I confessed to my crush, should I pretend likenothinghappen?
SO I really like this kid in my school, like a lot. Lately he had been sending mixed signals to me, so I am not sure if he truly like me or not. He say I look "nice" and then he always make eye contact with me during class, and wait for after class to talk to me.
Long story short....
So, my University just had graduation and he was presenting flags during the ceremony. After the ceremony I approached him, and told him that we had a great semester, and I will miss him. He said the same thing too, and how I was the funniest girl he had ever met. THEN, out of desperation, I blurted out, "yeah, It's not like I have a crush on you or anything" and I flashed a smile and walked away. He tried to call me, but I didn't respond, and de-activated my facebook and blocked all incoming calls (except from my mom and best friend). All semester long, I tried to get dinner with this person, but he says he is always busy, and if he is not he brings a friend. One night, out of a drunk stupor I called him asking if he wants to hang out, and he said "no, I have work to do." Afterwards, our relationship had been hot/cold/hot cold. He would sometimes talk to me and give me his undivided attention, other times he ignore me, or is kind of nervous/questioning. I wonder if I did the right thing, should I just ignore him for all 4 months of summer, until next semester? I am really tired of being in the friendzone area, so I guess that's why I confessed somewhat. I am really angry at myself for letting my thoughts slip.... What should I do?
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give him a booty call
He said you look "nice"? lolwat
That's really weird of you to ignore him and de-activate your FB. And plus, you don't seem to really like him, and he doesn't seem to be interested in you, either. So why do you even bother? What is up with kids these days
Are you really in uni? Cause that is some elementary school playground crap you pulled. Advise be an adult and talk to him and be straight about how you acted and what you want.
tell him again, but this time, scream at the top of your lungs to make sure he hears it properly
I agree with the above.
I think the above posts hit the target. As a guy, I honestly would think that you're not interested, which probably explains the hot/cold situation.
[quote=AugustRain]i cant believe these things still happen in [i]college[/i]
girl, you're the one who's been giving the mixed signals, "He tried to call me, but I didn't respond, and de-activated my facebook and blocked all incoming calls."
be direct with him. stop playing games.
*you didn't confess to him, you did it out of inebriation. it puts him in an awkward spot cus he doesn't know if you meant it or not. talk to him.[/quote]
If I were a guy, I'd be extremely confused as to what just happened. Not responding to phone calls, de-activated FB account, just leaving like that, it all seems so weird I would just give up and move on. Listen to August's advice, playing games like this at U is not a good idea. Willing to bet the reason he's been hot/cold is because he can't get a read on you at all. You seem scared of pulling the trigger on this one, hence his confusion.
Girl, you really need to learn to be decisive in what you do. GL with him, it's probably not too late just yet but you need to make your move today.
i cant believe these things still happen in [i]college[/i]
girl, you're the one who's been giving the mixed signals, "He tried to call me, but I didn't respond, and de-activated my facebook and blocked all incoming calls."
be direct with him. stop playing games.
*you didn't confess to him, you did it out of inebriation. it puts him in an awkward spot cus he doesn't know if you meant it or not. talk to him.