need help with a girl
I never made a post like this before because I never really had an issue before but recently I found a girl that I like but there's a problem I haven't dwelt with before, shes way out of my wealth league and what I mean is she's from a wealthy family driving a brand new bmw for her first car with a bunch of coach bags when i'm struggling to save up for a 1st car at all. i'm not poor but i'm not rich either and I don't wanna come up looking like a freeloader. The thing about rich girls most of them at my school that I've met expect their bf to buy them everything also the reason why I avoid dating those type of girls.but this girl for some reason has me all caught up shes a soccer player so there's plenty of boys around her all the time but she's very decisive and haven't had more than 1 boyfriend which is why I aim for her because I know she hasn't been smashed by all the guys on the football team. so what should I do, abandon plan and resume the prowl, become a broke a** and make it, or try a different approach
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thanks guys ima give it a shot and hopefully things end well
If she only wants you for money don't go after her?
But yeah, I live in the 9th richest county in the U.S., yet I'm probably in the bottom 20% of the people who live here. So most of the people at my school get a car for their 16th birthday, and it's like a $8,000 car that's less than like 8 years old from a dealership. And then there's me, who saved up money from working for a year to buy a $2000 car, only to have it stop working, and having to sell that and wait to pay $2200 for the next one, and the ONLY good thing about my car now is that it hasn't crapped out on me yet.
Anyway, lots of kids around here seem rich, but most aren't that stuck up. But it kinda feels demeaning being around people who have anything they want, and you know your childhood and teenage years were incredibly different because you couldn't have much.
You shouldn't stereotype her just because she has money, it's a huge misconception that rich girls want a rich guy. There are plenty of women who have high-paying professions and who are with guys who make considerably less than them. Girls like this usually have a type-A personality and many of them actually prefer a guy who is low maintenance and laid back because it compliments their lifestyle well. As long as you know how to make her happy and keep her interested then you're good to go.
Dude, I was in the same situation (or at least I thought) my current gf, is very wealthy, whereas I live in these sketchy condo's so literally, the first few dates were me taking her out to mini golf, nice little dinners, etc (anything to stay away from my place). Then we went to her place for the first time, house is huge, they got cars on cars, boats on boats, im already nervous af because i don't have any of that stuff to show at my house. SO then finally she asks to come to my place, I was hesitant but said sure, thinking in the back of my mind that this was my last date with her. she came over. Honestly, I have never been more proud of the the human race right here, she didn't care where i lived or what my parents did, she just likes me for me. So take the risk, go out with her and if she doesn't like you for not having as much money as her, then at least you tried, and you know you'll get someone better who cares about you. TLDR; give the girl a try, see if she likes the real you and doesn't care about money
Is she Asian?
@ThotsRUs oh I got what your saying ive already gotten that far its just her being rich I feel like I cant keep her happy for long catch my drift? I need to find a way to hook up without becoming broke throughout the relationship either that or I have to find another person
watch kdrama as a helping guide tbh
@ThotsRUs im looking for a legitimate relationship this time not a quickie, insecurity isn't really my issue I would have asked her out already
I think you should go for her. Take her out on dates and ask her out. If somewhere along that line you found out that she doesn't like you because of your financial status then you should not continue the relationship.
As @TrueAtheist said in his thread: "Follow your dreams everyone, take risks in life, don't pass up opportunities, and let yourself be happy."