Girlfriend found out that Ive smoked weed before
Yesterday, my "friend" told my girlfriend that I had smoked weed before. He knew I didn't want her to know, and he also knew that she is very strongly against drugs. Besides the fact that my friend is an ass, my girlfriend's now pretty mad at me. She's saying it's not okay and that she's really disappointed that I gave into peer pressure. Honestly, trying marijuana is not even a big deal but the way she's talking about it, I don't even know how to fix the situation. Anyone have any tips or things I could say to her?
September 15, 2013
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stop weeding
She's mad you say ? You know what helps cheer people up... Maybe, just maybe, the problem IS the answer ! Sharing is caring..
having a gf this sht
any year after 420
Spark her up.
Go hit her up and maybe she'll think otherwise. hehe
Thanks a lot for all the tips and responses. Yeah I would drop my "friend" so fast, but we do so much stuff together that I'll wait it out and see if he is honestly trying to mess up my relationship. The girlfriend says she doesn't want to talk about it anymore so I guess that's that for tonight
just admit your mistake and ask for forgiveness srsly its not worth it to argue with her
tell her you haven't smoked weed after that incident and you learned your mistakes
How come whenever I make a thread about Mary Jane... I get banned within minutes?
OT: Tell your gf that it's a PLANT. You were curious and decided to try it. And tell her that it's not harmful at all and it is impossible to get addicted to it. Or just leave her and get someone else. I broke up with my old gf because she hated how I was a pot head and played video games/watched anime all the time. I like my life as it is now and don't want to change it just because someone else doesnt like it.
If you really like her and it was just a once in a life time thing, just tell her you're sorry and won't do it again because it was a mistake in the past.
Just be (semi) honest with her. Tell her that just because you tried it doesn't change who you are, how much you care about her and that you haven't done it in a long time and would never do it again because you know she's fully against it. Don't mention that you don't think it's a big deal, that will only aggravate her.
Stand your ground, OP.
Tell her to suck it up. What's done is done. If she's mad at you for something you did in the past (before being in a relationship with her, I assume), she trippin, bruh.
Also, your friend is sus.
@Mewtwo: no, i'm saying you know somebody who is absolutely crazy with messed up priorities
[quote=voyance]1. Trying Mary Jane is a big deal. It may lead you into deeper curiosity or at the very least get accustomed to it.
2. You knew what kind of a girl she is. She's against that stuff, why'd you hide it? You could've at least told her the truth indirectly.
3. Your friend is an ass. Watch out, he might make some move to swipe your girl off your hands. Especially now that she's not very happy with what she learned about your hobby.
4. Beg for forgiveness and don't lie to her. Given that you think weed is no big deal + she thinks it's a big deal, do you really think your priorities and values match with each other? Think hard about this.
I broke up with my ex-GF in HS because our values didn't match...I didn't like PDA, I didn't do weed, I didn't drink, I'm not the type who'd go to clubbing. She's the type who'd want to do stuff in public, she's VERY curious about drugs, she drinks, she wanted to go to club every time possible. Guess what, we fought about these things and I'm not willing to compromise for her.[/quote]
The people who speak from experience on this site give much better answers than people who speak from opinion
Do w/e the hell you want to do dont let some teenage relationship make your decisions
[quote=Deciduous]@Mewtwo: i should probably be clearer when posting, but that's far beyond what i associate w/ normal behavior. occasional/single times smoking weed are pretty inconsequential. going beyond that is where people should def worry (dealing, possibly getting caught) and the case you mention is insane just for the initial theft, let alone what it was used on.[/quote]
bich r u calling me a liar
[quote=remuchi]If smoking a plant is such a big deal to her, dump her straight up. There is a not worse things
Pimpin ain't ez big guy.[/quote]
Damn straight my thugga. Pimpin hella hard
@Mewtwo: i should probably be clearer when posting, but that's far beyond what i associate w/ normal behavior. occasional/single times smoking weed are pretty inconsequential. going beyond that is where people should def worry (dealing, possibly getting caught) and the case you mention is insane just for the initial theft, let alone what it was used on.
Toke it before you stroke it
[quote=Danessica]I know people who have stolen hundreds of dollars from parents for nexon cash.[/quote]
Dude lets save that for another time and focus on the weed topic.
1. Trying Mary Jane is a big deal. It may lead you into deeper curiosity or at the very least get accustomed to it.
2. You knew what kind of a girl she is. She's against that stuff, why'd you hide it? You could've at least told her the truth indirectly.
3. Your friend is an ass. Watch out, he might make some move to swipe your girl off your hands. Especially now that she's not very happy with what she learned about your hobby.
4. Beg for forgiveness and don't lie to her. Given that you think weed is no big deal + she thinks it's a big deal, do you really think your priorities and values match with each other? Think hard about this.
I broke up with my ex-GF in HS because our values didn't match...I didn't like PDA, I didn't do weed, I didn't drink, I'm not the type who'd go to clubbing. She's the type who'd want to do stuff in public, she's VERY curious about drugs, she drinks, she wanted to go to club every time possible. Guess what, we fought about these things and I'm not willing to compromise for her.
tell her you do it everyday
[quote=Danessica]I know people who have stolen hundreds of dollars from parents for nexon cash.[/quote]
well i guess im proud to be neither of those people
[quote=Deciduous]ugh, tell her to get over it
you did it in the past for your own reasons and it's not even a big deal. she doesn't need to be condescending about "disappointment" and "peer pressure" if she's going to be so blind to how tame of a drug weed is.[/quote]
it's not tame for everyone.
I know someone who stole 1000$ dollars from a community fundraiser to buy weed
shes one of THOSE people. no point in trying to reason with her. just say that you were curious and wanted to try it because michael phelps or one of those other generic white good guy celebrities that have been caught smoking weed had done it. then say you thought it was a horrible experience and there is no chance you would ever do it again. only say that if you are a good liar though
ugh, tell her to get over it
you did it in the past for your own reasons and it's not even a big deal. she doesn't need to be condescending about "disappointment" and "peer pressure" if she's going to be so blind to how tame of a drug weed is.
It's a big deal to other people. Just find a girl that smokes so there are no problems.
Well tell her that its something you did in the past unless you still do it now then you should break up with her to save youself the drama
She is right, it is not okay. Admit your horrible mistake and deep remorse to her and you may have a chance left.