Relationship question, help needed
Have you guys ever felt like you found the one, but no matter how hard you try, you feel like the relationship will never work out? I am currently feeling that with my current gf. I feel like she is the one, but no matter how I look at us, I feel like we will never work out. One thing to mention is that we have broken up and gotten back together too many times I don't even remember, I just know that the last two times she has left me. We talk about getting married and having kids, but we can't even stay with each other for long periods of time without leaving, and currently we are going through a rough patch and the longer it feels like this, the more I feel like we won't work. I really do care for her, but I don't know what to do right now. =/ Is there anything that we can do? Any advice would be great.
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A relationship is alot like a fart, if you force it, its probably sheit.... But for real, if you break up whenever you argue then you need to grow a pair and confront her and tell her how you feel, if you dont then your just another guy who shes gonna let go.
Yeah dude, you have to just face the music with this one. If you can't last with each other for the long run but are making plans for the long run, then clearly something is amiss. What you're doing is illogical and you're letting your emotions blind you. Granted, some people have had on and off relationships that workout in the end but that is the exception, not the norm. Why torment yourself?
Just remind yourself that "the one" wouldn't leave you so conflicted and that it isn't distance or unfortunate circumstances that are making it impossible, it's that you two can't stand each other for long intervals. Seems like an obvious "dump her and move on" from an outsider's perspective.
Taking "breaks" in a relationship almost never works and they're completely pointless.
Wow... I have a lot of thinking to do.
@AfricanDaddy
What I mean is that we break up constantly. Like the longest we have gone without breaking up has been a year and 2 months, which was great, except we broke up and now we are back to the constant break ups.
@thankyousalim
I am 19
Sometimes she might have been the one, but there are other things happening in life at the same time and these things might be the reason why you guys don't work out the way that it should be.
My ex-bf and I was on and off for a while too and I felt like he was the perfect one for me too, but in reality, things don't always happen the way it should be. I was madly in love with him and I still am today, but we are no longer together anymore. If it didn't work out the first and second time, it tells you something about your relationship, that you probably should move on. We both love each other but we are not meant to be together.
The reason why you couldn't move on is because of this lingering feeling, you just have to be stronger and say, "if the relationship is not going anywhere, let's end it here". before it gets nasty.
Many people are different. Some want one, some don't.
[quote=biantwmh]then she isn't the one, why the eff you don't understand it?[/quote]
I suppose I am trying to battle the thought that she isn't the one because I don't want to believe it. @above you're right man. I shouldn't have gotten ahead of myself, because it does make me feel worse.
This is why I never try to get ahead of myself anymore. Saying things like "We're gonna have kids some day" or "We will be together forever" does not guarantee that the relationship will last. In the end, you'll probably be hurting yourself.
If things don't feel right, you should probably end the relationship. It might be hard, but eh.
Then again, it all comes down to your own decisions.
I feel like if i stay with her, I will be the happiest compared to other girls i meet. But She is very sensitive at times and it makes me feel like she isn't the one.
Drop that, carry on, fish, sea, lots
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