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@bully: Thank you. This has inspired me to tell them! I will keep you updated!
Edit: Came out to two of my closest friends last night and it couldn't of went better!

i went through the same thing when i started college. it got to a point where i had my queer friends and my non-queer friends and having to balance that and make sure that my non-queer friends never found a single trace of my identity was really exhausting.

i told my friends one by one. the first one, i kind of incorporated it into a story. like i was talking about an experience and that was my way of coming out. after that was successful, i told the second one like pretty bluntly. i asked if we could get lunch and just i told her straight up. after that, i told the last 2 at the same time and they were actually mad that i hadn't told them sooner. they didn't really act any differently about it, so it worked out.

it is important to realize that coming out isn't like a one-stop-shop type of deal. it's a continuous process and sometimes you just have to constantly keep coming out to different people. like there are a ton of people in my life who don't know that i'm queer no matter how obvious i make it. and for me, telling people has never really gotten easy, so i just avoid it until i need to bring it up.

if you want your friends to be included in this part of your life and your identity, then tell them.

I appreciate the feedback, I really want to tell my close friends because I feel as though it's a part of me they don't know. But on the other hand, them knowing isn't going to change the way I act around them, so i'm in a predicament.

I never got the point of coming out. Just date whoever and then let people react when they see that you're dating that person.

whoever u feel comfortable coming out to
idk how but usually i bring it up in convos not in the "hey i need to tell u something" which is prob why my parents dont know but my nephews do

i went through pretty much the exact same situation as you! and i basically agree with the above, you shouldn't feel forced into coming out or telling anyone unless you really want them to know. it really won't make a big difference either way, despite how you're feeling right now. if it would make you feel more comfortable that a person knew about your sexuality, then tell 'em. if there's not really any need for them to know about your sexuality, don't tell 'em unless it comes up naturally. pride is a great thing to have but there's totally no pressure on you to wear your sexuality like a sign on your head, just do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. for what it's worth, out of all my friends and family i think i've only ever spoken openly with 1 person about my sexuality, and that's enough to make me feel comfortable. of course it might be different for you, but just keep that in mind

as for other outlets that might allow you to feel more open/liberated, i'd look into joining some lgbt clubs or societies at your university. they're not always great (biphobia is a lot more common in 'lgbt' spaces than it has any right to be), but odds are you'll find a few other people in the same boat as you

Is it necessary that you "come out", or should you just let the chips fall where they may?

To be clear, what I'm suggesting is that if the topic just happens to come up, say if you're being open about admiring someone of the same sex or just casually talking about whatever may be related, just be open and clear about the preference without making a scene out of it.

You seem confident that your peers will not treat you any differently and it's highly unlikely to be singled out for this sort of thing at university (hell, you'd probably be one out of a few hundred there with some alternative sexuality). I'd be willing to bet that making something out of it would do more harm than simply being passive, what with all of the snowflake parading and whatnot these days.