I have a dilemma
So there's this girl, let's call her Bae1. She's really pretty and she's a friend of mine and my best friend. When we first met her 3 years ago, my best friend was in love with her. Me, being a good friend, kept my distance from her and just let my boy try to holla. When all 3 of us would hang out, I'd tell Bae1 that I was very interested in her very pretty best friend, let's call Bae2. Bae2 had a boyfriend at the time, which she later broke up with. Then she got another boyfriend right after. Anyhow, after my friend stopped lusting over Bae1, I decided that I might make my move on her. However, Bae1 just told me last night that Bae2 broke up with her boyfriend, and kept hinting me to make a move. I was planning to ask Bae1 to a valentine's date but now she just made it difficult cause I want them both lol.
I'm not sure if I want Bae1 or Bae2 now. I'm probably going to see them both at the end of the month for a party.
What to do basil?
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Yay, liking multiple girls at once! Welcome to the club.
Just pick whichever one is easiest.
Bae1 defs, but why not both?
@NoobCake: oh alright. well do what the other guy said and invite them both to a place. then decide which you like more.
[quote=Reticent]Bae1. Just do Bae1. Don't think about it. Just do it.
Forget Bae2. If guys are always after her, she'll be a hassle to deal with (I mean the guys will be a hassle to deal with). Dating her might become a chore.[/quote]
That's true. Thanks so much for your help
@NoobCake: I get what you mean I was stuck between a really hot asian soccer girl or a pretty white girl that runs track with me and has a great personality, I ended up going for the white girl eliminating my chances with the asian it was pretty hard choice both of them were perfect <3
@NoobCake: Bae1. Just do Bae1. Don't think about it. Just do it.
Forget Bae2. If guys are always after her, she'll be a hassle to deal with (I mean the guys will be a hassle to deal with). Dating her might become a chore.
[quote=Reticent]Nah, bae1 sounds very down to earth and sweet from how you describe her. I'm pretty sure she won't fight over you. I'd pick bae1 because she seems sweeter and bae2 seems too flirtatious since she bounces from boyfriend to boyfriend, but I guess if you won't ask bae1 straight up if she's into you, you should just try for bae2.[/quote]
Haha Bae1 actually is very down to earth and sweet. Bae2 does have more of a personality so she's much more "fun" in that aspect. I wouldn't say she bounces from guy to guy, she got out of a serious relationship after high school, and since she's very attractive, a lot of guys chase after her. I can't find the obvious hints if bae1 likes me, and if she does then she's doing a damn good job covering her feelings!
[quote=WindowLegs]Bae2 is in search of a boyfriend the day after breaking up? i think you should pick LovelyLegs1 since she seems to be more stable[/quote]
Read above, she's not necessarily in search for a boyfriend.
[quote=spireweb]go for bae1 cause she seems more compatible just straight up tell her that you dont like bae2 anymore I was in a similar situation before well I like to keep both doors open just in case but in the end I had to choose one[/quote]
I've known bae1 for much longer and I still find bae2 super attractive, but I don't even know what to do. I feel like if I pick one, I'll lose my chance to even try for the other one, although they're both great
go for bae1 cause she seems more compatible just straight up tell her that you dont like bae2 anymore I was in a similar situation before well I like to keep both doors open just in case but in the end I had to choose one
Bae2 is in search of a boyfriend the day after breaking up? i think you should pick LovelyLegs1 since she seems to be more stable
@NoobCake: Nah, bae1 sounds very down to earth and sweet from how you describe her. I'm pretty sure she won't fight over you. I'd pick bae1 because she seems sweeter and bae2 seems too flirtatious since she bounces from boyfriend to boyfriend, but I guess if you won't ask bae1 straight up if she's into you, you should just try for bae2.
[quote=Reticent]probably the latter since you've been always saying how much you like bae2 but it could still mean she likes you and is trying to be a good friend and put your feelings before her own. Aren't you bae1's friend? You should know bae1 best. [/quote]
Yeah, Bae1 & I are good friends but we don't communicate much. We only hang out when it's convenient to us and we go to different schools. She does seem like she's trying to get us together though, saying how she invited Bae2 to her party and stuff to get me excited or something. I'm trying really hard to not sound egoistic and cocky but the last thing I want them to do is fight cause of jealousy and some stupid stuff...
@NoobCake: probably the latter since you've been always saying how much you like bae2 but it could still mean she likes you and is trying to be a good friend and put your feelings before her own. Aren't you bae1's friend? You should know bae1 best.
[quote=Reticent]I'd choose bae1[/quote]
Do you think Bae1 was telling me about Bae2 to see my reaction (cause girls love to trick guys, especially if they like the guy them-self) or do you think she's actually pushing me to do something?
I'd choose bae1
id honestly pull a power move and ask both baes to hang out together on the same date. *gotta ask them when they're both together though. had the same situation in high school and it ended up as a really cool time
you gotta assess the situation on your own though; how close are you to the baes? like really close friends where they'll just see it as a lighthearted joke or will they think you're some weirdo
the balls in your court, really.
[quote=qtwarriorxx9001]See which one likes you first. It would be disastrous if you were to ask Bae1/Bae2 out,
then to realize that she doesn't like you back. Also, they're best friends, right? She would
probably tell the other what happened and the other's feelings might get hurt if she happened to like you.[/quote]
Well I'm creeping both of them on Facebook/Instagram right now. By looks, Bae1 is naturally pretty but Bae2 is prettier with a bit of makeup. Bae2 has more personality though.
Bae2 is probably using you as a rebound, there's a deeper reason she keeps getting new boyfriends. So if you're in it for the long term, go for Bae1. If you're just in it for the short term, go for Bae2 but expect some baggage there.
See which one likes you first. It would be disastrous if you were to ask Bae1/Bae2 out,
then to realize that she doesn't like you back. Also, they're best friends, right? She would
probably tell the other what happened and the other's feelings might get hurt if she happened to like you.