Him: You added her on facebook
Me: Yes, but I'm wondering how she found out my username.
That was like, 5 days ago (few days after we started ignoring). Both of us don't really type using capitals and stuff like that, so could that mean he's upset? maybe i use capitals and stuff first? who know. [/quote]
Yeah, I guess. I regret ignoring her just because my friends assumed things though. You should ask your friend why he is ignoring you. You might have to wait six months if you don't Most of the time it's some simple misunderstanding, and it can screw up a good friendship.
I'm just wondering if he's having the same issue as you, since you're both waiting on one another. That's possible and very common...
[quote=032193sid]The next time I actually talked to her was at a frat party six months later. She texted me the morning after how she missed our talks and now I shoot her an occasional text when something significant/relevant happens in my life. We're still friends. It's just not the same as it used to be though. I don't think it'll ever be... Especially since we're both seeing people now.[/quote]
Ah, I see. Are you happy being friends with her now?
@ExpiredMilk
Me: Why did (name) add me on Skype?
Him: You added her on facebook
Me: Yes, but I'm wondering how she found out my username.
That was like, 5 days ago (few days after we started ignoring). Both of us don't really type using capitals and stuff like that, so could that mean he's upset? maybe i used capitals and stuff first? who knows.
I'm just curious, what was your last conversation with him like..?
[quote=Vinathi]Ahhh, I see. I guess we're somewhat in the same boat.
Do you still talk to her now? I'm just wondering. or still ignoring?[/quote]
The next time I actually talked to her was at a frat party six months later. She texted me the morning after how she missed our talks and now I shoot her an occasional text when something significant/relevant happens in my life. We're still friends. It's just not the same as it used to be though. I don't think it'll ever be... Especially since we're both seeing people now.
[quote=hatinlife]Its so hard to read this and keep in mind you're a girl..[/quote]
How so? D:
[quote=032193sid]Wow this happened to me too... But I did the ignoring. I used to talk to this girl all the time. She was a really good friend and she was in the same academic program as me. During the first week of college I had a huge crush on her, but I got over it after a couple days. The problem was, we still texted each other and grew to become good friends. The problem was, I told my group of friends that I liked said girl when I had a crush on her and everyone expected us to get together. We didn't. I didn't want to date someone I would see in almost every class I took for the next three years. So what did I do to make it clear that I wasn't interested? I started ignoring her.
The reason your friend is ignoring you may be because he feels like he's being forced into a relationship...[/quote]
Ahhh, I see. I guess we're somewhat in the same boat.
Do you still talk to her now? I'm just wondering. or still ignoring?
@BigRedMeat:
Gotcha, i'll say that, and thanks for the help!
hopefully i'll get some answers tomorrow ;_;
Wow this happened to me too... But I did the ignoring. I used to talk to this girl all the time. She was a really good friend and she was in the same academic program as me. During the first week of college I had a huge crush on her, but I got over it after a couple days. The problem was, we still texted each other and grew to become good friends. The problem was, I told my group of friends that I liked said girl when I had a crush on her and everyone expected us to get together. We didn't. I didn't want to date someone I would see in almost every class I took for the next three years. So what did I do to make it clear that I wasn't interested? I started ignoring her.
The reason your friend is ignoring you may be because he feels like he's being forced into a relationship...
Since he logged off, I'll probably update (if this thread still lives) or if you guys are personally wondering, ask me and i'll pm you the results tomorrow. I'd rather talk to him when he's on. I also still don't know what to say.
Does, "hey, it's been a while, what's up?" work? D: I don't want to ask him if he's straight up ignoring me right off the bat.
also, thanks for the help guys! now, i have a lot more courage to talk to him
He saw this thread, that's why he logged off!
[quote=wsly]cmon do it.
update quickly! [/quote]
i'm so scared looool.
edit: HE LOGGED OFF JUST NOW TOO D:<
DANNGIIITTTT
cmon do it.
update quickly!
@BigRedMeat:
dunno if trying to be funny or not, but w/e.
Yeah, I have a small crush on him. but hell, we'll never date because
1) we've never met (but i told him that i might go to the area where he lives next year during the summer and we made some plans)
2) he lives in canada and i'm in the states
edit: and he's a year older than me. don't think he'll date someone younger than him, and i'm not gonna date until like, college.
Thanks for the help to those who tried.
I'll go ask him right now, and I'll update what he said. Wish me luck!
edit: crud, my heart's pounding way too much too.
Ya know wut u should do?
Go talk to him. Face to face.
Ask him, "Why are you ignoring me all of a sudden?
We're friends right? Then, tell me why you're ignoring me.
IF you cant go face to face, do it during skype, or gmail.
DO wut i told u, and tell me wut happens.
Eat your friends
[quote=TeenageCrime]Wait are you a guy and do you have a gay crush on this guy?
Maybe his ignoring you because you are queer?[/quote]
Now I hate having a man/girl char lool.
I'm actually a girl.