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Actually, it's nice to ask questions. But try to make it so youre "dancing" where you're asking questions she answers and then maybe she asks a question.

Don't try to kiss her. That looks weird on a first date.

@DrHye: Honey, that shouldn't be stopping you. Lot's of people have sweaty hands when you shake their hand...

[quote=fradddd]DrHye: don't know what that is tell me[/quote]

Excessive perspiration in particular areas, mine being hands, underarms and feet. So in most cases, hand contact (shaking hands, holding hands, high fives) are pretty uncomfortable, which leaves me with the conclusion that I'd be even less comfortable in a relationship

@DrHye: don't know what that is tell me

@ox0Shad0w0xo: The Music Man! <3
Glad to know someone on Basil is cultured.

[quote=DrHye]@fradddd: My hyperhidrosis is basically the only reason why I'm not dating[/quote]

whats up bro

@fradddd: My hyperhidrosis is basically the only reason why I'm not dating

sit on her lap and stare into her eyes while simultaneously caressing her face softly and touching her lips with your fingertips. she'll be surprised. or beat you up.

[quote=CouponGoddess]A girl who kisses on the first date.. uhh o.o[/quote]

Yeah you don't want one of those, you want a [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jj622vbrrU]Shipoopi[/url]

@wilber I'd just talk to her like a new friend you just made and not try to be overly romantic about it. I mean you're just having lunch at school so trying to do things to foster a physical connection with an atmosphere like that may backfire on you. She may not see it as a date and end up being put off if you try to sit close to her or hold her hand. It's one thing to seem like a confident risk taker and another thing to seem desperate or clingy (physically trying to stay really close to her). And trust me you don't want to come off as the latter.

I'd say @Cincinna gave good advice about relating things she says to something you like or have done. Keep the conversation fluid and fun.

@DrHye seriously though I'm surprised that you haven't dated before... o.o

sorta OT: I don't understand dating someone who you haven't known for a while...

you said if she rejects you then at least you're willing to take chances, or maybe she will think you are too open about that stuff and you've had lots of gf before

Ask her if she plays MS. If she doesn't, she will likely view you as a nerd and your chances will be diminished.

is that seriously even a date? did you guys specify it was a date? ? ? people ask people out to lunch all the time without it being remotely close to being a date. Imagine how awkward it will be if she doesn't know it's a date.

[quote=pewpewiwin]Kiss her than go bang her if she doesnt kiss you or bang ya go put some crazy stuff in her drink and take advantage of her[/quote]

fine advice from a fine class man

[quote=pewpewiwin]Kiss her than go bang her if she doesnt kiss you or bang ya go put some crazy stuff in her drink and take advantage of her[/quote]

yes i do that too high five

Kiss her than go bang her if she doesnt kiss you or bang ya go put some crazy stuff in her drink and take advantage of her

just talk as you would normally talk to a friend you just met.
And well... read the atmosphere carefully.
Kisses won't happen. Unless she's a sl--....

Also, she may not actually consider this a romantic date. She may be just scoping you out. She probably is.

@wilber: I have no clue what that second sentence you typed means, but this worked for me xD I'm a music guy, so I like music girls, and talking about taking them to a concert of either their favourite artist or an artist you both like is always a good idea. "Oh, you like ___ too? Ahh we should go to a concert sometime! Their tour is actually coming through soon I heard~" It's worked so well, especially for bands that have a nice audience (THE COUNTING CROWS) is a good idea <3

[quote=wilber]Well, the idea I'm trying to emphasize here is touching is very important for being successful in dating. Perhaps not kissing on the first date, but holding hands, giving hugs, or just pulling her closer to me will certainly create a bond between us and a bubble that only two of us exist and no one else matters cause they are outside of the bubble.

Hope it makes any sense.[/quote]

Yeah but don't come off as creepy. </3 o.o
I mean you might have 'good' intentions but if you just... nevermind just good luck.

[quote=CouponGoddess]A girl who kisses on the first date.. uhh o.o[/quote]

Well, the idea I'm trying to emphasize here is touching is very important for being successful in dating. Perhaps not kissing on the first date, but holding hands, giving hugs, or just pulling her closer to me will certainly create a bond between us and a bubble that only two of us exist and no one else matters cause they are outside of the bubble.

Hope it makes any sense.

[quote=CouponGoddess]A girl who kisses on the first date.. uhh o.o[/quote]

alcohol np

[quote=fun2killu]it seems like he has everything planned out.[/quote]

And he's obviously looking for feedback. I know he didn't actually use the word "feedback," but be honest, you know why he posted this. Please don't quote me again if you plan on acting this oblivious any longer.

A girl who kisses on the first date.. uhh o.o

[quote=Cincinna]Ask her about her growing up, what her classes are... and then tell her yours and how it relates to your life. If you find out she likes something, relate it to something you've done (if she says she loves a band or a sport, and you do too, tell her about a game you played or a concert you went to) and other stuff like that [/quote]

Very nice. Trying to connect/relate is a good strategy to create love and the more we relate the better chance we match, hopefully. And you also mentioned the "qualify" aspect which is also very good in reinforcing rapport, if I'm right.

@DrHye: it seems like he has everything planned out.

Ask her about her growing up, what her classes are... and then tell her yours and how it relates to your life. If you find out she likes something, relate it to something you've done (if she says she loves a band or a sport, and you do too, tell her about a game you played or a concert you went to) and other stuff like that

uh dont kiss her ok you're only getting to know her.

If you don't get arrested, you'll be fine.

[quote=fun2killu]no, there are no questions. i don't see any.[/quote]

I literally copied and pasted his question and request for recommendation. If you still don't understand, I can't help you.

[quote=DrHye]@fun2killu:

"So, what should I do on the first date?"
"I'm just a beginner, as you know, so I'm all ears to your hearty recommendations."

Why yes, if you read it, I do believe there are![/quote]

no, there are no questions. i don't see any.

@fun2killu:

"So, what should I do on the first date?"
"I'm just a beginner, as you know, so I'm all ears to your hearty recommendations."

Why yes, if you read it, I do believe there are!

OT: I have no actual dating experience, so I can't really help too much. Good call on avoiding the interview-type situation. If a question (or questions) can expand to a two-way talk, you'll be good to go.

AND the post below is right. You're getting to know each other over lunch in a school caf. Doesn't seem like a situation that would lead up to a kiss.

is there a question in this?