Dont feel like quotThe Manquot in my relationship anymore
What's up basil, I decided to rant this out to you guys since im too self conscious to rant it out to people I know in real life, so here I go. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 5 months now, and we have had our problems of course, but everything has generally good. But recently, I have began to feel like less of a "man" with her now. For example, whenever we go grocery shopping, she always wants to carry the heavier stuff and wants me to get the lighter stuff, and when i do carry the heavier stuff, when I'm not having any trouble at all, she is constantly asking me "do you got it? do you want me to carry it?" she makes me feel weak . And when we go out to dinner and stuff, she never lets me do little nice things for her like open the door for her and pull her chair out for her. I grew up doing that stuff for my mom(she trained me lol) and I do that stuff a lot for when I hang out with my female friends. Like when I go grocery shopping with my female friends, they ask me to carry the heavy stuff and I happily do, and i always open doors for them. She also out farts me, but she does have ibs so I guess I cant get too mad at that. When I am with her, I just don't feel as "manly"' as when we first got together =(. I wanna tell her but I feel like I am tripping for nothing but then again I'm not sure. Any advice? I would really appreciate it
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Is she majoring in women's studies?
Be more assertive and start lifting weights if you perceive yourself as weak.
@urpleness
Thats not how I was raised at all lol. I would be taking even more blows to my self-esteem if I let her carry everything for me
[quote=xiBlameCoco]Maybe she thinks you do too much for her and wants to do more stuff for herself. That could be a reason. But honestly I wouldn't make that big of a deal out of it if she needed help with lifting and stuff I'm sure she would ask you.[/quote]
She only asks me to carry smaller stuff =( and we had a small argument about a month ago of her telling me that she doesnt think that I do enough for her, so i dont think its that. It is very ironic though.
@juiceboxes
No, no attitude, she just says 'No, i got it" and when i tell her that I want to carry it, she likes "No, i got it hunny" then i feel weak =P
@chaos0: Does she add any attitude during those moments?
like, as if she really does think that you're weak?
I could try harder to beat her to the punch. I just hope that it doesnt conflict with her wanting to do things
@crazeefun
We stopped doing anal because I always made her bleed a lot, and at random times, her hole would start bleeding, even a few days after doing it.
Working out makes me feel manly.
I do ask her a lot if she got it and if she wants me to carry it, she just says no she's got it so I let her be. I dont want to be aggressive to her though =P man im a wuss
Don't know what to tell ya except to man the hell up.
she's probably doing it out of kindness? maybe you should start doing it to her, asking "do you got it, do you want me to carry it" and be more aggressive (or was it passive-aggressive?). Like if you see her carrying the heavy stuff, ask her, then just TAKE it from her. she sounds independent imo and doesnt want you to worry over things she can also do? -shrugs-
you should talk to her about it, you may think its nothing, but you're feeling it, might as well get it out.
[quote=Irony]she has ibs? whats that[/quote]
Irritable Bowel Syndrome. It makes your bowels much more active than normal, causing to fart and poop more often
she has ibs? whats that
Im scared to tell her how I feel because then I don't think I would be ok with myself after letting her know that it bothers me that I dont feel "manly" anymore
EDIT: she has ibs, she has to fart more than usual because of it
Out farted you? I'm disappointed.
That's because you're beta as hell.
[quote=JuiceBoxes]why.
just why,[/quote]
I don't know
And no, she isnt kidding with me, she is being pretty real
why.
just why,