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You're a teenager. Doesn't really matter.

that girl doesn't love you thats why she cheated on you
find someone who would love you truthly lol

Talk with her in person. Be very calm and patient with her. Do not touch her or try to comfort her by touching her (hugging) unless she comes to you.
I know that feel bro

That blows, mate.

Wow. Hopefully she dumps you, seeing how immature, drama-prone, and potentially dangerous you sound. This whole situation could have been sorted out calmly and smoothly, but instead you opted for probably the dumbest choice you could make in any relationship, which is physical violence and losing control. You have to realize that [i]she did not even cheat on you[/i]. If she liked someone else, it's not as if she can help it. You literally have no justifications for your actions, not that getting physical can ever be justified for anything other than self-defense.

She probably wasn't going to dump you initially seeing that she didn't pursue the boy she liked, but now her dumping you seems inevitable. Think before you act. Even now, I dunno if it's your personality, but you sound alarmingly soppy with the "I've given everything for her" etc. Seriously, this isn't the Notebook.

"You'll do your best to not ever let it happen again?" It's sad how you can't even offer a guarantee that you won't do it again. On a side note, you need to be a bit smoother with your words.

If you can't fix it, then patch the relationship up as best as you can and move on. Maybe you could learn how to keep your temper in check while you're at it.

Whilst at her house, I couldn't help myself but be... A bit rough with her.
I'm not talking WWE Smackdown, but enough to make her scared of me

What the hell on earth made you think this was a good idea? In your time single, I suggest getting anger management before you do this again and wind up with an assault charge or stabbed out of self defense. You need to learn respect. "Roughing up" your girlfriend so she will be scared of you is a really dumb way to try to get her to stay with you. You are going to go through possibly many breakups, you need to learn how to deal with your emotions safely.

Lmao, that was the reply I got exactly for being too nice...
"lol go eff yourself"
Just sleep it off, you'll get over it after a while
That thing she said to me was already enough for me to get over this whole relationship thing.

@zunoku "Lastly... I want to love, and be loved. I want to be completely intertwined (Heh... Maroon 5...) with the one I love, and have her love me back, and stay that way forever. I sure as hell don't want to leave her, and I don't want her to leave me. I have faith that she won't, but it's still so uncertain and fearful."

This is exactly how I feel. Just give her a little space but apologise to her when she talks to you. If she has any common sense she'll forgive you because you seem like a really nice person.

@ronny278:
I feel the need to punch something... But not hurt it. I believe I want to do this because my body knows it needs to release it's emotions, but my mind will only remind itself about how punching something will hurt it... Just like I did her.

I feel the need to cry. Yes, I admit it, I feel the need to cry. My English teacher (Now retired... One of the greatest people I'll ever meet.) told me this: "Everyone needs a good cry. It doesn't matter how you do it, you just need to. Heck, just cry into the pillow after school until it's all out. Crying is our pressure valve, and the longer we keep it closed, the closer we get to blowing up." Word for word. I already feel myself tearing up... But my body is treating it as a foreign emotion, and trying to block it.
After years of pressure, at school, in the media, about how guys are supposed to be these rock-hard, powerful, immovable beings tend to make it so you follow those impressions.

I want to hide. I want to just be a turtle, curl up, and hide under the stairs in my basement, where I'm currently typing this now. It's so much, all at one time, and this is my first -real- relationship with anyone, and I truly love her.

Lastly... I want to love, and be loved. I want to be completely intertwined (Heh... Maroon 5...) with the one I love, and have her love me back, and stay that way forever. I sure as hell don't want to leave her, and I don't want her to leave me. I have faith that she won't, but it's still so uncertain and fearful.

@LovelyCorpse: I came to Basil to let [b]down[/b] my guard. So what if you make me out to be a spineless lowlife? I'm letting the populace of this site know what I'm truly feeling, along with my girlfriend.
Also... I'm not one to bring up things to make me look all manly-man, like beating a guy up, or having 12 girlfriends every week. I've had my share of hardening experiences, thanks to the fact that my dad is an abusive drunk who I have to fight off from my family on a weekly basis, and growing up in the bad part of town where gang shootings and sexual assaults were made nearly every day.

Please take your opinions elsewhere, I'm in no mood to bother with such trifles as how formfitting I am of the title of "manly", or whatever people call it these days.

@poid: Where would one find this...?

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I'm off for the night, folks. Edited the starting post to let future posters know that I'll reply tomorrow.

Keep on pouring your feelings here. It'll help you feel better =) Just let it out.

@Novelist: To you as well.

@Woefully: Thank you for the compassion... And it seems that yet another tally goes to backing off and letting things settle.
I hope you are able to get back on your feet after what happened to you... And good luck to you as well.

Oh... And can you please tell your step-sister (if you are who I think you are), to please avoid this thread...? Her bitter hate towards me will bring nothing but turmoil.

@ronny278: I have the exact same feeling right now... You just can't stop thinking about it, and when you look at the clock you realize you've been staring at the ceiling, thinking about them, for hours... When it's only seemed like minutes

I'm dreading my first break-up. I just got my first girlfriend a week ago. I can't stop thinking of her and have a strange butterfly feeling in my stomach all the time. I think when a break-up does happen it's going to be tough for me.

@Novelist: I'm deeply sorry to hear what happened between you two... My condolences.

I do believe I am mature enough for this relationship, and I do not believe that we need to reevaluate ourselves or our feelings. We do, however... Need time. To cool off, to think things out, and decide what's best for what you said: Both parties.

I'll have a talk with her the next I see her in person, doing such things via texting doesn't really show much compassion.

I will also follow your advice... I will not speak to her until spoken to (Thanks for the drills, pops), and apologize when she confronts me.

@Miney: I still trust her, even after she admitted she had feelings for another man. She was open and honest about it, and the guy said that he doesn't want to get between her and I. However, they are still good friends, that happen to be attracted to one another.

@TGat: I hope you can understand what I'm trying to portray... And it also helps to know someone's empathetic about what I'm going through right now.

[quote=Zunoku]@Miney: Have you read the previous posts between me and @xenspyder...?
The person she's feeling for, along with her, will not try to interfere with our love lives, and she will not go any further with him; They agreed to stay good friends. They still like eachother though.[/quote]

Oh. I only saw first comment when I was typing this.

Still, she's had feeling for others.
Maybe it's me but I won't able to trust her again.
I'll be constantly wondering if she's doing the same thing again in near future.

@Miney: Have you read the previous posts between me and @xenspyder...?
The person she's feeling for, along with her, will not try to interfere with our love lives, and she will not go any further with him; They agreed to stay good friends. They still like eachother though.

So many dramas in between.
I sorta chuckled when I read "..I thought you knew me a bit better than that... I wouldn't go anywhere without you..."

Anyway.
I mean, you already know that she has feeling for someone else.
That's pretty much, over, no?

Just sleep it off.
If you feel like you still want to work it out, give her couple of days & try to talk it out later.

@Hydrown: She told me to go to hell... I told her I wasn't going anywhere without her. Smooth? Probably not. True? Yes.

@TGat: Ouch... It seems you are correct... I was trying to convey the message of "I know what I've done, and I'll give it my all to correct my ways."
I know that it can still be interpreted as "a potential to happen again", but it's difficult to find the right words when your message is more of a feeling, rather than an assortment of words.

@Ronny278, and @EffinJoog, It looks like the majority of you believe that it is best to just let the dust settle, then piece together everything afterwards.

@Hydrown, It's almost her birthday (December 19th), and I was going to bake her a cake, along with a card and a hand-made ring I created on my dad's workbench... I hope it will help...

Give her space and wait for her to reply. NEVER seem too clingy or needy. But when she does reply, be sweet and kind.

just give her space for now. Trying to talk to her while she is angry will only make it worse. Just wait till she talks to you first.

@Novelist: Please elucidate... I don't see how simply dropping the relationship is at all rational, or mature. Maybe it's just me, but it seems cowardly.

@TGat: Can you please explain? I meant it when I said that, I'll do my best to do so.

@xenspyder: I see what you're getting at, but we still love eachother. It's only natural for someone to like another, we can't control it.
And her taste in friends is better than most; if she likes someone, I know that they're someone I'd probably like as well.
But we still love eachother, regardless whether or not she is falling for someone else.

@BlueDraco: I personally think [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xY0HCKOmrW0&ob=av2n]Shinedown - If You Only Knew[/url] is more accurate.
That song does have quite some depth to it, though. It helped... Thanks.

@jaesang0: She's completely ignoring me right now... I will do what you said by letting her know that, but not at the moment. She's asleep, and waking her would only make her even more pissed at me than she already is.

@Hypnotic: I'm not sure if the quadrillion thoughts playing pinball in my head will let me sleep... But I'll try... Tomorrow... I'm not going to sleep tonight; but I'm going to abide by what you said and give us both time to sort things out.

@xenspyder: The guy she is falling for lives in Florida. And he knows he can't be with her, and he too wants us to be together, just like the individual who called me.
I'll do what you and @Hypnotic, say... But it's going to be murder doing it.

@jaesang0: I'm not one to submit to, well... Anyone. But I make a very large exception with her. She is the only thing I have to lose anymore... I've already given her everything.