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For some reason it doesn't bother me when girls are dating boys but have crushes on other boys. But when guys are dating girls and have crushes on other girls, It bothers me ALOT. I can't STAND it. It's my biggest pet peeve, and usually (This is probably a stereotype) Boys are to blame because I always hear stories about them cheating. All the time. Honestly, It probably ruined one of my relationships.

@Seriazly Exactly.

Yep, it's possible.

I don't think it's wrong unless you decide to act upon it

Even then, it's all up to you; sometimes you should give new things a chance and not bog yourself down (unless you're married or extremely committed)

[quote=Limitbreaker]Liking people cause they look hawt or something is ok everyone does that but in a relationship it's not right but people still do it I guess just don't let it go out of hand to a point where you are cheating on your current partner but remember "never leave something good to find something better, cause once you realise you had the best, the best has found better" - drake [/quote]
What song was that from.

[quote=AIonso]My thoughts exactly!

Some people don't understand that its possible to have self-control and stick to just one person.
yeah you might probably feel ''physically'' attracted to someone else but that doesn't mean you should use him/her as an ''replacement'' in case you breakup or get in a fight with your partner. If you feel attracted to someone else personality or characteristics you could just befriend that person. No need to fall for him/her <-- if that happens then you're mentally weak, emotionally unstable and you don't deserve anyone.[/quote]

I disagree. I am none of those things and I've had crushes on others while in a committed relationship. That doesn't mean I've FALLEN for anyone. That doesn't even mean I'm physically attracted to the crush. Whoever said they were going to be a replacement? Anyone who believes they have complete control over their emotions is a fool. The only thing you can have control over is how much you let your emotions affect you and drive your actions. You can't stop yourself from having feelings but you can stop yourself from acting on them. THAT is what self-control is, and that is what a strong person is, whether or not they have feelings for multiple people. ^^

I don't think so, but probably not impossible.

Eh I'd say you can crush on more than two people, maybe "fall" for more than one but judging from my own experience I don't think it's possible to have feelings of love for several people.

I'd think if you're attracted to somebody else to the extend that you seriously think about "switching" partners then something must be going wrong in your current relationship.

At least for me the bond between me and my partner is far too strong, I trust him and know him very well and there's so much more I could NEVER achieve with anybody else. I don't see other people with "open" eyes anymore regarding relationships/liking "that" way.

If someone is maybe physically attracted to a 2nd person while being in a relationship then it's probably morally okay but it shouldn't be mistaken for "liking" that person in a specific way, otherwise I'd personally wonder how attracted I actually am to the person I'm with. As ya said as long as it doesn't interfere with the current relationship...

It really depends on what stage of the relationship somebody is on, I'd almost like to say somebody that falls for more than 2 ppl while being in a longterm relationship is kinda "sad" cause he/she never seemed to experience a real feeling of love/connection for their partner. But that's just me

[quote=JJLuvsYa]So wait.... You like two ppl? And you came on basil to say that? When everyone knows the answer is yes?

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No. Can you read? I said I'm not in conflict. This was never up for personal dispute. I just read a thread where people said you can't like more than one person and nobody objected, So I made this so I wouldn't go off topic on the thread. The answer isn't obvious.

[quote=AIonso]Yes I think its possible. however i dont find it morally acceptable, i think its a proof that your ''love'' and attraction to the one you're supposed to love is not as strong it should be.
Call me close-minded but thats what i think.[/quote]

I also think this way. If you like someone else while in a relationship, then you're terrible );

[quote=SonsOfAnarchy]Watch out; that can be dangerous. You think it's just innocent and that you won't end up falling for someone else, but you never ever know what can happen. For example say you and your current boyfriend happen to get into an argument and then the guy you have a crush on on the side starts messaging you, it's really easy to seek comfort in him and you don't know where that could lead. Happens all the time to couples.[/quote]

I don't talk to others about relationship problems. Those are private. I also experienced something like that in the past, and it didn't matter until I became unhappy in the relationship, and the fact that I had a crush made me reflect and realize it was time to roll bounce. He then became my rebound, but nothing ever came of us, and I was better off. As long as I am happy in a relationship, I am not so feeble as to let that deteriorate for poor reasons. I reflect on the crush and reconfirm how amazing my boy is, yet the crush might persist. If I didn't come to that same conclusion, then it's probs time to move on.

Either way, I can't control where my heart wanders.

[quote=rabbithole]Yes it's possible. If it's right depends on what you do.

I've met some really attractive guys while dating my bf but that doesn't mean I'm gonna chase after them.[/quote]

Attractive =/= like. >.<

Yes it's possible. If it's right depends on what you do.

I've met some really attractive guys while dating my bf but that doesn't mean I'm gonna chase after them.

I'm curious to hear the other side of it too ^^

I've had little crushes on a few people throughout the time I've dated my boyfriend (almost 1yr 9months). He doesn't know about any of them, except for one he figured out, and I figured out one of his too =P We think it's cute and funny cuz the other gets all embarrassed. There's no need to talk about it though if we hadn't called each other out on it; I don't act flirty and nobody would ever have a way of knowing I like someone except for me. It doesn't affect anything, yet it's still kind of fun to have that crush internally, and then it just goes away. My boyfriend is the best, so it's not like I'm looking for something I don't have, just random crushes that come and go.

Yes very possible indeed! I'm glad I wasn't the only one.

Lolol yes it's possible and it's morally acceptable. We're human