Can I have some quick advice with boy problems?
If all you basilers can help me with a quick problem, I'd really appreciate it.
So basically, there's a guy I like. We're really good friends, talk all the time (through texting, school, and video chat on skype), and we're pretty close. We also see eachother in person a lot outside of school, too. When we hang out, we have a lot of fun. If I flirt with him, he flirts back.
I'm gonna add a couple details, I'm not sure if they matter or not, but in case they do, I'll add them anyway. So, a lot of the time (in person and through video chat) I catch him looking at me, whether he notices I see or not. If he see's that I catch him, he either looks away quick or smiles at me then looks away. Or if he doesn't think I see (this is only in video chat), I see him looking at me and smiling. He's also willing to buy me things, even if they cost a lot. When we hang out, if we use a computer or something else you hold, he has no problem grabbing or touching my hand (not holding, more like holding onto), and if I did, he wouldn't have a problem with it. And I think I've noticed that he treats he treats me different from other girls too. This last one, I don't know about, it could be relevant, or just a coinicidence. We were talking about how I've never really seen him be really upset, and he said he was really sad a while ago. I asked when, and he said "November, December, sometime around then" which happens to be the months I had my last boyfriend. I don't know, maybe all this means nothing. Maybe I'm just being a girl, reading into things too far, only getting my hopes up. So for all you experienced older members out there, (everyone's welcome to give advice of course ^^) I was wondering if I could have some advice on what I should do.
Thanks for reading through all this, I am grateful to all you out there who will help
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Thanks for the advice, I was worried about not knowing eachother quite enough before we could get involved in anything, even though we're kinda best friends haha, I'd still rather know more about him, thanks
Bring up the question, tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels about you two. I you want to wait tell him before you start a relationship you wanna get to know each other a lil more.
If he does return your interest he might talk even more openly, might be more excited etc etc which sure will you two bring further and closer to a relationship.
(besides by all means always be honest and blunt to each other a relationship based on lies and crap is worthless.)
Don't rush, do what you feel like. If you want to date him asap then that's on you but getting to know each other better is always the best option (even though you can do that during the relationship too. Real love comes a long while later, after all.)
Either way, be blunt about what you think. You have to do that in a relationship to have it work out the best way - so why not start it now?
Will also show him how things will be and he will hopefully follow your lead.
Talk, talk, talk.
Good luck you to two ^-^
Haha, I've been thinking about just giving it more time to get to know eachother better. Every day I'm around him, at the end of the day, I feel so much closer to him
I would think that he would look at you in a video chat .
um What the first poster said sounds about right to me