My problems with girls
As my sophomore year of college life begins, I said to myself in front of the mirror: "This year is gonna be different."
Right now, I don't have much problem getting a girl's number, but the problem is, they never really text or call me back.
Today, I met this girl in this class I just got switched to and she invited me to her dormitory in which she lives with 2 good looking girls; we were doing homework and they were Facebooking and multitasking, and I constantly tried to come up things to make them laugh. The question is, what should I do next or, how could I escalate that to the next level? I'm not trying to simply get laid or desperately looking for a girlfriend, but simply just want someone to hang out with, without coming off as being needy.
I'll appreciate your help.
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[quote=wilber]What do you mean exactly trying to get in that?
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Wow.
[quote=gangar23]She invited you to her dorm. Instead of trying to make her laugh, try to get in that.
Seriously, she must like you for you. Just keep doing what your doing. Was it awkward or something when you were there?[/quote]
What do you mean exactly trying to get in that?
And it wasn't really awkward, like I can jump into their convo and they can relate to me and all that.
I really appreciate you guys' words of wisdom and I'll see what I can do to make the best out of it.
Have a wonderful evening.
@Wilbur: Yeah. If you want it to progress faster its better to be direct and foward than subtle. its kind of double or nothing, but its all up to you and it depends on the girl.
[quote=LiliKoby]This. Honestly being "friendzoned" is not as bad as you think, and may even be a good thing if your not just trying to get laid.[/quote]
yeah man, like I won't get pissed off or anything, like I just want to have someone to hang out with every once in awhile, not being needy though, cuz I've been doing stuff myself for a long time and I kinda got used to it already. Just want that friendship that would add more colors into my life.
[quote=alanwang6]Lol I'm a Asian starting my sophomore year at college. Too many guys are afraid of getting friend zoned but honestly you really need to become her good friend and climb that ladder all the way up to "I'm in love with my best friend", that's when you hit the jackpot. But there's also the chance she has no interest in you and needs a friend so there is that risk of climbing the friend zone ladder.
Jus be aware that the more effort you put in, the more she should notice. If she doesn't[/quote]
This. Honestly being "friendzoned" is not as bad as you think, and may even be a good thing if your not just trying to get laid.
[quote=Ecliptic]2 rules.
1. Make your intentions clear.
2. Always be the one to escalate the relationship.[/quote]
For 1, i often go for the direct game, but it seemed like I have off the player's vibe, which could probably be the reason why I didn't get many text or phone calls back.
2 rules.
1. Make your intentions clear.
2. Always be the one to escalate the relationship.
[quote=wilber]I wouldn't either, from another person's perspective, but I think what I'm gonna do is to work with her in class and get to know her more before proceeding to the next stage.[/quote]
Sorry, the next stage is maybe not what you think, but you actually just told me the answer.
Nevertheless, I admit, I'm pretty inexperienced, otherwise I wouldn't be asking basil.
Work out and get in shape if you aren't all ready. I recommend a buzz cut with a line up as I know a lot of basilers like to grow their hair out like a bunch of weirdos. Next just get the girls number talk to her about herself, keep her interested make plans etc. If the girl doesn't wanna keep following through with replies or hanging out then thats it. Just drop it and stop talking to her she is not interested and most likely never will be.
So anyways if you are ever chilling alone just go for the kiss. Its pretty simple then things usually escalate from there depending on the girl.
What the hell are you talking about ts? What exactly is the next stage? That is how I know you are super inexperienced.
[quote=Irony]I wouldn't date this girl based on this alone[/quote]
I wouldn't either, from another person's perspective, but I think what I'm gonna do is to work with her in class and get to know her more before proceeding to the next stage.
[quote=wilber]I already got one in mind, and she's very outgoing and spontaneous, and [b]she tells me it's impressive to see Asian guy who is outgoing and sociable[/b], and that's how I got invited to their house. But yeah definitely for the secret arrangement, thanks a lot![/quote]
I wouldn't date this girl based on this alone
@wilber: She's the one who invited you? That's a good sign
[quote=airforce1]Two words. Four way!
But srsly. Continue being friendly and hang out with them frequently. Pick the one you like (yes you have to pick one) and try to arrange some activity for the two of you alone.[/quote]
I already got one in mind, and she's very outgoing and spontaneous, and she tells me it's impressive to see Asian guy who is outgoing and sociable, and that's how I got invited to their house. But yeah definitely for the secret arrangement, thanks a lot!
Then be the one to initiate a convo?
Two words. Four way!
But srsly. Continue being friendly and hang out with them frequently. Pick the one you like (yes you have to pick one) and try to arrange some activity for the two of you alone.
your first problem is being fake and trying to hard to impress them.
How about being yourself?
Wish yourself good luck.
tell them how much NX you have
chicks dig NX.
Oh okay some more details would be helpful