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Things are not going well for me

Recently, things have been not going so well for me.
First of all, it clearly seems like my crush and I are going more into a friendzone.
We used to message a lot. And, she often texted me first. However, recently, we haven't been texting. Also, we don't really talk after chemistry class. (Have Chemistry together with her)
No time spent other than Chemistry class. Also, I don't know why but now it's hard for me to continue our conversation when we talk in person.
I feel more comfortable when my/her friend is there and talk. (3people talking) instead of just me and her.
How can I break this awkwardness I sometimes feel?
Also, in my opinion, I've been expressing my sincereity a lot, but she doesn't seem too interested in me.
If I ask her out, would things become different? Would she consider me once again?
Please share your opinions!
Thank you

June 4, 2015

9 Comments • Newest first

Krylancelo

If you're already in the friend zone, asking her out won't really make her consider you again BUT it will eliminate all the 'what if' questions you have. I'd say just go for it.

Reply June 6, 2015
AveryMBII

Off topic real quick I just wanna say that some of you on here need to take a hot bath and have a mug of tea or something.

Unless you don't mind just being friends then don't do anything. If I'm assuming that you've known her for a while then just go for it, there isn't any point in delaying the inevitable at this point in your life. Relationships, romantic or not, take time to blossom and thus there is no right answer to your plight as it is, you can only do what you can do so don't be afraid and go with the flow. As long as you keep moving, learning, then you'll get somewhere that makes you happy whether it was your original destination or not.

Reply June 4, 2015
FlushPhantom

Depends what route u wanna take. If u wanna play it safe, then just leave it be (don't fuss over anything, let your friendship go wherever it decides to) or take her by force, whether its asking her about romance or just kissing her out of the blue and hope for the best

Btw, chemistry class is the best class to have a crush in, since its open to so many chemistry-related pick up lines.

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited
WontPostMuch

Honestly man, if I were you, I'd just plan out a really nice date to invite her with. Something nice that'd make a great date and let her know you're interested without coming off too strong. I suggest something cute like a picnic or something where you can really spend time to know her. Ideally it will highlight the best parts of who you are as a person

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited
xdarkshynobi

@Xenoner Usually the deal break is she doesn't want to be seen in public with you. Don't put pressure on her, but you should ask her out. Is she okay with you touching her? If she is then you have waited way to long to advance the situation. Do something to get really close to her face. Little signals like these are how you can tell if shes interested. Hell I had girls send me nudes after writing a poem for her. BOY WAS I SURPRISED WHAT CHARM WAS.

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited
sighanide

i guess u need more chemistry.. heh.

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited
JoyfulCharm

[quote=Xenoner]Thanks for comments! But, could anyone answer my main question?
If you ask a girl out, would she think about(consider) you differently than before?[/quote]

Not sure exactly what you mean by "think differently" but....I would think yes because she would know you're considering her as a romantic partner and not just a friend (assuming she previously considered you as a friend and that she didn't know you had a crush on her).

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited
Xenoner

Thanks for comments! But, could anyone answer my main question?
If you ask a girl out, would she think about(consider) you differently than before?

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited
Ruew

i don't mean to break the chain of this entertaining flame war but i'd like to say:

well OP, at least you have chemistry with her

ask her out

"If you ask a girl out, would she think about(consider) you differently than before?"
obviously lol, you just took things from being friends to wanting to be more than friends. Of course things will be different

Reply June 4, 2015 - edited