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Stressing about my past

It's been 5 months since I've dated this girl, she ended up saying she couldn't date anyone cause of her parents saying so, it was obviously a lie..(Won't go to specific details) The problem at the time was that I was going quite fast in the relationship without noticing. Which was why she had to lie so that I wouldn't feel sad. Now I regret everything after my brain processed the situation a month or two later and noticing that I was the cause. I'm really glad that she did that since I wouldn't have known that I was speedin' the relationship. I guess I have learnt from my mistake.

I really want to apologize but I'm too shy to say it. Should I do it or is it too late? Almost everyday I regret everything, I don't know why I keep holding on to the past (As introverted as I am). And how should I apologize if I were to?

August 28, 2015

10 Comments • Newest first

SnappleApplezz

I apologized, and we're both happy now Thanks guys

Reply August 30, 2015
spireweb

take it easy you dont have to feel obligated to apologize im sure she understands, if you bring up the past while she already moved on it might make things worse just work hard to make yourself feel better and normal again so that if the case does arise when you actually decide to apologize you dont show up to her in an emotional wreck but rather just do things causally and be fine

Reply August 29, 2015
xylyls

as long as you got action it's ok

Reply August 28, 2015
AshleyAttacked

If she's that sensitive then you're likely gonna make her feel more awkward saying you're sorry out of nowhere.

If you want another chance...best way with a nervous girl who already turned you down is to get over it and just stay polite, friendly and sometimes time will work in your favour and so long as you're receptive to the tiniest stuff she might slowly inch back up closer to u.

Reply August 28, 2015
chaos0

We all make mistakes. You're not alone in this. And you, just like me, and every other person in this forum, will make a lot more mistakes in our lives. What's important to remember is that we can learn from our mistakes, and we can change and become better people from them. The worst thing you can do is fall and not get back up by dwelling on the past. Babies fall all the time when learning to walk, but instead of crying and staying down, they just get back up and try again until they get it. You can also just get back up and try again with life. Just don't beat yourself up when you make a mistake and be patient with yourself. You don't need to let your past weigh you down, you seem like a super awesome person regardless

Also, with apologizing, just ask her to meet up somewhere, let her know that you acknowledge your mistake, you are sorry, and you just want to meet up to make the situation a little easier for the both of you. And if she says no to meeting up, tell her you understand, and wish her the best and then go your separate ways. Good luck to you

Reply August 28, 2015
SnappleApplezz

[quote=piana]Should I do it or is it too late?
In my opinion, you should. Nothing is too late as long as you get it done, since, most of the "most regretful moments" are the ones that you hadn't done instead of what you've done.

And how should I apologize if I were to?
Call her out to somewhere, or just call her out from her house is fine too, then apologise to her face to face, eye to eye. Make sure you clarify that you don't have the intention to cling on the relationship anymore but to clarify something "important" when you asked her to meet up (just in case she's still defensive about it).

Almost everyday I regret everything, I don't know why I keep holding on to the past.
Remember, a coin has more than 2 sides, and it depends on how are you going to view it.[/quote]

Do you think messaging is fine too? Im too shy to actually go up to her. And most probably be awkward for both of us. Yup, im too p*s*y... o.o

Reply August 28, 2015
xdarkshynobi

You shoulda crammed on the first date.

Reply August 28, 2015
Bluemistar

If you feel like apologizing will help lift the heavy load of your shoulder, then go for it. Nothing's ever really too late. If you're scared about what the result might be after you apologize, don't be, at least you were finally able to say what's been on your mind for the past five months. Tell her exactly what you've told us, and I'm sure she'll be understanding enough.

Reply August 28, 2015
iLoveJesters

When you say you want to apologize you gotta be honest with yourself. Do you really want redemption or are you just hoping it'll give you another chance in the future? if it's the latter, I wouldn't recommend you do it.If she ended it with a lie then there's really no point in chasing after her. Like the other guy said, you've probably learned your lesson and should know better next time.
Good luck

Reply August 28, 2015
goldyboi

It happens because shes your first. That uncontrollable urge. From now on you should know what to do.

Reply August 28, 2015