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@wernecke or you could just be going through a phase of boredom and a lack of motivation. But I think meeting people you who actually care about and are interesting would be the solution.

Could it really be deperssion? And what other thing about me is i have a huge self esteem/confidence issue i dont know why but i just do. And i hate to sound like im just complaining about my life its just thought ive notice these problems getting worst. And thank you everyone for all the advice so far

Rather than trying to talk to some new girls just to totally and completely forget about your girlfriend, I feel you should try to spice up your routine a bit. You said it yourself, you go to the gym 5 days a week and work and you just do whatever to fill the void in your schedule. If I were you, i'd do some new things that you've been wanting to do for a while now. Find new hobbies ya' know ? For me, I had so much free time after I broke up with my significant other, that I ended up learning how to speak some languages, focused more on studying, worked out at the gym harder, I learned how to play an instrument, I went out with family and friends more. I just think there's more to life than being confined with one person. You've got one life and I think you should do whatever you heart has been wanting to do for the past year now. Take some chances.

Sounds like you're not quite over your girlfriend just yet. 5 years is a long time so it must have been brutal. That being said, just keep talking to girls. Forget about a relationship with them. Just keep an eye out for the really nice, fun ones that will remind you what it's like to be alive again. For now, just get out there and see what gives.

You could be suffering from depression, depression doesn't have to mean you go home and cry every night. But your apathy and general lack of caring about anything or anyone are signs something could be going on in your brain that's causing that.

I would recommend talking to your doctor about it and seeing what he/she says.

fakestories: well for like an example when people talk to me wether it be a co-worker or family member it doessnt matter what they say to
Me wether its very important or just cassully talking i could care less about what say. I just act my way threw it and as soom as there gone forget what they even told me.
And as for a girl friend. I feel as if no girl would ever want me nor have anything to do with me which makes me disinterested in everyone.

Zombieoverlord: if you dont mind me asking what are some of your hobbies? So i can get an idea of what other people do in there free time

hi
hmm there are a few things that i'm thinking of and piecing it together for the sake of coherence is going to be a little difficult ;_; but i guess first things first, and that's the question of whether or not you [i]want[/i] to find interest in someone, or something. why are you so bored? is it because of your mind is set to "i'm so disinterested in everything so i'm just going to remain apathetic" or is because you really simply just don't find the people/things you engage with interesting? what about your friends? is there anything at all that gets you going (art, music, tv, shows), and can you dissect that detail and perhaps make it your own? living a boring and mundane life can really blow, but i'm a firm believer that your perspective plays a huge role in everything
does it bother you that you're so disinterested? when my boyfriend and i broke up, i felt totally apathetic towards him and almost any guy that tried talking to me simply because i wasn't seeking a relationship or invest in the dating scene. at first it sucked bc i didn't really know how to entertain myself, but then i grew to really really enjoy it. the idea started to grow on me and i soon stopped caring about a lot (peoples opinions, negativity, bla bla)

i think you should enjoy being disinterested and mess around and do whatever you want and can before you settle down again (sorry i shortstopped my thoughts i got distracted and can't bring myself to finish the post)

also i'm not sure how old you are, but maybe it would be worthwhile to consider not going back into the dating scene bc there's a point in your life where "dating" isn't simply "dating" anymore and instead it's "potential wife"

[quote=wernecke]Working out is a hobby of mine which does give me some since of self happiness but if im not doing that i feel like there soemthing missing like i dont feel the same as everyonee else does[/quote]

It's a good hobby, you should keep it.
What I'm suggesting is maybe adding another hobby, perhaps?

[quote=ZombieOverlord]I think you need a change of pace in your lifestyle, something different that will spark some life back into you.
It's not easy to find out what to do, but you should try doing new things, find new hobbies, something that you can devote your time to.[/quote]

Working out is a hobby of mine which does give me some since of self happiness but if im not doing that i feel like there soemthing missing like i dont feel the same as everyonee else does

If you don't care about having a relationship, then don't. There's no point in trying to make yourself want to get into a relationship.

As for finding interests in something, you gotta be a little more patient when you're trying out something new.

How much do you bench?

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I think you need a change of pace in your lifestyle, something different that will spark some life back into you.
It's not easy to find out what to do, but you should try doing new things, find new hobbies, something that you can devote your time to.