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she said the d was too small...

my friend girlfriend just got out of a 5 year relationship with her ex and said she "moved on" and is seeing someone else but my friend says that she cant open up to him and doesnt feel comfortable when she tries to and she doesn't know why. she's an extremely blunt person and will say the truth even if it hurts that person and is irritated easily o_o. what should my friend do? he says he really likes her to and that he wants to make his relationship work but i keep telling him he's trying to hard and i told him to break up with her! she also said the first week they've dated that she really liked him but her feelings stopped growing for him.. they only dated a month ==;..

@LordZubin: I think you may be right... buts it just feels sad. She was my first, and though she had problems and probably not the right one for me... i still can't help but just feel like i care so much for her.

@CeroFX: It seems like you guys fell out of love permanently. If you guys only were together for six years and couldn't stand each other and lost your feelings for each other, then I don't think you two could or should be together for another six, eight, or even twenty years.

[quote=LordZubin]@CeroFX: Gonna need more than that, bud.[/quote]

6-8 year relationship. We started taking each other for granted, she couldn't accept some of my habits/flaws, i could accept hers. We both started feeling less attracted / sparkly about each other. Basically she didn't give me what i wanted, and i didnt give her what she wanted. She did that first, but i was okay with it so i didn't care, but soon i stopped acting like a perfect bf which is when she started not liking it. Shes not willing to try again, says its too late and have no feelings, where I am willing to try again.

@CeroFX: Gonna need more than that, bud.

How do i get my ex back

@iRollin: What Laker1294 said. And if you can recognize any of her friends, just ask them if they could introduce you guys or ask them where she's been and say that you've been meaning to ask her out on a date.

[quote=iRollin]@LordZubin: okay i haven't seen her in over a month around campus or on the volleyball court. i don't really know any of her classes or what major she is and i still feel like i'm too nervous to talk to her anyway.[/quote]

Fear is all in your head. What's the worst that can happen? If you talk to her, you might have a chance. If not, you'll never know. The next time you see her, you could introduce yourself if you haven't already and ask her to hang out. Be confident. Women are human too. Don't forget that. If you fail, you could move on or try again with her. Good luck. You don't have to take my advise though if you don't like it.

@DrizzyTheD: Sounds like a problem.

@OneStepAtATime: I think you should tell him you have a kid and then tell him that you have feelings for him. Just tell him the entire truth, including that you really like him.

I've been talking to this guy for quite a while now, he said he likes me, i like him too alot but i couldn't tell him that because im scared. The truth is i haven't been able to tell him that i actually have a kid (2 year old boy) from a previous relationship. Im so scared that if i tell him it would scare him away i dont know what to do, should i just not tell him how i feel and remain just friends with him?

@CaliSwag: I mean, just get out there and talk to some people that you're interested in. If you and the other person want to go further, then go further. Some good places to find people you're interested in: class, library, the gym, a music club or weekly concert location, a sports club, an academic club, and cultural clubs.

@CasualDude: My best advice to you is to start dating when you want to have a girlfriend to have someone to share moments with, not just to say you have a girlfriend. I'd also advise people to start dating after they can either drive or get a job; not much is free.

I'm unsure whether or not I want to start dating at my age (15) right now, though I do find the thought of having a girlfriend to be nice.

@AndehZZZ: Girls show that they're interested in different ways; it depends on the girl. You haven't told me much for me to be sure if she likes you or anything. If you know her friend, you might as well talk to her friend and have that friend introduce you to her or something. Also, she's just a girl, talk about normal things. Ask her how school's going and such.

@Emotionn: Why don't you just talk to her while walking home or chat her up on Facebook?

At the beginning of the year I was really close with a friend, and it turned out that she walks home the same way as me. But then, month(s) later I was packed with state competitions and tests, and I had to stay after school on the days I walk. She found a "new" person to walk with and as the competitions and tests seem to calm down a bit I realized that we aren't as close anymore. She's a great friend, but we aren't as social as before. Especially because of the new guy she walks with. What can I do to make us close again? I walk home 3 days a week

@KingMenelaus: At this point, you're just gonna have to say hi and introduce yourself and hope you can converse on the spot without getting nervous.

@LordZubin: Then try and talk to her and her friend. If that doesn't work, just bump into her at the library or something. Although this sounds stalkerish, find out what library she studies at and just happen to be there as well. Ask her about what she's studying for and if you're good at the subject, tell her you can help her if she wants. If she talks like she's really busy and under pressure, just brush it off and try some other time. Just make sure that she knows you exist.

[quote=trashed]ITT
Everyone: "i am attracted to this person because i realized how desperate i am"
OP: "go for it"[/quote]

I think the OP is trying to give advice, its just that everyone has the same problem

ITT
Everyone: "i am attracted to this person because i realized how desperate i am"
OP: "go for it"

@iRollin: Just go up and talk to her; every minute you don't talk to her is a minute you'll regret later in life. There's nothing to lose, just introduce yourself and you guys will probably hit it off.

@goCry: Why does that matter?

@iDebauchery: Just do it.

@klutzy2: As Laker1294 said, tell her that you are straight and that you just want to be friends. If she continues to make it awkward, give her an ultimatum, that either she stops talking about liking you and you guys remain as just friends or you two stop being friends.

[quote=klutzy2]i've been confessed to by a bisexual who i'm friends with, and i'm straight. For now, i've been avoiding her and have no intention of continuing our previous relationship. What do i do?[/quote]

Tell her you're not interested and that you want to be just friends.

i've been confessed to by a bisexual who i'm friends with, and i'm straight. For now, i've been avoiding her and have no intention of continuing our previous relationship. What do i do?

Too nervous to talk.

@opmeTK: I don't understand what your point is.

@KingMenelaus: Do you have zero opportunities to talk to her, as a legitimate reason? There's always the classic physically bump into her and say you're sorry and chit chat or somehow get her to drop her books and pick them up for her. Or you could just, you know, talk to her and make it known that you're confident and into her.

[quote=NoobCake]This thread is still alive...I feel old.[/quote]

It's only been two years...

This thread is still alive...I feel old.

@Dauntaro: Thanks a lot. Though, I'll be glad if this thread dies since it'd mean that Basilers are able to solve their own problems concerning friends, family, and partners.

This thread is over 2 years long and it is a single-person contribution thread.

LordZubin you are my hero

@Kingzer: You should stop obsessing over every little detail. Relax and enjoy life, college will be better. Sounds like there's gonna be a lot of drama seeing as you created three threads about it. Just don't talk to her for a while until you have your thoughts straight.

http://www.basilmarket.com/forum/2762560/2/45119072is_this_girl_interested_in_me.html#45119072

http://www.basilmarket.com/forum/2764192/2/45134029is_this_a_bad_thing_about_the_girl.html#45134029

my question: http://www.basilmarket.com/forum/2765150/3/45146020how_do_you_deal_with_this_girl_leading_on_for_3_months.html#45146020

please look at the three threads i posted... i will greatly appreciate your help!

@KingMenelaus: Introduce yourself to her during breaks, in the hall, during lunchtime, or after school. Maybe talk to her friends more and then get them to introduce you to her. Just don't be nervous or timid, I'm sure she'll like you.

@fradddd: I sometimes reread parts of the thread for ongoing stories and I remember most of the long-post ones.

@scientistB: I think you should just move on, especially if there's a distance limitation and she doesn't even attempt to put effort in talking to you.

@LordZubin: Long Story, really. We did go to the same school, but I didn't know her until I moved on to high school and my friend told me about her. And since then we were talking for quite some time.

@HannahMontanas more like how does this OP keep his account with so many opportunities for sex jokes on this thread?

Also, how the hell does he keep track of all the questions?

@ineedhelpplz: How do those correlate?

@Dorks: Why, thank you!

@HannahMontanas: People have their problems.

@scientistB: Do you know her from the internet or were you guys neighbors or classmates at some point in time?

@LordZubin: Probably just ignorance. She puts no effort into us, so... I guess I see her priorities.

Welcome back and happy almost 2-year anniversary!
-shys away-

@gangar23: Good for you, you did the right thing.

@achyif: Thanks!

@scientistB: Don't give in to violence so easily. If you can't go to her house, then just tell her over the internet about it. How does she not know her address?

I know I've written this somewhere before, but I really don't have a choice as it's kind of an emergency and a race against the clock.
*takes deep breath*
My person and I love each other very much but there's this idiot I call Dutchbag who has been trying so hard to separate us, and thanks to him I haven't seen my person in four months. She doesn't have a phone or anything so I am highly unable to communicate with her because she barely uses her computer as well. Not only that but because he's somehow her friend she doesn't wanna make him mad or anything since he has very frequent emo trips. As a result he gets to see her like every week just to try and seem better than me. Heck, he even gave up his 3DS and Pokemon Y for her just to 1-up me in gift giving. I wanna beat this kid up so badly but I don't wanna get in trouble with my person. I would talk to her about these problems but it must be in person. If I simply emailed her, nothing would get done because she doesn't take words seriously over the internet. I really wanna go to her house but I don't know the address, neither does she, and she doesn't wanna ask her mom for it because she's afraid of her.
One problem leads to the next and I have no idea where to start first.

I am surprised that this thread is still active
props to the TS

@TaintedLights: Just talk to her? You're in your second or third year of university and you don't know how to talk to a peer?

@gangar23: If you see her again, talk to her about it casually is the best I can give you. But yeah, it might be that she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to lead you on; although, she shouldn't have agreed to go out on a date if she didn't want to lead you on.

@4evavoodoo: You should just talk to her in school. If she's too nervous to talk to you face-to-face, then perhaps she's interested in you.

@LaughItOff: A picnic in the park is always fun, unless it's like freezing outside. If not the park, then treat her to dinner at your place with or without a group of friends. Watching movies after having dinner at your place is also fun, especially with other people. Or invite her out with your friends (make sure there are some girls there, too) when you guys are going hiking or playing some sport or something. Take her to some college club or student association, some of those are really fun. There are a ton of things to do, but cooking definitely impresses girls.

[quote=4evavoodoo]Well i have a crush who goes to my school im lets just say to nervous to talk to her irl and shes to nervous to talk to me irl aswell therefore we only talk on fb but now ive semm to run out of convo starters
So i would like to ask about some convo starters that r not gonna be creepy or awkward[/quote]

I dont even think this guy goes on basilmarket anymore... If you want help then just make a thread about it.

Well i have a crush who goes to my school im lets just say to nervous to talk to her irl and shes to nervous to talk to me irl aswell therefore we only talk on fb but now ive semm to run out of convo starters
So i would like to ask about some convo starters that r not gonna be creepy or awkward

Umm

There is a girl, she likes me during 1st year of university, I didn't liked her because her feature is kinda weird, she is like mixed with asian and white, umm during the classes, we just never communicate, (I think she is pretty shy I guess), she's like stares me all the time...

But then during 2nd year of university I realized, she got decent personality and good looking size, I reconsidered with my mind, so I tried my best to ask every student, friends I know about this girl, and trying to find her in my school.

Since school starts till now I can't find her, maybe one day during next semester she will be in my class, but I am worried she will be getting bf soon, but thats freaking impossible, she definitely wont get some else if she likes me first and then I tried to get her.

I did something stupid which is like asking my teacher which teached me during 1st year to find about the course handout with contains every students e-mail address from one of the class, once if I found her e-mail, what's the best way to say? (idk why she doesn't even have fb or stuff sigh...)

@nattl532: That could work, or you could just talk about generic things like classes, sports, and such if you know her from a team or class.

how do i talk to a girl that ive never talk to before without being awkward, should i do it over social media first?

How do you freakin' follow this thread. Geez.

@LeroyJenkins: What's your reason for fighting him? Isn't it good enough that he's been rejected by people?

@LeroyJenkins: If you're going to resort to violence, don't do it at school. Maybe you should tell your friends to stop egging you on and for them to do something about it if they hate him so much as well. Try and get away from that negative talk for a while and then see what happens.

@WiziLiCe: You could go to AA meetings or meet a counselor or a theraplst.

I have a problem with jack daniels, I find myself coming back to him every time! I'm loosing quite some money on it as well.