Advice Complicated position about Love
Story (No short version included):
I like this girl (Let's call her Banana) who really likes me too, we decided to meet up this weekend (today actally) but she blocket me on Skype and her friend is using her mobile so I can't reach her. Of course, I'm very sad as I'm writing this. Her friend (Let's call her Pumpkin) that I'm texting with now says that she (Banana) should know better and that she (Pumpkin) made her do this. My heart was broken, I didn't eat anything that day I heard this, neither did I sleep. Anyways, I know where Banana lives, but not the exact adress. I don't know who this friend (Pumpkin) is either. So, what should I do about it? I came up with the clever idea to search up exactly where they both live. I had some basic information, like that Pumpkin lives 5min from Banana so that was easy. I thought I remembered her name when me and Banana had talked over the phone some day. The last text I got from Pumpkin was one that said that Banana wanted to text me, but she wouldn't allow it. So, either that stupid fat Pumpkin don't want her to be happy (She doesn't even know me) or Banana is lying about everything (Does not seem valid though).
What I think could've triggered all of this is when I said I liked her too (Which she have been saying loads of times over the phone and Skype to me!). She called me at 3AM and we talked for an hour, she was so happy, at the end we talked dirty also. I mean, I could hear that she was SOOOO happy, what could've gone wrong? Really? Calling at night, being super happy and talking super dirty. Why would she ever ditch me after that? This is why I believe that the stupid fat Pumpkin is the witch here.
I was going to write how I found out where they live, but that would just take too long time.. I know exactly where they both live now, I'm so relieved for some reason. Anyways, I really want to visit her, but if I do, that would really be scary, so that's a no. I really want to call her, but her friend has the phone, so that's also a no. But as I said earlier, Pumpkin actually said that Banana wanted to text me. Alright, either I wait for a couple of days before I call/text her, or I just wait for her to call me. I mean, none can live without their phone..
[b]What to do, what to do? Running low on patience here..[/b]
Funny thing with this thread is that I was going to tell you how I found out where they live with that little information, but it ended out like this instead. HAHA!
[i]I know that it's a stupid idea to ask the basilmarket community, but who knows? Someone might have a great tip?[/i]
If you want to know anything, just ask. I'll be on for another hour or two
(Edit: I know you guys like these kind of threads <3)
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Everything is solved now, got a text massage from her a few hours ago. She wants me to come over to her, she gave me her adress too. No need for a letter! Driving over to her in an hour!
Honestly personally I think you should give up on that chick. Even if Pumpkin is overprotective and all (case given she's real) - how come Banana doesn't fight it?
Reading your thread I pictured two girls in a room, the protective freak with the pouty little babygirl next to her (ò 3ó)=3 (° _°)-[]
Anyway, two things:
1. Banana might have ended up regretting the whole thing (e.g. talking dirty, it can be quite shameful for some chicks and they feel they lost their dignity) but since she doesn't wanna lose her face telling you the truth she made up Pumpkin (as you conveniently haven't met said person and wouldn't ever want to anyway)
2. Pumpkin is real and is actually occupying Banana's stuff. Which leads me to wonder why Banana doesn't change the situation by herself. I mean it's HER stuff. HER business. She obviously doesn't put too much effort in this. Getting your own stuff back shouldn't be that big of a deal in the first place and Pumpkin can't hog her ass forever either.
Also, Pumpkin can't pin her down. Banana is a human with the tools (brain, mouth, extremities) to defend herself and get her stuff back. How come she hasn't? Did she fail? If she'd truly want to she wouldn't let an overprotective, possessive person like that ruin it for her.
Too lazy to explain in detail but I hope you get my point.
Also, in case you say "Pumpkin must be real cause I know her address": It could be that Banana is just using a friend's name that isn't even involved in this for mentioned purpose (whether she agreed or not).
that's my two cents.
[quote=Sjoooberg]@Laker1294: I might do it. This monday, I will need some time to think about it though.
Texting her isn't personal enough, I mean, it's just random text from someone to someone.
Calling her is a bit more personal, but still not personal enough in this situation.
Giving her a letter (that she can read whenever she want to) in person, now THAT is personal!
In the letter I will say that I will be as honest as possible, why I know her adress, why I like her and so on. If she likes what she reads, she can call me and tell me the news. If she won't change her mind, send a text msg saying so and I won't bother her anymore.
I still have this one last chance, if I don't do it, then there is no chance. If I do it, I might succeed.
Thank you for taking your time helping me out!
@zoneflare2: What do I have to lose that is already lost?
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Anytime. Sorry I just got back.
@Bob11111: That's not for you to appreciate.
@Sjoooberg: How else will we appreciate her beauty?
@Bob11111: Yes, I do have pictures of her. But I won't post them for privacy reasons. [b]OBVIOUSLY.[/b]
Any picture of her?
@radkai: Going more off topic <3
@AoiHorizon: Interwebz. We've been talking on the phone and Skype (with and with out cam) so I do know she is the real deal. Does it matter?
@PonyCard: I mean her no harm, I just want to set things stright.
@horacedrey: I know that she is speaking the truth. It's not a trick.
@Sjoooberg: Resist what? (´ã�'»Ï‰ã�'»`)
Where did u meet this girl?
@radkai: Must..... resist.....
@Sjoooberg: (´ã�'»Ï‰ã�'»`)
@Demonlord: Because of the whole Banana part?
@radkai: Sorry, but no. Just........ no. That won't work in here.
Leave Denko alone? (´ã�'»Ï‰ã�'»`)
lol
p2s
@zoneflare2: I think that she thinks that I'm a bit of a shy person, which is partly true. I'm always shy around persons I like (which is normal) and new people in general, but after knowing them for a while I get over it. Though, when I REALLY need something to be done, nothing can stop me. This is one of those moments. If I'm really determined of doing this, it might emit more confidence than ever.
Thank you, I hope things work out for you too.
@Laker1294: I might do it. This monday, I will need some time to think about it though.
Texting her isn't personal enough, I mean, it's just random text from someone to someone.
Calling her is a bit more personal, but still not personal enough in this situation.
Giving her a letter (that she can read whenever she want to) in person, now THAT is personal!
In the letter I will say that I will be as honest as possible, why I know her adress, why I like her and so on. If she likes what she reads, she can call me and tell me the news. If she won't change her mind, send a text msg saying so and I won't bother her anymore.
I still have this one last chance, if I don't do it, then there is no chance. If I do it, I might succeed.
Thank you for taking your time helping me out!
@zoneflare2: What do I have to lose that is already lost?
[quote=Sjoooberg]@Laker1294: Right.
I could just sit on a bench a few hundred meters from her house just waiting lol. Seriously though, I can't contact her at all now, no skype, she does not use facebook and of course her Pumpkin friend has her phone under control.. So the best alternative in my opinion would be visiting her at her house, just to hand over the letter (in person!) and explaining how I know where she lives, just answer all possible question as honest as possible.
I didn't tell you this earlier, but I'll do it now. Shes been in very sick recently (hospital visit for three weeks), so she won't be able to visit her school at all for a couple of months. It's on the inside now, but if anything happens it's better if she stays at home. I also happen to know that she is at home alone most of the time, except for when her mom comes home from work. So even if she cut all contact with me, she might still get happy if I visit her? I mean, we were really good friends and we talked on the phone and was happy like never before!
What do you think?
@zoneflare2: It's worth the risk.[/quote]
Go for it. It's now or never. I wish you the best of luck.
@Laker1294: Right.
I could just sit on a bench a few hundred meters from her house just waiting lol. Seriously though, I can't contact her at all now, no skype, she does not use facebook and of course her Pumpkin friend has her phone under control.. So the best alternative in my opinion would be visiting her at her house, just to hand over the letter (in person!) and explaining how I know where she lives, just answer all possible question as honest as possible.
I didn't tell you this earlier, but I'll do it now. Shes been in very sick recently (hospital visit for three weeks), so she won't be able to visit her school at all for a couple of months. It's on the inside now, but if anything happens it's better if she stays at home. I also happen to know that she is at home alone most of the time, except for when her mom comes home from work. So even if she cut all contact with me, she might still get happy if I visit her? I mean, we were really good friends and we talked on the phone and was happy like never before!
What do you think?
@zoneflare2: It's worth the risk.
[quote=Sjoooberg]@Laker1294: I guess that's true. I don't know at all what I did wrong, everything seems to going to hell anyways, so why not try it out? What more can I lose?
So how do you mean? Like drive over to her place, knock the door and when she opens I should say something like: Hi, I just want to give you this. And in the letter it can be something like "....... call me if you still want to keep contact with me, if you don't then I won't bother you anymore". I think that visiting her will freak her out as it is, but when she recieves a letter like that she will still be in a shock but she can read and think about whatever I wrote and make her final decision. I don't want to freak her out at all, I want to be as kind as possible to her even if we might never talk ever again, I just want her life to be good. But this is probably worth it.
Err, do you think that is a good idea?
There are always people complaining on ages, so I can tell you that I'm 20 and she is 18.
@zoneflare2: People that I know will know about the person I'm talking about in the thread.[/quote]
Well do you have a class with her? If not, are you able to meet her somewhere else? I think going to her house is a bit excessive (since she doesnt know that you know where she lives) and she'll freak out..I know I would though....
@Laker1294: I guess that's true. I don't know at all what I did wrong, everything seems to going to hell anyways, so why not try it out? What more can I lose?
So how do you mean? Like drive over to her place, knock the door and when she opens I should say something like: Hi, I just want to give you this. And in the letter it can be something like "....... call me if you still want to keep contact with me, if you don't then I won't bother you anymore". I think that visiting her will freak her out as it is, but when she recieves a letter like that she will still be in a shock but she can read and think about whatever I wrote and make her final decision. I don't want to freak her out at all, I want to be as kind as possible to her even if we might never talk ever again, I just want her life to be good. But this is probably worth it.
Err, do you think that is a good idea?
There are always people complaining on ages, so I can tell you that I'm 20 and she is 18.
@zoneflare2: People that I know will know about the person I'm talking about in the thread. I don't want it to be "official" yet.
if you want this certain "pumpkin" to disappear, you know where to find me.
[quote=Sjoooberg]@zoneflare2: I know people that would love this information.
@Laker1294: I believe there are a few other options, but that might just scare her. Because, as I said in the original post, I did not know her exact adress, which I later figured out. If I send her a letter or visit her, she might get upset. We live like 30-40min away from each other. Sending her a letter would be a bit cheesy though, but still not as scary as visiting her (Her point of view).
If you were in this exact situation and got a letter, what would you want to be written in it? (I already know what to write, just looking for some inspiration if there is anything I can change).[/quote]
You could give her the letter in person (if you trust her). I didn't mean to say send it by mail. Maybe you could talk to her as well when she's by herself. Talking to her is most effective because there's less of a chance of miscommunication.
Edit: Well I have never received a letter so I wouldn't know what to expect..other than it being a love letter (if I know the person likes me)
Edit 2: You could also ask her if she's okay (in th letter or in person). It'll show her that you're concerned about her.
@zoneflare2: I know people that would love this information.
@Laker1294: I believe there are a few other options, but that might just scare her. Because, as I said in the original post, I did not know her exact adress, which I later figured out. If I send her a letter or visit her, she might get upset. We live like 30-40min away from each other. Sending her a letter would be a bit cheesy though, but still not as scary as visiting her (Her point of view).
If you were in this exact situation and got a letter, what would you want to be written in it? (I already know what to write, just looking for some inspiration if there is anything I can change).
[quote=Sjoooberg]I don't know if Pumpkin still have the phone or not and also, Pumpkin said that Banana wanted to text me.. If I'm going to text her I know exactly what I want to write, but I don't want Pumpkin to know what I write. So, do you suggest texting now (this tragic event accured on thursday so it's been 2 days since I talked to Banana) or should I wait for a few days?
If Pumpkin really made her do this, then Banana probably still likes me. So it wouldn't surprise me if she text/call me soon.
@RealSoft: You got that right![/quote]
Well I guess you could wait. Is there any other method of contacting Banana? If so you could use those. I would personally write a letter or a note if I were you and tell them not to show anyone (only do this if you trust her) and give it to her the next time you see her.
Edit: by her I mean Bannana
Bro.
Make some pumpkin pie with that pumpkin.
[quote=Laker1294]Text Bannana of course. If you wait for her to text you, she might not text you..[/quote]
I don't know if Pumpkin still have the phone or not and also, Pumpkin said that Banana wanted to text me.. If I'm going to text her I know exactly what I want to write, but I don't want Pumpkin to know what I write. So, do you suggest texting now (this tragic event accured on thursday so it's been 2 days since I talked to Banana) or should I wait for a few days?
If Pumpkin really made her do this, then Banana probably still likes me. So it wouldn't surprise me if she text/call me soon.
@RealSoft: You got that right!
Text Bannana of course. If you wait for her to text you, she might not text you..
@Sum1outthere: I suggest you to read it all!
@LazyLazyLazy: Did you just call me fat?
@djmaxaaron: Sorry about that.
Oh wow..The girl i loved was called Banana...thanks for reminding me.
How did your parents raised you? With caring love or junk food?
Havnt read the story yet cuz the 'let's call her banana' part killed me xD
These bananas these b-a-n-a-n-a-s, these bananas! THESE B-A-N-A-N-A-S!
[quote=oAZNvTOFUo]reading this story made me hungry for some bananas and pumpkins[/quote]
Dang it, you found the secret massage. Now go buy some!
reading this story made me hungry for some bananas and pumpkins