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[quote=Preloved]I'm thinking about starting to play LoL since Maple's getting boring. You should help me get started.

@Ts: Like everyone is saying, the key to healing is time. I think you're already doing a pretty good job occupying yourself with things to do. I know this might be more of a girl thing, but do you like shopping? Try going to the mall and treat yourself with a pair of new shoes or something that makes you happy. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the breakup, give yourself some time to just relax and let everything out. That's how I usually dealt with breakups in the past and basically with anything that troubles me.[/quote]

hahaha, that's exactly what I did! I bought 3 pairs of shoes in the last 1.5weeks

@Preloved: Sure thing. I know a lot about League so if you have any questions, feel free to PM me whenever.

It's okay. You two meant something to each other before. But, don't stay hung over about her. Hopefully time will heal the wounds.

[quote=Nashi]@xetal: I talked to a coworker last year who is married for 30 years. She said they've been arguing about the same things they had argued back when they started (kinda funny...) and that people give up far too easily.
How'd you treat her bad? were you both loyal though?
If you do love each other and if you're open and flexible you can solve things but I guess for some it's not worth the effort or something *shrug*
you really must have learned A LOT from this though so be grateful she stayed by your side so long for you to grow. Your future relationship will go much smoother ^^
no prob at all. And don't feel too guilty. In the end it wasn't supposed to be, eh? You got a lot of positive things out of it (experience!) and in the end you'll be able to appreciate the memory more than anything. The pain really will be gone so take it easy for now. I've noticed that after years of practise I've started to suffer much less cause I don't take pain and all all that serious anymore so I just wait it out and look forward to when I feel better.[/quote]

We were definately very loyal to each other. The problem I gave her, I didn't neccessarily support her on some of the things she enjoyed. I know this was a huge mistake now, but my reasoning was just really dumb. She is 2 years younger than I am and everything she did and stuff I was always like "w.e" about it and stuff and never really gave too much attention to the things she does. Don't get me wrong though, I was always there for her when she needed me, but there have been many times I just didn't appreciate the things she enjoyed doing and this was one of the big lessons I have learned and in return, I lost her. Yeah, I try to be optimistic about everything. I tell myself if she broke up with me so easily, it was better now than later. The guilt just kills me because I now see all the wrongs I have done to her and I really wanted to make it up to her but now I don't have the chance. I'm sure the pain will slowly disapear but naturally, the earlier stages of break ups are really hard, especially with your "first love." I know there are many more other people out there, but right now I just want to get over this.

btw I really appreciate your insight! It seems like you have experience and the things you say are very "optimistic" and encouraging haha

@xetal: I talked to a coworker last year who is married for 30 years. She said they've been arguing about the same things they had argued back when they started (kinda funny...) and that people give up far too easily.
How'd you treat her bad? were you both loyal though?
If you do love each other and if you're open and flexible you can solve things but I guess for some it's not worth the effort or something *shrug*
you really must have learned A LOT from this though so be grateful she stayed by your side so long for you to grow. Your future relationship will go much smoother ^^
no prob at all. And don't feel too guilty. In the end it wasn't supposed to be, eh? You got a lot of positive things out of it (experience!) and in the end you'll be able to appreciate the memory more than anything. The pain really will be gone so take it easy for now. I've noticed that after years of practise I've started to suffer much less cause I don't take pain and all all that serious anymore so I just wait it out and look forward to when I feel better.

Don't give up on her yet, if the reason you guys broke is that dumb. Otherwise just keep close to your BEST friends and enjoy life to its fullest.

Each day isnt guaranteed.

[quote=Nashi]@xetal: O.o so she broke up while being upset? Are you sure she meant it? If you learned from it and you two love each other regardless you could try to fix it.. If you were able to stay friends for over 3 years you should actually be aware of each other, kind of sounds like you two lost sight of each other or became unaware that your partner is an individual (and not just a background noise of your life) caues it kinda sounds like you grew apart... being together for a total of over 5 years actually means something and to think it just ends that quickly something must have gone SERIOUSLY wrong...
you'll be fine though and I'm glad you mean having fun with friends and not with ladies xD I just got the impression that a lot of people think it's best to just waste away after a breakup when they just really shouldn't let something beautiful as love and relationships get ruined by one person.
Good luck to you! and try to relax a lot. ^^ try to also find calm/not busy moments where you don't think about her (by focussing on the moment), you could go for a walk in a forest or park and enjoy the fresh air and focus on the scents (case given there are flowers blooming in your area or the forest you'll be in has moist mossy ground) or drink tea or things like that there's a lot of calm things with a lot of sensual penetrations that you could focus on xD[/quote]

She was upset but she told me that "She came to the realization that me and her will never workout." After the days have gone by, I am now certain she means it so my chasing her is now over. I thought that if we loved each other, we would have made an effort to make it work. She moved on and I think if that's what she thinks is best for her, I should stop trying to get in the way of that. I think to her, this has been an ongoing thing because we always fought over the same things. I definately did not treat her the best all the time as I reflected. I took a lot of guilt from this breakup which definately made this breakup so much harder than it would have been.

Thank you for your support and insight! I really appreciate it. I know that time will heal the wound, but I'm just trying to find a way to ease this guilt and pain as time passes on.

@xetal: O.o so she broke up while being upset? Are you sure she meant it? If you learned from it and you two love each other regardless you could try to fix it.. If you were able to stay friends for over 3 years you should actually be aware of each other, kind of sounds like you two lost sight of each other or became unaware that your partner is an individual (and not just a background noise of your life) caues it kinda sounds like you grew apart... being together for a total of over 5 years actually means something and to think it just ends that quickly something must have gone SERIOUSLY wrong...
you'll be fine though and I'm glad you mean having fun with friends and not with ladies xD I just got the impression that a lot of people think it's best to just waste away after a breakup when they just really shouldn't let something beautiful as love and relationships get ruined by one person.
Good luck to you! and try to relax a lot. ^^ try to also find calm/not busy moments where you don't think about her (by focussing on the moment), you could go for a walk in a forest or park and enjoy the fresh air and focus on the scents (case given there are flowers blooming in your area or the forest you'll be in has moist mossy ground) or drink tea or things like that there's a lot of calm things with a lot of sensual penetrations that you could focus on xD

[quote=j1mhalpert206]theres really no way to force urself to get over it, just takes. i was hella heartbroke about my last breakup and was really depressed for about a week, then one day i woke up not caring about her anymore. to this day i couldnt care less about her and i see her all the time[/quote]

TBH this was what I was most afraid of in the beginning. I was a very wishful thinker for a couple of days after the breakup hoping we can get back together. But now, I'm more determined than ever to move on with my life and find someone who won't give up on us as easily as she did. I feed myself confidence to get over this break up. But even with this, it's still very difficult during times I am just idle.

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[quote=Nashi]Stay busy and let time heal the wounds.
Why exactly did you break up though? Whose decision was it?
and don't waste yourself and have "fun" nights.... what if you regret it in the future when you actually find the one? If you waste yourself to others then what's left to be special between you and your future partner really[/quote]

It was over an arguement pretty much and it was her decision. But it was greatly my fault too for I instigated it a lot. But I never intended for this to happen and I let my pride and ego get in the way. I've definately learned A LOT from this break up and I plan on treating the next person better. This breakup was VERY BITTERSWEET but I don't know if I'm glad it happened or not, haha. What I meant by fun nights was just going out with friends and stuff. Maybe clubbing and partying and stuff like that but not playing around with other girls. Once I sober up and return to school that is haha.

theres really no way to force urself to get over it, just takes. i was hella heartbroke about my last breakup and was really depressed for about a week, then one day i woke up not caring about her anymore. to this day i couldnt care less about her and i see her all the time

Stay busy and let time heal the wounds.
Why exactly did you break up though? Whose decision was it?
and don't waste yourself and have "fun" nights.... what if you regret it in the future when you actually find the one? If you waste yourself to others then what's left to be special between you and your future partner really

[quote=Harlequinist]Oooh, ouch then. I'd say use your friends to help, don't go out with other girls as a rebound (will only make you compare their flaws to your ex) and watch happy tv shows.[/quote]

haha yeah. I try to talk to friends as much as possible and hang out with them but they have their own lives too. As far as girls as rebound, I don't have intentions of talking to someone any time soon. TBH my mindset is just to have "fun nights" with girls cuz I have no desire to invest my self into another relationship for a very long time.

[quote=xetal]we've been talking/friends for 3.5 years and dated for almost 2. we broke up cuz of stupid reason which came to me as a shock. regardless it still sucks and hurts

edit: im down to talk to strangers and make friends on basil, haha. I don't want to like bore people though with my situation and story by ranting about it [/quote]

It's ok, I love you man.
Except I love @Aznseal more

eat 5 gallons of ice cream

[quote=Harlequinist]Lemme guess, you guys were together for 3-4 months, and had week anniversaries. On the 1st week anniversary you declared "luv u 4eva babe, cant imagine my lyf without you <3"[/quote]

we've been talking/friends for 3.5 years and dated for almost 2. we broke up cuz of stupid reason which came to me as a shock. regardless it still sucks and hurts

edit: im down to talk to strangers and make friends on basil, haha. I don't want to like bore people though with my situation and story by ranting about it

Try some upbeat music. It's what I do. If you become severely depressed talk it out with people. I don't mind helping out if you want to talk to a stranger instead.

There is no love. Only words to get what you want

I am 20 years old and it is also summer time so I have lots of free time. Getting is job is out of the question because I am moving in 2 weeks

Give it about a month or two maybe more?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBMYow46LxQ

Edit: She'll be with a black man so it's all good. She need some BBC.

Maple.

I play more video games and try harder on schoolwork directly after breakups.

I'm still not over one of my exes. I think she's the reason I play League so much.