Best friend romance
I really don't know where to start on this so, I have this best friend, named Delilah, and I have feelings for her and she possibly has feelings for me, but she doesn't know I have them for her nor does she know that I know she has them for me. At least I hope she doesn't know I have feelings for her and she's just playing coy with me. I'm only assuming based on the signs when me and her are around each other.
Now, the problem is, I don't want to have feelings for her. Not that I don't want to cause I don't want to, but because I don't want it to ruin our friendship.
This is one of those, I fell for my best friend, things like in the movies, except this is real life where things don't always end up well. She helped me through so much and I've helped her through a lot also.
The possibilities are...
A) I confess and find out she doesn't have feelings for me, our friendship will forever be ruined and awkward.
B) I confess and she does have feelings for me, and we date and somewhere along the road, we break up. Our friendship will never be the same again or no friendship at all based on what moronic thing I did.
There's no win in those scenarios. The other possibility is that we do date, and everything goes well, and we end up with each other forever, but that's a long shot.
I cannot talk about this to anyone cause the main person I talk to, is the one I'm talking about and I can't talk to my other friends because we have the same group of friends and one of them would probably spread that like wildfire around.
Honestly, I don't know what to do about this because she is just simply an amazing person to be around.
Do I go for her or not?
I'm 19 and she's 18 btw.
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I'd say go for it! Maybe this quote can help out with choosing xP.
"If choices were 100% they wouldn't be choices. When they're both 50/50, choose one and work hard to prove it's the right decision and turn the 50% into 100%." - Jinguk, Dream High
And Good Luck! (:
Good luck! Besides your best friends it's not gonna be THAT awkward haha.
Tell us how it goes! : )
Remember to do it hard and sloppy.
I will update you guys for sure! You guys gave me support and I thank you all for that Also I'll have to wait a week for things to settle down for her cause she's dealing with some family stuff right now so I don't wanna stress her out. I hope you guys can wait that long!
Good luck! I really hope it works out for both of you :]
And if it doesn't, I hope you can still maintain a great friendship.
Update us
Okay guys. I've come to a decision. I'm going to do it. Wish me the best of luck!
"I don't want it to ruin our friendship" made me want to smack my head against the table. I was in the exact same position as you and went for it. It's been over three years and we're still together. DOOOOO IT
confess confess confess
you need more dorama in your life
but they have trains and planes and cars
I was in kinda the same situation as you. I confessed and she ignored me for a year, then we started talking again and now we're dating and doing sexual stuff almost everytime we're together feels good man
Ull never know the outcome, go for it.
Sing Her Hey There Delilah
Hey there Delilah, what's it like in NY city? I'm a thousand miles away, but girl, tonight you look so pretty, yes you do.
Go for it. c:
You don't know what you got till it's really gone.
So confused. I really hope nothing goes wrong haha
From my personal experiences, dating close friends has never ended well for me.
But in your case, it could be very different! I suggest you take the risk, if it works out, it'll be worth it.
Best of luck to you!
Hm I really have no idea it's hard to say but I know how you feel I'm some what in the same situation except we both like each other and I know and I'm 90% sure he knows but I'm afraid to take it to the next step because I don't want to lose what I worked so hard to gain a beautiful friendship so best of luck to you I hope everything turns out well with whatever you decide to do.
Life is all about taking risks. I'd say do it and wish for the best of it.
The question is whether you'd regret not knowing, or trying and failing more.
Granted, one option is always a bad outcome and the other has a good side, so I'd personally advise you go for it.
I don't think you should go for it.
past experiences.
[quote=husky12345]Even if you guys go out, if you're mature about the break up, I'm sure you guys can stay good friends. Either way keep in mind that nothing lasts forever.[/quote]
I 3rd this.
@above get off basil and tell her!
What you guys are telling me to do is risk my friendship for love. I like that
now or never go for it bro
Go for it! you never know Maybe you could wait until you're certain she has feelings for you then ask her ^_^