Friend zone maybe?
So I told the gal I've been crushing on for about 4 years how I feel about her. Her response was " I know we've liked each other for awhile now on and off, sometimes people just don't line up romantically at the same times and in that time they form they form a unique, odd friendship. This isn't a rejection, things are just a little crazy right now for me". I will admit her life is a little crazy at the moment though. She just had a bad breakup (He's not going to be back in the picture), her dad is going through a major depression, and her brother just got diagnosed with cancer. She did admit to liking me more than once though, so did a maybe get the gears rolling?
October 20, 2013
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[quote=Teleport]She told you that it wasn't a rejection and her reasoning behind not giving you a response, you've also said that she's admitted to liking you on more than one occasion. Isn't it obvious that it's not a rejection?
Maybe you should stop worrying about whether or not you've been friend zoned and start thinking up ways in which you can comfort her through the difficult time she is currently going through, in doing this you will show her that you truly care about her and your relationship may progress into something more meaningful once her other problems are resolved. And just for the record, who in their right mind asks a girl if she wants to date while full aware that she is in a situation like the one that she is in, you're lucky she didn't get upset with you for being so inconsiderate. >.<[/quote]
It's not like I didn't take all that into consideration. She's not the type to dwell on this kind of stuff either, extremely lighthearted. I've been doing all I can to help her out but there's only so much I can do. Even after I told her, we are still amazing friends unlike others who may avoid the other after something like that. I did not ask her to date me, I just told her that I wanted her to know how I felt about her because I know dating is not the best thing for her to be doing at the moment.
@romperz: great!
[quote=nattl532]i cant believe it, this crush thread is so honest, most of them are just full of s**t and lies, depending on her character, you could be on the hook, or she has other things in life to worry about at this time[/quote]
She is the most honest, kind, and caring individual I know. There has never been a doubt in my mind as to her character. She wouldn't leave me on the hook because she's not like that. If anything I'd have to guess she is saving me for another time in her life where we may stand a chance in order to protect the both of us.
i cant believe it, this crush thread is so honest, most of them are just full of s**t and lies, depending on her character, you could be on the hook, or she has other things in life to worry about at this time
friend zone doesn't exist, even if you're someones friend you can pull a Zoey 101 and eventually date her.
[quote=kellyboop]mang you confess when her brother gets cancer way to add more stress to her life youre an ass[/quote]
Actually she was happy I told her. We have just been spending so much time together lately it has been hard to focus on much else. It was eating me alive so to say and apparently it had been the same to her based on a message she sent me while I was asleep last night. I actually told her when I confessed my feelings that I didn't want any kind of action because I know how things are going at the moment. I just wanted her to know how I felt and that I'm here for her.
@nindow I will say I'm not trying to get into anyone's pants here. The feelings I have for her are more than physical, I care deeply about her which stems from us being friends for 16 years.
mang you confess when her brother gets cancer way to add more stress to her life youre an ass
dang 4 years without doing major moves? wow. otherwise than that, if this was in a normal scenario in which her life was not being thrown down the gutter, yes it would be a friendzone. in this scenario, no since she is in major trouble. or she could be using her life problems as not to get serious with you.
as horrible as it sounds, this is your moment to shine. take advantage of this in order to get her. if you mess up here, consider the whole relationship thrown into a public toilet.
How is this friend zone?
She just admitted to liking you. Now's not the right time, that's all
I don't blame you for telling her at a time like this though- my parents met during the worst times of their lives, stuck through it, and have now been married for 25 years
So it's up to you if you want to stand by her/fight for her. If you really like her very much, it might be something worth doing
Good luck brah