Mixed signals
ugh i just need a place to vent out my thoughts..
so there's this guy I like who i have an elective with. We got paired up a while back for something in that class and ever since then he started randomly saying hi to me whenever he sees me and even if he already said hi the same day. Like he will literally call my name and wave if we're in the same room or if he sees me. He's the type that is really confident and funny (which a lot of girls are attracted to). A while before we were paired up, he voluntarily came to help me on something we were doing individually in class, and also we were sitting in separate groups in circles on the ground one day and we just so happened to be sitting next to each other in different circles, with our backs facing each other. I felt his back press against mine slightly, and either of us could've scooted so that we wouldn't be touching (we barely talked back then) but neither of us moved.
All those signs make me feel like he might have some feelings for me, but recently I texted him for the first time over fb (cause i didnt have his number) to ask him something. He literally replied with one word answers..which just made me lose all hope lol. Nothing happened today for any reason for him to suddenly dislike me..in fact he was teasing me and said hi to me the same day. I guess he's just really friendly with people in person.
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@LowWillpower: You already know.
[quote=RitoPls]Is he white?[/quote]
Time to get to the bottom of things, [i]RitoPls style[/i].
Is he white?
NEVER judge someone over text or IM. Some people don't think about what they say, don't know how to text "correctly", or they just suck at it or dislike it overall.
Talk. In. Real. Life.
Post the conversation you had over Facebook with him, we'd be able to give you better advice if we could actually see it instead of relying on your interpretation of it.
Speaking from a guy point of view, your attempts to "signal" something out of him may not stand out enough. You need to take initiative to always say hi to him or show him that he matters to you. That should hint out anything he has for you too.
@Samla111: He's pretty friendly in general, which sorta adds to the thought that he probably just thinks of me as a friend, except for a few things i pointed out on the top. EX: he waves and calls my name a lot, which he doesn't really do with other girls. And his replies were literally just one word. Not abbreviations like "k", but like "ok". XD i feel so confused. I don't want to expect too much and end up disappointed.
How is he like with others (mainly girls?) and what's your definition of "short"? Is it just like, k, lol, or ?
I don't think what he has done so far are clear signs of having feelings for you; it's pretty normal to say hi to someone you know or just met (at least for me). Don't assume that he dislikes you because he replied with short answers, its very likely he was busy or just doing something else at the moment. There have been many times when someone would message me while I would busy with something and I would just reply with a quick answer. Often times I might get distracted with other things and not keep up the conversation.
It can also be harder to keep up a conversation through texts for some people especially if you don't know each other very well. Jokes/ sarcasm can easily be misinterpreted through text. He was probably just preoccupied or didn't know what to text to you about (since most of the times you text with friends about random things to pass time; rarely do you have a deep, meaningful conversation through texting).
If you like the guy then just try asking him out. Most of the times guys are expected to make the first move, girls will often just make hints and wait even if they really like him. It would make you stand out from other girls if you made the first move. The only way to know if he has feelings for you is to ask him; there's no universal "sign" that all people follow to show if they like someone. Good luck.
Ah I remember how wonderful high school was. From personal experience all I can say is don't fall for a guy like this lol. His one word answers are irrelevant to the situation, unless he's making a special effort to talk to you/get to know you his interest is something you should be skeptical of unless you really make a move to get things rolling.
It's called text game and it's pretty much standard in flirtation.
Don't get confused; those short answers were deliberate and your uncertainty was a desired effect.
That or he just really doesn't care to make time for you and is simply nice to people in the moment. To be honest, the whole back touching thing sorta hints at the former but don't jump to any conclusions before facts are revealed.
Maybe he's a really bad texter, but social IRL?
@Sammi: omg that video was hilarious haha made my day XD.
@halfway: you're right, he might've been busy, but i sorta doubt it He didn't even bother trying to keep a conversation going... It was like he was bored or something. And if he was busy, wouldn't he tell me or say more later? Oh well, no use dwelling on it. I'll give him more chances in person, but now i feel embarrassed for even contacting him over fb in the first place.
Don't worry about it! Have you ever had a text message conversation with someone that could keep the conversation going and had plenty to say but when you spoke with them in person it was kinda awkward or hard to talk about anything? Well if not I have and plenty of other people have too because that's just how some people are. He may not be awkward in person but he may be one of those people that needs to be in person to communicate well. Also if it's through facebook then it's pretty awkward, perhaps he was doing a quick facebook check and saw your message but was busy. Unfortunately Facebook notifies you at the exact time someone has seen your message so you kinda feel obligated to respond no matter what you're doing or else it looks like you're ignoring them so that might have been his case you just never know.
Don't assume anything over texting. Just talk to him in person, it's easier to read.
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just tell him you want the D. Or don't worry about it! jk don't do any of that because I'm stupid. Never mind I have no helpful input <3