Parents bad reaction to my religion
*Really in need of help with this guys, would appreciate assistance, I know it's not the best place to go but best to get comments from different people...*
So I've been a Christian for a little over 2 months now and my parents/family had no idea, they're of another religion (Druze) and think I am too, when I never actually have been, I know nothing about it and was taught nothing about it, other than that I have to marry a Druze woman. I was reaaaallly hesitant on telling them because I was scared of their reaction but it felt like I had to do it now so I told my mum. She spoke to me calmly about it but the things she said really worried/scared me. She kept trying to get me to stay away from it and convert back when I explained it was my decision, she then started talking about how it's such a terrible thing to do and how it would look on our family. Then she said that in the Druze religion, I wouldn't be her son anymore if I did that and I might not be welcome at home, I couldn't believe this but yeah...she was speaking and acting really calmly. My dad doesn't know yet and he's going to be angry 100% so I'm much more worried about that.
What can/should I do? There's absolutely no way I'm going to say I'm a Druze when I'm not, my beliefs simply don't sit there...do any of you know about situations like this? How did they turn out? Sorry for bringing in a religious topic here but I'm just so confused...
Thanks.
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fake it
too late now, but you should have faked it until you're on your own or until your parents are dead or something so that they aren't sad
or i'm sure that there are some people on basil that if you ask them they'll help you not be christian anymore
You can try slapping her really hard and hope she comes to her senses.
If that doesn't work and they kick you out, you could ask a friend if you can crash at their place for a while while you get your own place.
it's your own decision man but if it were up to me fake it out until you're stable by yourself, don't say you don't care about your other family members either they all care for you but you have to be able to be straight up with them one day or another
@Eldeon Stop trusting your mom asap. Don't make the mistake of trusting one parent and not another because as a married couple, they will always trust each other in some way and your mom is probably playing as a double agent for your dad. Honestly the only solution is to somehow stick it out until you can afford to move out. Or you can live in an orphanage but that'll be weird and awful
@SugarPapi
I'm honestly only close with my mum, I don't like my brother, don't talk to my sister, don't talk to my dad.
@HolyDragon
I can't fake it, and I don't want to, I doubt I'll be kicked out with nowhere to go, I planned to move out anyway if I found a job but they should give me something to go with so I can find a place to rent.
Seriously just fake it until you're on your own feet. I know many Ex-Muslims in your situation.
Your parents are dead set on this, Just fake it until you have enough financial stability to live your own life. People's belief in their religion have caused horrible crusades in the name of their god/s; you don't want to test whether they prioritize religion or their love for you.
honestly it is your life, do whatever you want.
but considering in you life you have family.... -sigh- family problems
think about your decision and consider your family's point of view, but ultimately it is your life not your family's.
if you are certain about this change tell your dad; it is better to get "the talk" over with than hiding it.
they will come to an understanding... hopefully. they r still ur family!