Love Hurts lt/3
Simple as I can put it...
Girl likes me
I like her
can't date cause my parents are against me dating due to "cultural barriers"
Will be living together with her in college in about 2 months
-Should I challenge my parents trust and date her secretly?
May 6, 2014
16 Comments • Newest first
You're an adult so do what you want. If your parents wanna threaten you then you can just tell them that they would never see their grandchildren
Are you parents religious or high class people?
@Likwid: Like I said, "cultural barriers", my parents are first generation immigrants to the US while I've lived here my whole life. I understand the difference in opinion but I wish there was a way for me to change their mind. (They believe in 'arranged marriages')...
[quote=Likwid]If you're older than 18, screw your parents. They can't stop you[/quote]
I'm sure this applies to everyone else as well but
my parents have taken care of me since I was a child. Given me everything I wanted and of course I'm going to repay them by becoming a respectable and successful adult in college. However I feel that by ignoring their wishes it will be completely counter intuitive and in the end my relationship with my parents will definitely be strained,
[quote=Liam]you're not officially dating and you're already gonna move in with her 2 months in? l0lk.[/quote]
we've known each other for 4 years (throughout high school)
First year we'll be getting an apartment (dorms aren't the best according to juniors and senior of the respective college) We both will also be majoring in very similar fields
pre-med nursing while I'm doing pre-med bio-med soooooo its all the more reason to live together (as we can help eachother out)
Parents aren't strict about who I move in with and obviously she wants to move in with me for the same reason I want to move in with her (we like each other)
@Icephoenix21
This is the exact reason my parents don't want me to date her. She's Christian and I'm not. Neither of us are hardcore about religious.
Lol what? Dude who gives a f about your parents its your life do what you want...
Er no screw your parents. Date the person you wanna date, your dating the person to make yourself happy not your parents.
[quote=Icephoenix21]You would think, huh? Unfortunately that's not always the case. Depending on the situation, parental control can complicate things quite a bit. For example, if my parents knew that I was dating someone who wasn't Christian, they'd pretty much cut off all form of communication with me. It's actually ridiculous. My boyfriend had to basically lie to my parents in regards to what he believes. It's just so wrong ~_~[/quote]
I really think it's wrong how parents can use something like that as leverage to control their childrens' lives.
[quote=xtripled] Do i regret it? no, i enjoyed our time together.[/quote]
I feel that this is the proper attitude to have. Throughout every relationship, regardless of what your parents have to say about it, something can be learned and gained from it. Some relationships just aren't meant to last forever.
[quote=Ness]Are you serious.
You're in [b]college.[/b]
You'd think people would be able to live their own lives by now and stop listening to some of the dumb things mommy and daddy preach to you.[/quote]
You would think, huh? Unfortunately that's not always the case. Depending on the situation, parental control can complicate things quite a bit. For example, if my parents knew that I was dating someone who wasn't Christian, they'd pretty much cut off all form of communication with me. It's actually ridiculous. My boyfriend had to basically lie to my parents in regards to what he believes. It's just so wrong ~_~
[quote=xtripled]sure, date her secretly and i'm sure most basilers will tell you "who cares about what your parents approve of, it's your life" and that's nice and all, but i'll give you the perspective of some one who values their parent's approval a lot. I've dated a white girl who i knew my parents would never fully approve of (they've had dinner a couple times, were able to be nice to one another and stuff) but i didn't care at the time cause i was interested in her. We dated for a year or so but then she started getting pissed that my parents would never approve of her, and that just caused more fights and we grew apart. Do i regret it? no, i enjoyed our time together.[/quote]
Your parents didn't approve of her because she was white?
Man we da best race in da wrld, we ownd half da wrld once man. das so racist, whit ppls nevr racist. we da race 2 be at yo
Are you serious.
You're in [b]college.[/b]
You'd think people would be able to live their own lives by now and stop listening to some of the dumb things mommy and daddy preach to you.
i guess it'll be good experience for you
sure, date her secretly and i'm sure most basilers will tell you "who cares about what your parents approve of, it's your life" and that's nice and all, but i'll give you the perspective of some one who values their parent's approval a lot. I've dated a white girl who i knew my parents would never fully approve of (they've had dinner a couple times, were able to be nice to one another and stuff) but i didn't care at the time cause i was interested in her. We dated for a year or so but then she started getting pissed that my parents would never approve of her, and that just caused more fights and we grew apart. Do i regret it? no, i enjoyed our time together.
kill urself
you're not officially dating and you're already gonna move in with her 2 months in? l0lk.
If you think your relationship is going to last do it but ask yourself, would you lose your parents for a girl that could possibly break your heart in a few months/years?