General

Basically make her do what you want to do, not what she wants you to do
If you wanna go bowling,take her to go bowling with you. Eat what you wanna eat. Don't go overboard otherwise you'll look like a control freak lol

Be more of a leader than a follower.

For example, it drives me crazy when people say "I don't care" to something (like what movie to see/where to go eat/etc)..because I'm the same way- I honestly don't care.

Being dominant should have a balance though...

[quote=Novelist]And it's not even about making the choices all the time. It's about you having a set of balls and being able to use them at the appropriate times. Shy guys can still be dominant and confident. Like I said, it's something you'll have to start by making a conscious effort at, telling yourself to step up, and eventually it'll become natural.

Another example would be, say you're at a restaurant. The server brings you your steak, and it's not cooked the right way. A submissive guy would just let it slide, and she would see this. A prick, on the other hand, would demand that they recook it, demand that he get it for free, make a scene, etc. This is not what she or anyone else wants. What a dominant, self-confident man would do is flag the waiter down, mention that they ordered their steak medium-rare but it came out well-done. So you're getting what you want without being a stuck-up asshole.[/quote]

thank you very much i guess i let too much slide

[quote=Novelist]Start with acting more dominant, eventually it becomes natural.
Choose places to go. Demand things you want. Stick to your guns. Be stubborn and confident.

[i]Submissive[/i]
Her: What do you wanna do?
You: I dunno.
Her: Do you wanna go eat?
You: Sure.
Her: Where?
You: Wherever you wanna go.

[i]Dominant[/i]
Her: What do you wanna do?
You: Lets go eat at [insert restaurant].

See the difference?[/quote]

This guy honestly has been the most help atm lol. I can see what she meant now.

Beat her. That how a lot of guys show that they're tough.

[quote=romperz]thats the worst part i dont really know. She just said i wasnt as dominant as she would have liked me to have been.[/quote]

You have such a kinky ex-girlfriend. Soooo, she's free right?

[quote=MushDit]Just submissive to what? You already said that she didn't really make you buy her stuff, etc.
Like decision making? Opinions on stuff like her clothes? etc? plz more specificity.[/quote]

thats the worst part i dont really know. She just said i wasnt as dominant as she would have liked me to have been.

be more assertive and defend her and dont take back things after you said it ( mean it) but not to her lol, my ex had the same problem with me
like dont back down but dont go so far that you'll start a fight lol and be a bit demanding not so much that all you want to do is what you want lol

Watch some FemDom videos. You can use those as guides.

Maybe have more of a say in decisions made? Just be more confident in general.

[quote=Zigen]be confident, and think for yourself. be aggresive[/quote]

i usually act confident and i think for myself but lots of times i just dont know what i want to do.
@andre lol honestly i yell at her for abusing sorry , pisses me the hell off when people can say it and not mean it.

[b]Be a man.[/b]

[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSS5dEeMX64]Here, I'll even help you get started.[/url]

[quote=ichigox3]well basically act more stubborn, like if your gf says "can you buy me some pizza?" just say no. thats an example of being more dominant xD[/quote]

good idea bad example though. She's never made me buy anything.
@everlong lol i do have a whip, one made out of chain its too dangerous to use lol

Buy a whip.

Or... You could try making the decisions. Yeah, good start

well basically act more stubborn, like if your gf says "can you buy me some pizza?" just say no. thats an example of being more dominant xD