So I have this "Friend"
She completely ignores me. We used to hang out all the time, but this year, it feels like shes using me. She begs me to walk to school with her, but when it's time to walk home, she races out of the building. So I got a ride to school one day, and I called her telling her I have a ride and can't walk with her. Her response? "Lovely. -hangs up-". But just the day before she ditched me for her other friends. When we walk to school together, she meets up with her friends and ignores me. In school, the only time she notices me is when I'm with my ex, or when I'm wearing something cute. She constantly flirts with my ex, even though when I was dating him, she said she hated him sooo much, and that hes totally ugly and can't be dated. When I'm wearing something cute, "Hey can I borrow that tomorrow?" I let her borrow my hat once, she took it and started to take pics of herself. When her friends see the pics and ask to borrow the hat, she gives it to them. I lost my fedora doing that. But when I want to borrow something little like a hair tie..noooo. I might lose it. When her friends are dissing me for no reason, she plays along. When I'm with my friends, she tries to drag them away, like I'm some kind of bad person, even if she doesn't know my friend. It seems like shes just using me to look popular or look good. What should I do?
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[quote=Geekyspear]like br@zz3rs, time for punishment^__^[/quote]
I love you, marry me?
@limplict our school doesn't really support "friendlyness among peers"
I'm not that popular, I'm well known, and I have a lot of friends, but I'm not that popular.
@canyouplease She may be fat, but she can sure keep up, with random complaints "Slow dowwnn! My legs are hurting :["
I really suggest you ignore her and then confront her if she tries to attack you. She needs to learn to stop being a jerk.
Talk to counselor = Suspension or Expulsion.. Trust me. I learned the hardway.
Wow. And this is happening in 8th grade O_______O I'm in 8th grade as well (Australian though), but my school's pretty chill. Nothing happens like that in our grade and we're all pretty nice people overall. I guess that's what happens when your school's 99% Asian and the nerdiest school in the state >_______>.
OT: Just ditch her. She seems like one of those really really insecure people who'll have a nervous breakdown if they lose their 'popularity status'. Don't even tell her that you're not walking with her anymore, just go to school with someone else. Let's see how she feels when no one's there to walk with her.
When you're with your friends and she comes, just ignore her. If those friends of yours are really friends, they'll back you up and won't leave you. Or you could do exactly what she and her friends do, and insult her with the obvious insecurity comments that people before me have probably mentioned. I wouldn't do that though if I were in your position, unless your school doesn't really emphasise 'friendliness among peers' like our school does. Like seriously, some guy in my grade got suspended for laughing at some other guy who got his hat chucked out of the bus window. o________o
Tell your ex the comments that she made. I bet she was just really jealous that you were with him. The next time she tries flirting, he'll probably say something really nasty and that'll make her back off. =)
One question though: Are you considered 'popular'? :S
Oh, and what's the uh. ''Situation'' now?
@Orchid: Yes, But they know how she is, and they stay with me
[quote=xxLunaLuvxx]I do, but every time I try to get them to back me up, she goes and tries to make them like her.[/quote]
do they like her?
lol. My friend is playing a game with my other friend... I don't know if it'll work in this situation but you can try it
The game is to not talk to her. If you talk to her, you lose. Keep playing this until it's mastered then you wont be friends anymore lol. my friend's still going on.. for like 3 weeks now xD
I'm just gonna start calling her and saying that I'm walking with someone else
[quote=xxLunaLuvxx]When I hang out with my other friends, she somehow knows where I hang out and she follows me. o.o"[/quote]
Oh wow stalker.. o_o Warn your other friends of how she is, and confront her?
[quote=Orchid]just don't even hang with her anymore. you should have better friends than that.[/quote]
I do, but every time I try to get them to back me up, she goes and tries to make them like her.
[quote=xxLunaLuvxx]@Orchid: we're both in 8th grade. I've never gotten drunk or high, she found weed in her pants one time, and just told me how she got high with this scene kid senior. and how hes gonna pierce her lips.[/quote]
just don't even hang with her anymore. you should have better friends than that.
[quote=vHachi]Oh wow what a b.... Just hang out with your other friends and ignore her.[/quote]
When I hang out with my other friends, she somehow knows where I hang out and she follows me. o.o"
Oh wow what a b.... Just hang out with your other friends and ignore her.
[quote=LuckyGambler]You have two options:
1. You can kill her with a hand gun in the middle of the night while she is not on her guard. Then hack into some bank system and manage to somehow get at least 1 million dollars in fake electronic cash. (This hurts the economy real bad but oh well )You then ditch your parents and the community you live in for an exotic life in the tropic and end up at some resort with a Latin guy breathing heavily down your neck while you lay in bed....yummy
2. You ditch her as a friend and complete ignore her... <<< most logical option to an enlightened rational thinker...[/quote]
1. uhhhh. No comment.
2. She won't leave me alone when I try to ignore her.
This is what happened to me 2 years ago! My "friend" put everyone against me, he stole my other friends and became "popular," after that he made my friends stop talking to me, but in the end he changed schools because of me... actually, he moved away
Bring a metal bat to school. When they get physical, you get your bat
@Orchid: we're both in 8th grade. I've never gotten drunk or high, she found weed in her pants one time, and just told me how she got high with this scene kid senior. and how hes gonna pierce her lips.
@kinghippo why would I post this thread if the person is me?
She's not a friend. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF OR ELSE SHE'LL CONTINUE TO PICK ON YOU! I mean it, don't let others take advantage of you.
[quote=xxLunaLuvxx]I would tell her mom about how she goes out with highschoolers and gets high and drunk, but I don't think her mom cares since shes letting her stay out with a senior boy, whos very rowdy when drunk/high, till like, 9/10 pm.[/quote]
wait, so you guys are in middle school?
She always takes my ideas and pretends that I'm the one copying her.
I would tell her mom about how she goes out with highschoolers and gets high and drunk, but I don't think her mom cares since shes letting her stay out with a senior boy, whos very rowdy when drunk/high, till like, 9/10 pm.
I don't think I have to do anything. There's already a rumor going around about her, but I didn't say anything because I'm not allowed to text or do anything on my phone.
edit: i -COULD- give her facebook, but basil wouldn't let me
she sucks , dont care about her and forget her .
[quote=xxLunaLuvxx]Uh, no why? Her name is Marisa.[/quote]
dang i was close, i hope she stops
[quote=Xchippzanuff]@xxLunaLuvxx:
let me guess? is her name is nikki?[/quote]
Uh, no why? Her name is Marisa.
@jeffrey44236 XD. I would, but, shes gonna figure out that I gave the number, and then give out mine.
ignore and move on
@xxLunaLuvxx:
let me guess? is her name is nikki?
[quote=Xchippzanuff]ha myyearbook lol[/quote]
Yup Her:You should join so you can get a better boyfriend.
@quiky trust me, her friends back her up. Shes always looking for ways to "change" me. Like, she says shes gonna take me to the mall and have her 5 year old niece pick out clothes for me, that I'm not "Mature" enough, even though shes more perverted than I am, and that with the way I look, I'm never getting a date...even though I'm the one who has a boyfriend for 5+ months at a time, when she goes and barely lasts 2 weeks.
[quote=xxLunaLuvxx]1. I tried to talk to her, she just tells me how I'm wrong.
2. I have a boyfriend.
IDK why she chooses my ex to flirt with. She constantly goes on myyearbook to look for a boyfriend.[/quote]
ha myyearbook lol
She's not your friend.
Ignore what she does and says.
[quote=Quiky]You have two options.
1- You could talk to her, and figure it out (She seems like a b....., so that wont help).
2- Be a real B..... yourself, and ignore her. If see starts flirting with ur ex or anything, turn just grab ur ex by his arm and walk away/drag him away with u OR KISS HIM RIGHT INFRONT OF HER.
You need to get in touch with ghetto-side guuuurl. You needa get the "Why you all in my bubble, B....?"
Just ignore her. She's a like a dork. She'll try to get attention and bark, but when ignored, she'll eventually stop.
Edit: Oh, well, if she gets all physical if u ignore her, then just... ignore her indirectly. Stop walking with her to school. Come with some lame excuses if u have to. Ditch her like she ditches u. LET HER FEEL THE PAIN.[/quote]
1. I tried to talk to her, she just tells me how I'm wrong.
2. I have a boyfriend.
IDK why she chooses my ex to flirt with. She constantly goes on myyearbook to look for a boyfriend.
@above I already try to make her feel uncomfortable around me thank you.
flash her every day. it'll creep her out.
someones can't control their hos
Oh Lawd Fidora hats. Good times good times.
OT: Just ignore her.
rip her weave out. that'll leave a mark...
steal anything you can from her!
ignore her!
make her feel insecure slowly... saying things like "you look... chubby"
and "your hair is... uhm, gross"
@VLBoy: All my mom does is say that I'm stronger than them, and that i should easily beat them. But I can't..4 to 1....I should stay near my good friends.
kick her on the face
physically and verbally?
Thats not right, tell your principal or your parents. People like that are just...
If I try to get away from her and stop being friends, she gets her friends to attack me, physically and verbally