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we have gone out to movies and the mall, etc but i just didnt make a move or ask her to be my gf. and i waited this long to get to know her more and i dont think relationships at the next level should be rushed...i was actually goong to ask her before the winter break til she recently gavwe me hints that she wants to find a hot bf in uni

[quote=dopeazn]yo man. just let me give you some advice. cut her out of your life. not worth this drama. you made 3 threads about her. don't think so often about a girl who doesn't give a sh about you. let me put this into perspective for you. this girl has no real value as a friend. she's just going to use you and play with your feelings. think 5 years from now, will you even care about her? no. cut her out NOW. it doesn't matter how much you like her, the truth is there's nothing special about her, she doesn't like you, and there are millions of girls the same as her, and millions of girls better than her. you are putting too much emotional investment into a stupid teenage girl and you won't get anything out of this relationship. don't even think about it. just DO IT and you may regret for a week but I saved your skin for the rest of your life.[/quote]

i know, but were in the same class, and i don't think she'll sue me, idk like at times, it does feel like she uses people to benefit her..but i'm not sure.. like she's pretty nice but sometimes she does things so it will be in her way...and she'd ignore people sometimes

yo man. just let me give you some advice. cut her out of your life. not worth this drama. you made 3 threads about her. don't think so often about a girl who doesn't give a sh about you. let me put this into perspective for you. this girl has no real value as a friend. she's just going to use you and play with your feelings. think 5 years from now, will you even care about her? no. cut her out NOW. it doesn't matter how much you like her, the truth is there's nothing special about her, she doesn't like you, and there are millions of girls the same as her, and millions of girls better than her. you are putting too much emotional investment into a stupid teenage girl and you won't get anything out of this relationship. don't even think about it. just DO IT and you may regret for a week but I saved your skin for the rest of your life.

i still kind of like her, but now that she's giving me obvious hints that i'm probably not the guy she's looking for, im starting to back off. Like she's a very outgoing and nice person, so even if i were to be friends i'd be ok.

i'm just disappointed that she gave me really obvious hints that she LIKED me....only after 3 months to in a nice way freindzone me, not by saying we should be friends..cause she has never referred to me as a friend..but by telling me how she will find this perfect guy in university or what her parents expect from her...

it sucks..but im not sure what should happen...

Just tell her that you dont like her anymore and dont want her to bother you. Not like its going to be much of a wait since youre out of high school in about 5 to 6 months.

well hopefully things work out.. it was disappointing because i actually REALLY liked her

[quote=Kingzer]this is last year of highschool

yeah idk how to handle it... i think i'm just going to continue being her friend, and only talk to her when she initiates the conversation

good idea?[/quote]

That's.... better.

But it may get awkward if she ever asks why you don't talk to her anymore. On one hand she'll ask that because she craves attention. On the other hand she won't ask that because she doesn't talk to you anymore.

this is last year of highschool

yeah idk how to handle it... i think i'm just going to continue being her friend, and only talk to her when she initiates the conversation

good idea?

Confront her about it and tell her how you feel because that's selfish af.
And then don't hang out or anything with her again. There is some chance that after seeing this she'll want you.

maybe she never liked you from the beginning ... maybe she didn't lead you on, maybe you're just a horny teenager who assumes every girl only talks to you to get into your pants

anyways just ignore her if you're that mad about it

is this in college or high school?

but the fact is i don't really meet the standards of being tall..only thing i can do is work out and become more physically appealing...

happened to me before too! but after a long time hanging out, we naturally got together LOL o-o yeah its your choice to keep going along with her and to keep striving... or you can just be done w/ her haahaha and move on

but if you really like her, i dont think you should give up

Either ask her to be straightforward, or just be done with her. She seems to have the "dream guy" thing going where she's waiting for the one guy she wants and is expecting to find mr perfect in college (lol college students are just slightly older high school students). You don't have to cut her out of your life, just stop trying to be with her if it's not going well.

how should i move on? like she's actually not that bad of a person...she's very outgoing but i don't know how i should feel about this

Look, the general idea is that you just don't know unless you initiate something. She very well may have been attracted to you, but that chit will die down if she's been trying to give you hints that's she's interested and you dilly dally around for a quarter of a year. Aint nobody got time to waste on a guy who has to ask basil what the meaning behind a girl wanting to spend time with him is.

So if you're interested, take her out. If you're not, don't. If she accepts, she's still interested. If she doesn't, she's not and you should move on.

the thing is it would be weird cutting her out of my life since we have classes together..

but recently she did try avoiding me...or seem not interested in me at all...so

i'm not sure how to deal with this

Well I definitely know this feel. What I did was just ignore the girl. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who can't even be straight-forward about how she feels about you. I'd cut her out of my life 100%.