Im Awkward and Pathetic. Help?
So I haven't been on this site in about a year. I just came across a new problem that requires anonymous help from the internet, and I've always turned to here.
Anyway, so there's this girl (of course). Thing is, I can't talk to... people. I can never think of things to say, and if I say something, they give one word responses and things get awkward.
Also, I'm not exactly what the kids say "attractive to members of the opposite sex" both in a physical and behavioral approach. That might be a problem too.
Help?
May 5, 2012
16 Comments • Newest first
[quote=uoid]u need some swag start lsitenin to dat wolf gang dog get sum tips from my homeboi @SupremeOFWGKTA he has da most swagga on basil aint nobdoy can match up with him and he got some swaggin clothes yo he kno how to dress
and u needa start bein less mopey mayne get sum confidence[/quote]
u aint neva lied
What quite a few people in this thread have already mentioned...
Be yourself. Think of anything that comes to your mind, make random conversation. Talk about pretty much anything. It's good to be random here and there
Love yourself before you even have a chance of loving others.
Don't worry though, I guess I have the same problems as you to a lesser degree.
It's okay to be awkward.
I'm awkward and my girlfriend is awkward so it's all good.
I remember you.
Anyway, have a bit of confidence, probably smile a bit more if you don't smile much already. Just try to start with a simple "Hi, how are you?" once in awhile. If she doesn't try to start a longer conversation, ditch her and move on.
I cannot stress this enough, and I know you will not enjoy this, BUT BE YOURSELF, SAY WHATEVER IS ON YOUR MIND, SERIOUSLY, ANYTHING, AS LONG AS YOU'RE NOT LYING. If they don't carry on the conversations, but are truly interested, you carry it on with whatever is on your mind, no matter how blunt, stupid, random, or whatever else just keep going until it's obvious the other person wants to get out of there.
Confidence. It really does attract women (indirectly in some cases).
Just talk to her, the worst you can get is a swift "no" from her..
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idk why
but lots of ppl feel nervous when they talk to girls
i think its pretty normal, dont be scare
just being confident
talk to her like u are talking to ur friends
somethings like "hey what's up?"
then start a conversation about homework, classmate, tv show or anything
[quote=CrayonScribble]To put it bluntly, from what you have said you're ugly, have a repulsive personality and are unable to hold a conversation.
You want us to help you how?[/quote]
Give me money for a mail order bride.
hay mang, fix urself before you go chasing the ladies
the last thing some girl wants to hear is a guy moping about himself all the time
To put it bluntly, from what you have said you're ugly, have a repulsive personality and are unable to hold a conversation.
You want us to help you how?
[quote=Dorks]Don't worry, I remember you.
Quit pitying yourself. If you're not even remotely satisfied with how you are, don't even try.[/quote]
I didn't think anyone knew me in the first place. o.o
Well, I'll try. Thanks.
@HDWang92 Thanks for the tips
You could always try asking a person, "Hi there, how are you doing?" It's worth a shot. and then you can awkwardly glance at them if there's silence between the two of you. In which case you'd abruptly say.. "SOUNDS LEGIT" and you walk away.
I'm going to continue sipping my spicy cocoa.
Make an objective evaluation of yourself and work on whichever qualities you're dissatisfied with.
No one wants to be with someone that's an emotional wreck.
@below:
There is the very real possibility OP is referring to speaking, the thing people do outside of the internet, which usually doesn't involve typing.
Don't worry, I remember you.
Quit pitying yourself. If you're not even remotely satisfied with how you are, don't even try.