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I remember meeting this new girl at work for the first time; my gosh, she was so <3. After making small talk a couple of times, I asked for her number so we can hang sometimes. I got her number wrong so she ended up taking my phone from my hand and entering it for me. A week later, I asked her out for some night coffee after work. By golly, she accepted. So I picked her up from her place and went to Starbucks. After getting our drinks, there's no room to sit so we ended up back in my car and just chat while I drove around for no reason.

[quote=SugarPapi]@lZaktsul: wow u r so hot lmao call me[/quote]

I can't... *coner*

[quote=lZaktsul]@Wanton, will u go out with me?
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@lZaktsul: wow u r so hot lmao call me

[quote=SugarPapi]it a little creepy when someone asks that and it is obvious he wants to date you
don't ask lol bc personally i would say no, unless he is hot lol shallow but tru[/quote]

@Wanton, will u go out with me?
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dont ask her that, just be friends with her at first to see if shes dating anyone then if shes not make a move

@xBeta Yeah. Never ask such a question. It doesn't work. (If you're a complete stranger, it doesn't work)

one would assume that if the girl has a significant other she would be more inclined to say no.

If you ask someone out, then chances are you'll find out if they're single or not.

If asking her out isn't your initial intention, then you simply do not invite her for coffee alone. Because your intention would be very obvious. If you were to invite her for coffee, then you might as well ask her out.

Friendship is important. I would like to get to know more about her before starting the relationship. I would probably invite her friends as well.

um lol don't do that

I usually befriend girls way before I even plan on asking them out, so I already know if they're single.

Yea the coffee thing. I never go to coffee shops. I've been to a starbucks like 2 two times in my life. The sizes confuse. I have a 30$ starbucks gift card just laying there for the opportunity.

It doesn't matter if a guy was attractive or not, if he asked me whether I was seeing someone or whether or not I was single, that's usually a sign that he just wants to hook-up and there's nothing more. I'd like to have depth and meaning if I were to get in a relationship with someone if you ask me. People are too quick to just say yes if they find that person attractive. Like baby, can't I get to know you more simply as friends? I hate the whole "But you can get to know me while I date you." [b]Boy bye.[/b]

If they ask me for my status, I'd be like eh... I'd know they'd be interested in me, but I like to shoo people away unless we click already.

Chances are going to coffee won't even be seen as a date by the other person. I've been asked to get coffee, lunch, etc and thought nothing of it. I've actually been to nice places with friends 1 on 1 while being in a relationship (and my friends in one too). Sometimes it's just seen as catching up with someone you haven't seen, or for a few times for me just platonic best friends that are opposite genders hanging out for a night.

You shouldn't ask if someone is in taken or not. Then it'll be seen as you want to date the person and not really get to know the person. This is usually okay if you're actually asking someone on a date, but coffee is beating around the bush a little. Many people, me included, are looking for something serious too (this holds true as we all get older =( sadly) so they would want to be friends with someone before committing. I became best friends with someone before getting together. I've never had to ask if someone was taken. You would know if you knew the person better, which is what some people may want, and you can always facebook stalk someone to see if they're with a guy often or something.

i'm more inclined to say yes to coffee than an initial inquiry of my relationship status. if there's chemistry and i'm showing interest while we get to know each other a little better over coffee, then feel free to ask during our convo. you could say something simple like, "i'd like to do this again some time." if i respond with an excuse to avoid future interactions with you, then i'm not interested. keep it casual, and don't seem too desperate.

Idk if it's just me, but I found it a little weird that you would ask someone out you don't even know well enough to know if they are in a relationship in the first place. Get to know the person first, so you don't put yourself in a really weird situation. At that point, you will be able to see if there is a mutual interest. That is the time when it's most natural to ask a girl if she wants to meet up for coffee / study / etc.

I don't ask if they're single. Going out for a coffee isn't really a date, it could just be two people having coffee together...like if I ask a guy if he wants to get lunch after class it isn't a date, just two guys hanging out. So asking a girl to lunch or a coffee after class or something is just two people having lunch or a coffee. Now, if I like her I'll drop some hints that I'm interested, likewise I'll try to notice if she's dropping some hints for me to pick up on.

I ask the ladies if they're single all the time. But it's simply out of curiosity 99% of the time, I don't care one way or the other. I'm just a curious person, so plz don't hate me

Even if I found the guy attractive, I'd be all like, "Woah, that was out of nowhere..." if they asked if I was single or not... o.o
Whether they were attractive or not, it would still be kinda creepy. I'd be all like, bruh, you don't even know me yet wth.

I usually take the same approach whether it's to be study partners for a class or just getting starbucks after class, it's as friends or professionals
if there's some chemistry, and we click/have same interests and I see that she's interested in me, I'll ask her if she wants to do it again sometime and then we go from there
it's a pretty safe way and you never pressure the girl into thinking you're only talking to her because you want to date her and I'm sure that turns a lot of girls off (idk, just my opinon)

@Collee (5 days later) "You're so nice, I wish I could meet a guy like you."

If they ask me if I'm single/seeing somebody/have a boyfriend I'm more likely to say no. I want to date someone who is a friend as well as a boyfriend. It makes me feel like they don't want to get to know me first, like the just want to start a romantic relationship immediately.

@Dragon11:
snort cocaine

@SoulBlade Psh... What would Charlie Sheen do?

If she is single: "Ummmmmmm, never mind"
If she has a boyfriend: *looks elsewhere*

it a little creepy when someone asks that and it is obvious he wants to date you
don't ask lol bc personally i would say no, unless he is hot lol shallow but tru

@0kevqn: Is that bad? You [i]are[/i] interested in her. Or... it is bad, because maybe she's not interested, but now that she knows that you are, things might be awkward?

Edit: @Reticent: So would you suggest that a guy simply not ask such a question? Would it be better to simply ask a girl out for coffee and hope that she'll be forthcoming with you if she is in a committed relationship? Of course, if she's not interested, she'll turn you down in whatever manner she sees fit.

If he's ugly, it creeps me out and I'd say no.
If he's cute, it still creeps me out and I'd still say no.
If I was into him, I'd say yes.
LOL.
Of course it would affect the probability of saying yes or no. If you're not looking for a relationship, then you'd decline the invite to coffee because now you know he's into you and you don't want to lead him on (unless you want to lead him on). Of course, one could always be civil and just state, "no, but I'm not looking for a relationship though I'd love to grab coffee sometime/hang out".
It really probably depends on the person.

If you ask her that, 99% chance she'll realize you're interested