I met this girl on Halloween night
[b]WARNING! This may bore some of you, or may fascinate others, do decide now whether to read it through and/or enjoy my storytelling, or leave as I don't want to waste any of your valuable time. Time=money, as they said.[/b]
2 weeks ago, on Thursday, October 31, the Halloween night, I was taking my college school bus to a Halloween party that I was invited to, and on the bus I met this girl, whom, based on my pre-judgment of her body language, she seems to be the quiet type of girl. I stroke up a conversation with her and asked for the direction to make sure I'm on the right bus. As we got off, just right before we went our separate ways, we exchanged numbers and she seemed attracted to me. 3 days later, on Sunday night, Nov. 3, the day before my 20th birthday, I called her and I was being very spontaneous and casual, cracked a few jokes and made her laugh, and asked what her schedule is like and if she wants to hang out sometimes, and she suggested on the following Thursday, Nov. 7, at 4 PM.
So 3 days later, on Wednesday night, Nov 6, I texted her a message that I'm regretting now, the exact line is "Are we still down for tomorrow at 1600?" Now, as you can see, here are two problems in this text. 1. "Are we still down", it would have been better if I replaced "we" with "you", because the word "down' could be to be on agreement with someone, or it could be easily misinterpreted, in which I believe it's the case. Furthermore, not a lot of people understand what "1600" means since it's military time, so I guess being smartass didn't help me at all.
With no response from the text, I texted her again on the following day at 3:30 PM to make sure if she still wants to meet, and left a voicemail 1 hour later letting her know that if she can't make it, that's okay, since I got a test that night at 9:30 PM, as I thought initially I wanted to take her out for dinner then go watch movies.
So there is no response ever since, and the thing is tomorrow, on Veteran's day, it's her birthday, so I'm thinking about sending her a witty text that includes my apology for unclear text and hopefully she sees it as "I'm not a needy person but I'm interested to hang out with you, would you give me a second chance", here is what I'm gonna send:
"My bloody apology for the unclear text that I sent you last Wednesday night. If you don't remember the text, this is the exact line "Are we still down tomorrow at 1600?"
When I said "down", which is a new word that I just learned from my friends, I meant if you are still on agreement with me last Thursday to meet up at 4 o'clock, and I'm such a smartass that I thought you may understand the military time 1600 = 4PM, so my bad for the confusion. On the lighter note, happy birthday/happy veteran's day!"
Any questions, comments, suggestions, concerns will be greatly appreciated.
[b]UPDATES[/b]
So on the following day, I text her happy birthday while quoting one basiler "Act surprised when the midgets pop out of the cake I sent you", and I get no response whatsoever. So I'm gonna forget her for a while and text her like 3 weeks later and see what's up.
Meanwhile, I got 3 other girl's numbers on the weekend and today one of the girls would go out with me next Wednesday, Nov. 20, and I'm planning to take her out to dinner and watch movie together afterwards, and depends on how well everything goes, I would decide whether to make a move or not, and go from there. Any suggestions will be once again appreciated.
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oh noooo, it's the try-hard alpha
[quote=Momo123]Sooo... OP. What happened? Update us @wilber[/quote]
I sent her happy birthday text as suggested by one basiler here "Act surprised when the midgets pop out the cake I sent you" and no response, so I'm gonna forget her for a while and text her like 3 weeks later and see what's up.
Meanwhile, got 3 other girls' numbers and one of them would go out with me next Wednesday. I'm thinking about taking her out for dinner then watch movies and depends on how well it goes I would decide whether to make move or not, any suggestions?
Sooo... OP. What happened? Update us @wilber
this thread is hilarious
You absolutely shouldn't give her such a lengthy apology. It will make you look like a socially awkward needy/clingy weirdo. Also, by apologizing like that you basically let her know you assume she doesn't know what it means, possibly giving her the feeling you think she's dumb or something.
What if she did understand your text but didn't wanna deal with you? Or what if her phone was taken away from her by her parents or something or she lost/broke it so she simply couldn't answer?
Just keep it short and wish her a happy birthday. That's about it. Don't explain, don't apologize. If she decides to not respond at all even then then you know what's up and you can stop trying to get in contact with her at all.
If she wouldn't have understood your text she could have asked. She didn't. She didn't respond. Doesn't that basically tell you she does NOT want to talk to you? (or she simply couldn't)
It's not hard to ask what it means .. it's not like responding to a text is a big deal.
Chill and just send her a happy birthday text with nothing else
This is so absurd that you are probably trolling
@wilber: No offense but I don't find that joke funny hopefully she shares your sense of humour.
@Momo123: You can turn that feature off on the iPhone so it doesn't send a read receipt so it's easier to ignore people I agree @wilber should post what happens tomorrow.
Like many have said before, you're overdoing it. Most people like others that get to the point.
[quote=wilber]While the first part is fine, I don't think the second part would be appropriate since I haven't build much of attraction or rapport with her yet to make her think I'm joking it in a very playful way.[/quote]
If you say the second part the 50% chance of hearing a response from her will turn to 2%.
[quote=wilber]OKay, I think this is what I'm gonna do tomorrow:
Call her, if she doesn't pickup, text her with midget joke:
"Act surprised when the midget pops out of the cake I sent you."
If no response, just leave it and hit her up a week later.
If still no response, just text her once in a while until she tells me to not text her anymore.
How about that?[/quote]
since your not going to follow any good advice on this thread, post back tomorrow on what happens on this thread. She will most likely not pick up her phone or text you back. The most, if anything, is a thank you for the happy birthday if you send her that. Also, if you have an iphone, it'll tell you when the message has been seen so it'll be pretty obvious she is ignoring you.
[quote=crazybass]Yes, but consider my suggestion as well please.[/quote]
While the first part is fine, I don't think the second part would be appropriate since I haven't build much of attraction or rapport with her yet to make her think I'm joking it in a very playful way.
She thinks you're weird. She tries her best to ignore you I think.
[quote=wilber]OKay, I think this is what I'm gonna do tomorrow:
Call her, if she doesn't pickup, text her with midget joke:
"Act surprised when the midget pops out of the cake I sent you."
If no response, just leave it and hit her up a week later.
If still no response, just text her once in a while until she tells me to not text her anymore.
How about that?[/quote]
Yes, but consider my suggestion as well please.
OKay, I think this is what I'm gonna do tomorrow:
Call her, if she doesn't pickup, text her with midget joke:
"Act surprised when the midget pops out of the cake I sent you."
If no response, just leave it and hit her up a week later.
If still no response, just text her once in a while until she tells me to not text her anymore.
How about that?
Just text her, "Hey baby qurl, sorry I didn't hear from you on wednsday I hope nothing is wrong and you are Ok. Anyways, Baby qurl, I believe it is your birthday, so happy birthday baby qurl and suck my d."
The way you're approaching this is just, wow.. Not to come off harsh or anything, but you sound really needy and weird.
"My bloody apology for the unclear text that I sent you last Wednesday night." - Why?
If you don't remember the text, this is the exact line "Are we still down tomorrow at 1600?" - Why?
When I said "down", which is a new word that I just learned from my friends, I meant if you are still on agreement with me last Thursday to meet up at 4 o'clock, and I'm such a smartass that I thought you may understand the military time 1600 = 4PM, so my bad for the confusion. On the lighter note, happy birthday/happy veteran's day!"
-For the love of god don't do this either
As I was saying earlier, you're going way over your head here.
What the heck o.o you're over-thinking and over-analyzing WAY too much. There's nothing wrong with your original text or "1600".. if she didn't reply/didn't meet you then she's not interested! Just leave her alone.
[quote=wilber]Okay, instead of being apologetic, how bout i say "Act surprised when the midget pops out of the cake I sent you." to bring back some of the playfulness that I had with her on the initial phone call last Sunday night.[/quote]
aha i guess that works out but one word of advice...try not to be clingy
i have dealt with clingy morons and they're just a dread to talk to so maintain maturity but at the same time, don't give up hope!
hope all works out well for ya!
cheers (:
[quote=Caricature]honestly, just go for the happy birthday because you don't really know her on a personal level and whether she chooses to reply is all on her but at least you can say that you sent just that
also...mentioning that you're foreign would have been nice cause my impression was that you were a try-hard, five star turd[/quote]
Okay, instead of being apologetic, how bout i say "Act surprised when the midget pops out of the cake I sent you." to bring back some of the playfulness that I had with her on the initial phone call last Sunday night.
[quote=wilber]The thing is she probably knows I'm foreign, even though I don't have that much of Asian accent since I came to the States for 6 years.[/quote]
honestly, just go for the happy birthday because you don't really know her on a personal level and whether she chooses to reply is all on her but at least you can say that you sent just that
also...mentioning that you're foreign would have been nice cause my impression was that you were a try-hard, five star turd
Yea don't do that. I think you're just overthinking it a ton. It feels like you did something stupid or wrong when you actually did nothing at all strange. Maybe wait a bit, but definitely don't say anything like that.
[quote=Caricature]"which is a new word i learned from my friends"...now which nincompoop is going to believe that
just say happy birthday and leave it at that[/quote]
The thing is she probably knows I'm foreign, even though I don't have that much of Asian accent since I came to the States for 6 years.
no don't text that
"which is a new word i learned from my friends"...now which nincompoop is going to believe that
just say happy birthday and leave it at that
For the love of god, don't send that text. It'll make you sound like a huge beta. Just move on to the next girl. If you text a girl for a date and she doesn't respond, that means it's over. If you send her another text and no response, you got no chance. I pretty much know from experience since this happened twice for me.
Overthinking at it's finest.
sounds good to me