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Feeling really down

Yo basil, i honestly don't care if this thread gets any reply and thats perfectly fine too. i just needed a place to vent out and i felt here would be good, why i don't know. Anyway I'm feeling really down in the slumps. theres multiple reason's as to why so i won't get into that, its just that literally everything is coming all at once. im at the moment where im so down i have that feeling that i should just vanish, or "disappear" and that everyone would be better off. that may sound weak, but before you think so, you don't know what i endured through growing up. regardless thats how im feeling. i've done many things to try and quell the anger and suppress these feelings but my attempts haven't really worked out all to well for me. i guess what im asking for is some cheering up or something.

December 6, 2013

18 Comments • Newest first

rythendevil

I would say something, but skyenets nailed it

Reply December 6, 2013
BBisUnbalance

ive been really down (on and off, mostly on) since senior year of high school mostly because i dont feel like im accomplished or will ever accomplish anything, the one job i had, i worked at 150%, and they repayed me by laying me off (after making my pay go down to like $4 an hour and most areas becoming piece rated).

i cant get a job for anything.

Reply December 6, 2013
iDrinkOJ

Breathe. Relax. Take a walk. Enjoy the wonders of nature. Take life one day at a time. Look forward to tomorrow being a better day. Talk about your problems with someone. Whenever I feel bad, I stuff my face with food and have fun to forget the bad stuff. You can only handle so much stress in life. Try to learn how to handle it so you don't feel so bad.

Reply December 6, 2013
WeBelieve

It'll always get better! no matter how corny that sounds it is true!. Find a trusted adult or friend and talk to them about what is going on in ur life. surround urself with people who care and love you People will miss you if you vanished so please don't!. Make changes in ur life that u aren't happy about! I just want to give u a big hug rite now <3 please feel better [: ill pray for you~

Reply December 6, 2013
achyif

find a way to vent it out?
exercise
you can hurt yourself and be healthy at the same time

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SoggyToast

whenever you're in a really bad mental state it's good to be extremely gentle, forgiving and kind to yourself
you should treat yourself the way you would treat a really close friend or your child or whatever going through the same ordeal, like you'd still try to lift them but by not being too harsh or asking them to just pull up their bootstraps, no sympathy
if you need to cry you should cry, you wouldn't want someone you love holding it all in and having them be burdened!
idk if this helps but you can message me if you need an ear I can really relate to sad stuff

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chaos0

As a kid growing up I was beat, taken away from mother at a young age, molested by a step older sister,and suffer from high anxiety, low self esteem, and recently, one of my favorite aunties passed away, and my ex who was my gf for three years who I thought I would marry cheated on me in the worst way possible by sleeping with the guy who she is now with, and has even told me that I am a piece of crap and never wants to see me again even though she cheated on me. What is worse is when she cheated and left me, I was stuck at my house full of memories of her with literally no ability to leave while still mourning over the death of my aunty, and I was completely alone, all my family was on vacation, and being alone through misery drove me crazy. I have been through a hell storm of emotions, but I feel a lot better now but it is only because I believe there is a God that loves me, and He is putting me through tests. Everybody goes through horrible times that make them want to end their life, but don't succumb to that feeling. You are very important. See these experiences that you are going through as a test of life. Live and learn from them, find out who you are in this. Then just always try to find the positive in life. You need time to yourself to heal your spirit. Just stay strong, you will make it through these emotions and trials, and you will be much stronger when you do. Message me too if you ever want someone to talk to =)

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xtripled

you want some cheering up? come over to my place and i'll give you a night you'll never forget

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Wanton

get one of those stress balls or go to the gym and wreck a punching bag

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Dorks

umm if you really want to, you can PM me c:
everyone has problems and I'm dealing with my own but I've learned that I'm not alone either.

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Wordolio

"what i've endured growing up".

lol i would like to hear what you think is a hard time.

Reply December 6, 2013 - edited
demonicrack

Like what @Skyenets said, It's all natural to feel like that. I, personally have had that feeling. Being too crowded, too stressed, no time it seems. You just have to take it easy. If you have extracurriculars, stop going to them for a bit. Sports, just say to your coach that you feel under the weather. It's better to feel better mentally than to keep at it and damage yourself close to permanently.

Reply December 6, 2013 - edited
sano4444

[quote=LazyLazyLazy]How was your emergency spine surgery?[/quote]

its good i got one more on the back and the neck left to go.

@second poster: i tried walking earlier, at the same time i smoked a cig since they help calm me down. neither worked. same for music. its just one of those times where EVERYTHING piles up on you at once and makes you feel the way im feeling or like your purpose in life is gone and now your "lost". my emotions are all over the place and its just really eatting me on the inside.

Edit:@skynets: thanks for that detailed comment. i know all that, i do cause i've been through alot as well. but even knowing this its hard. its been a really long time since i last felt like this and its sudden. how do you take your mind off of what has you feeling like this?

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Skyenets

We all have our moments that everyone just comes at us at the same moment. Perfectly normal to have the feeling that disappearing or vanishing would be the ideal solution to all your problems. Everyone goes through that feeling at least once in their life. The thing is, all these problems will pass eventually and it will all return to normal. You might feel down right now, but next month or next year you might feel better than you've ever felt before. It's for that moment that you go through the bad ones.

Saying that you have the feeling that you should just vanish or disappear doesn't make you weak. It's a human thing, having that feeling. I've personally gone through a lot growing up. There were a lot of times that I wanted to disappear. There was even one moment where it almost happened. However, just a few years later I'm happier than I've ever been before. All the bad things just kind of disappeared instead of me.

Whenever something doesn't go the way you'd want it to go, just take a moment and relax. Things are going wrong, yes. But how will you stressing about something that is probably only temporary help the situation at all? It's like when you're running out of time and you start rushing things. The rushed result becomes sloppy and it would have been better if you didn't do anything at all even. So just take it easy. Things will pass. No need to lose your mind over them.

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ZestySoup

Listen to some music you like

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LeadIn

Why don't you take a walk to the park everyday? If there's on near you.

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Nolen

How was your emergency spine surgery?

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dadadada

well. i just read the title but..when i feel down i get high
grades on my act to cheer me up. i've taken like 20 act tests already and i got a perfect 36

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