I have a problem with my friend.
[i]I'm posting this for a friend who asked me for some help, and I don't know what to really do. So if you could help me out here, that would be awesome.[/i]
"Well there's just something that's been bugging me for awhile now and the only way for me to feel slightly better is to share it with you guys. Bare with me.
When your best friend changes, it's hard to accept the fact and think like nothing has changed. I'm not here to write a perfect essay or here to throw morals and values around. I just want to get this thing off my mind and move onto something more important. I don't think I want to share specific details about her because I'm afraid that she'll find out about this thread and...I'll end up feeling worse.
Anyway, I can't directly speak to my best friend or anyone else because I'm probably just exaggerating and being dramatic. She doesn't deserve to put up with my problems since I've recognized them really early in the stage and it's not too much of a problem that I need to talk to her about it. My best friend and I would always chat on MSN everyday and talk freely without feeling awkward at any point. We would talk about our favourite musician one moment and then have a deep conversation about sexual terms, and PMS another moment. All without judging each other or thinking that we're the craziest people on this planet.
Our personalities are extremely weird because we could either be similar in every way, yet we can be complete opposites. The funny part is that it's not even a coincidence; it has happened countless times and every time, we would either be like, "ME TOO" or "NO ____is better." I mean, back then, people would always think that we're fighting because of how we abuse our capslock. You might think we're immature; however, I know that our relationship is serious, considerate, and respected.
It wasn't until she started hanging out with another group of friends. At first, we were just meeting each other and talking about general topics. I'm friends with some of them, she's friends with most of them. I'm consciously feeling jealous about the fact that she's talking to them more and more frequently, while gradually slipping away from what we used to be. I know this might seem selfish of me, but I'm trying to accept it and go with the flow because it's not even a big deal. So far, it hasn't been working for me.
Well Basil, I can't believe I'm saying this, but I need your help."
[b]To summarize: Basically I need advice on how to cope with a friend who has changed into someone you feel uncomfortable with. Also, how can I deal with the fact that she's hanging out with other friends more frequently?[/b]
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I grew out of all of my elementary school friends by grade 10. Never hung out with any of them ever again.
Nothing you can do,but obviously,but i'm guessing you can either try to move in with her group of friends or just move on with yourself.
My best friend apparently coped with the "problem" by never speaking to me again.
Honestly, I think you should just let it go and try to find someone else whom you can share the same relationship as you did with this girl. You can't force her to not hang out with whoever she feels like hanging out with. And lets be honest about the whole "try talking to her about it" type of thing because eventually it will lead to something along the line of you being the jealous type and not being able to branch out more "like she did." Did SHE start to hang out with other people or did other people find her? Well anyway, I mean you can continue trying to have this close friendship with her, but I think this will lead into someone being really hurt, and that someone is you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3n0vBcW5fc&feature=related
lol
on a more serious note, try the things your "friend" is into. if it doesnt work then your "friend" should get some actual friends
Your [i]"friend"[/i] should just move on.