What do i do when i dont have friends?
well I'm a senior in high school going into College and throughout my high school life.. all i did was study so i could get into a good college... and just... study.
but you know how everyone has like those two or three really good friends that you can always trust? well they kind of disowned me as a friend and told me i was a good for nothing person and that they were pretending to be my friend... so i literally don't have any friends in real life. so what do i do? just wait til i go to college and make new, real, not-fake friends? or just live this life of being isolated without any friends?
April 21, 2014
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Well good news for you, I'm sure just about everyone is going separate ways after high school. Many of my friends have split up to different schools.
Once you're in college, you're in the same boat as just about every first years and everyone is a stranger to each other. Basically, it's a fresh new start. You can and should and need to be meeting new people in first year in order to survive there.
In other words, high school life doesn't matter anymore. It's completely separate from college.
May as well wait for college friends.
Just because once you make friends in hs, they'll go to a different college and you'll lose them, therefore back to square 1.
So may as well start from square 1 rather than struggle to square 4, then going back to square 1.
Yes the beginning of college is a great opportunity to make new friends. Make sure you live in a suite style dorm if you're dorming since those housing options generally have better community. Outside of dorming, join clubs and fraternities. Put yourself out there!
@Mooshelle: itll be soon! i hope ==;..
[quote=Jazziquai]Don't isolate yourself, probably the worst thing you can do in college.
Volunteer, church, clubs, or possibly work-study can be the easiest way to place yourself potentially to make friends. You have to be careful on churches though...
If you're a christian, which I'm assuming that you have some christian background as you are korean yourself, join Chi-Alpha because whether you are anti social or not or even christian yourself, they understand and will take you in regardless of your past or even present. People say it's a frat, but it's not. Joining a small group was the easiest thing I've ever done to find some of the closest, trusted, reliable friend.
Okay basil start criticizing me for being a Christian.[/quote]
No one cares that you're Christian.
Dude just be nice to people and try to get acquainted with them whenever you have the chance. You don't have to have everything in common with them you just have to get to know them and if you end up enjoying their company then deepen the relationship should you choose to.
just go up to someone and say "Hey d*khead be my friend lmao" you have to say lmao in real life
[quote=Mooshelle]Or did you pull a "I'm-too-busy-to-ever-pay-you-back" excuse with your real life friends too?[/quote]
ill pay you back sooner or later!
join a club at uni, you'll meet cool people
[quote=halfway]Make friends in college, it's a waste of time making friends your senior year because if you do as well as I assume since all you do is study, the only important people are going to be in your college. You need to make friends there because friends = Jobs and opportunity. If your friend thinks your a cool guy and his dad just happens to be a rich guy then your friend might introduce you to his dad and it just so happens his dad knows another rich guy who owns a law firm and you want to become a lawyer so his dad puts a good word in for you so the guy calls you up for an interview, he then thinks you're also a cool guy and boom you're a lawyer at a good law firm and you've made 2 people happy thanks to the connection through your friend.[/quote]
I disagree. Always good to make friends! I really regret not making any HS friends since when I go back home during the summer, I have very few people I can hang out with. In fact, one of my best friendships came by asking a girl from my HS out to the movies [i]after[/i] HS had ended. You never know where things take you, so not a good idea to limit yourself.
[quote=thief4vaal54]i cant make friends! im anti-social as hell! just look at me![/quote]
wtf u dumb
just join a club and you will get friends
dont be like @metaghost
Make friends in college, it's a waste of time making friends your senior year because if you do as well as I assume since all you do is study, the only important people are going to be in your college. You need to make friends there because friends = Jobs and opportunity. If your friend thinks your a cool guy and his dad just happens to be a rich guy then your friend might introduce you to his dad and it just so happens his dad knows another rich guy who owns a law firm and you want to become a lawyer so his dad puts a good word in for you so the guy calls you up for an interview, he then thinks you're also a cool guy and boom you're a lawyer at a good law firm and you've made 2 people happy thanks to the connection through your friend.
Have online friends.
Make it a point to join a club or two when you get to college and be as chill and open with people as you can be. Along with that, talk with your floormates if you're staying at a dorm and don't be afraid to chat people up. Don't do it expecting anything to come out of it, just talk to people and see where it takes you. Aside from that, don't shy away from drinking. It's a social thing and you can def. learn to drink without getting drunk or doing anything too stupid.
Aside from that, join study groups to meet other studious people you'll have things in common. Just don't give up bro!
Send me your resume and I'll contact you for an interview if you're eligible to be my friend.
[quote=Chachi]Why'd they disown you?[/quote]
idk o-o they said they were just pretending to be my friend. see me rise just to tear me down and watch me cry or something.
[quote=RandomUsername]make friends dummy
join clubs pref key club[/quote]
i cant make friends! im anti-social as hell! just look at me!
Make friends, it's not that hard.
make friends dummy
join clubs pref key club