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im a pretty clingy person but i think im clingy because ive been cheated on.. twice and im just afraid of losing that person d: but i really hate that about myself and how clingy i really can be.. im trying to fix it but ya know its hard to change

What are your thoughts on clingy people?
If I liked someone and they were clingy, I probably wouldn't be able to tell. Why would I care? I like people, and I almost never get tired of them if I like them.

The girlfriend thing doesn't apply to me though so...

@pinoymystic: nothing wrong with that, just dont try to fool yourself into thinking that you want more when you really dont

If you call me every 2 hours for a check-in or within 1-2hours of seeing me, I'm sending a breakup text. Also we don't have to do everything together my lawd.
last girl I dated came to my pad to cook breakfast together before school

@Zoneflare4: pretty much right now. i'm content with friendship and don't want anything more.
@relax: i can see what you mean; however, i was more satisfied with the first person i was dating who saw my flaws of which i had. probably that's just me. then again, i'm just in no shape or form to date right now. i'm too much of a mess for anyone to handle and i know it myself. nor would i be willing to date anyone.

[quote=pinoymystic]i dont realize it until after a month or so of dating or actually talking.
because at first, we talk to each other for a reasonable amount of time. then it just becomes really hectic.
Im still pretty new to the dating scene to be honest and i have turned down a lot of clingy guys. but for my second boyfriend, that was my fault. i dated him though because i wanted to try it out. later did i realize how VERY clingy he was. he was so clingy, that he wanted to like everything I liked. He tried so hard to be good in my eyes. thats ridiculous if you ask me. plus he told me im perfect which is a no no. im far from that, mayne.[/quote]

The relationships that last the longest and tends to do best are the ones where the partners have 'idealized' views on eachother. Ie. they would describe the other person as 'perfect' even though they might rationally agree that "no one is perfect".

I don't mind "clingyness" as long as they can be rational about it. Ie. accept that my needs for solitude also needs to be satisfied once in a while.

i like clingy girls... i love attention.

[quote=RitoPls]I love dating someone clingy. I love feeling needed.[/quote]
We actually agree on something
@pinoymystic you sound like you just want a friend not a relationship.

[quote=pinoymystic]@thief4vaal54: i dont realize it until after a month or so of dating or actually talking.
because at first, we talk to each other for a reasonable amount of time. then it just becomes really hectic.
Im still pretty new to the dating scene to be honest and i have turned down a lot of clingy guys. but for my second boyfriend, that was my fault. i dated him though because i wanted to try it out. later did i realize how VERY clingy he was. he was so clingy, that he wanted to like everything I liked. He tried so hard to be good in my eyes. thats ridiculous if you ask me. plus he told me im perfect which is a no no. im far from that, mayne.[/quote]

I bet their all really clingy because of that stache they don't wana get close to you they wana get close to that stache!

Eh, it's okay to some degree. I don't mind my girlfriend being "clingy" when I leave to go hang out with my friends because she's joking and its cute, and I don't mind when she nags at me when it comes to making me do things I need to do (Homework, Laundry, Tax Returns, etc.). When it gets to the point of affecting my individuality or my illusion of free choice, that's where I usually draw the line. But in any good relationship your girlfriend/boyfriend/significant other will understand these boundaries and will probably have some of their own.

[quote=BornNew]I have a tolerance level for clingy. If it gets to a point where a person texts/calls me often on where I'm at, who I'm with, and what am I doing; I'm going be out of that relationship quickly. Heck I might even call it off via text if I find that person really clingy.[/quote]

o u c h ! you be breakin' girls hearts.

I have a tolerance level for clingy. If it gets to a point where a person texts/calls me often on where I'm at, who I'm with, and what am I doing; I'm going be out of that relationship quickly. Heck I might even call it off via text if I find that person really clingy.

@thief4vaal54: i dont realize it until after a month or so of dating or actually talking.
because at first, we talk to each other for a reasonable amount of time. then it just becomes really hectic.
Im still pretty new to the dating scene to be honest and i have turned down a lot of clingy guys. but for my second boyfriend, that was my fault. i dated him though because i wanted to try it out. later did i realize how VERY clingy he was. he was so clingy, that he wanted to like everything I liked. He tried so hard to be good in my eyes. thats ridiculous if you ask me. plus he told me im perfect which is a no no. im far from that, mayne.

Depends on the definition of clingy.
If she's clingy out of love and not clingy because she's freaking crazy, then I kind of like it. I like feeling needed. Also, they're less likely to cheat.

[quote=pinoymystic]I can't stand clingy people, but the thing is, I've been dating clingy guys. And i attract clingy guys that it freaking sucks.
I mean, i guess they care, but i just need my space. With my first ex boyfriend, i wasn't clingy with him in the beginning and he was clingy with me, but people told me i was clingy at the end? i doubt it because i still was able to do normal activities by myself. he just never bothered to visit me. my second boyfriend, oh lord. he just could not stop bothering me. i needed some air. he always complained on how clingy he was, but just kept clinging on to me so much that i just couldnt breathe.
If you
i can take care of myself though. i really dont need much attention. just give me a little talk, then ill be good. but if you talk to me too much, i cant talk to you and would most likely ignore you because i cant stand you for a while. i get really annoyed and need some time alone.[/quote]

If you don't like clingy people why do you date them? O__o you could always say the magical word NO even if u do attract them xD

[quote=billabong79]Lulwut?what makes u think I'm 15? Just cause I think differently doesn't mean I'm immature, what are you? 45? F3

fact: people fall out of love sometimes, and the other person remains inlove, so everything they do will seem meangingless, cause you secretly desire for them to let go and stop being "clingy". Seriously have you ever been in and out of love? When you love someone you look forward to their presence, messages, dates, not cringing at the sight of them or feeling that this person is too clingy.
but yeah relationships are not for me. Single ftw. [/quote]

my apologies, i didn't mean to submit such a thoughtless comment. i was merely saying w/e that was on my mind. im silly

i have no idea what your fact is talking about or how it relates to my flippant comment. tbh it was very hard to read cus ur thoughts and grammar were everywhere.
why i called you 15 is bcus i thought your comment was juvenile, "If you love them it wouldn't be called clingy." you can still be clingy while being in love. i don't want to be suffocated, i need my space.

I love dating someone clingy. I love feeling needed.

depends on how "clingy" and how much i love them

I can't stand clingy people, but the thing is, I've been dating clingy guys. And i attract clingy guys that it freaking sucks.
I mean, i guess they care, but i just need my space. With my first ex boyfriend, i wasn't clingy with him in the beginning and he was clingy with me, but people told me i was clingy at the end? i doubt it because i still was able to do normal activities by myself. he just never bothered to visit me. my second boyfriend, oh lord. he just could not stop bothering me. i needed some air. he always complained on how clingy he was, but just kept clinging on to me so much that i just couldnt breathe.

i can take care of myself though. i really dont need much attention. just give me a little talk, then ill be good. but if you talk to me too much, i cant talk to you and would most likely ignore you because i cant stand you for a while. i get really annoyed and need some time alone.

I don't really mind; although, within boundaries. I'm not really the type that gets too mad or annoyed very easily so maybe it's just that. With that being said, that boundary would be stalking me and calls within (roughly) every half hour. A few days of that I can deal but after that err...

[quote=billabong79]Lulwut?what makes u think I'm 15? Just cause I think differently doesn't mean I'm immature, what are you? 45? F3

fact: people fall out of love sometimes, and the other person remains inlove, so everything they do will seem meangingless, cause you secretly desire for them to let go and stop being "clingy". Seriously have you ever been in and out of love? When you love someone you look forward to their presence, messages, dates, not cringing at the sight of them or feeling that this person is too clingy.
but yeah relationships are not for me. Single ftw. [/quote]

most people have limits and boundaries. clinginess can still manifest when 2 people are very much in love with each other. i love my gf but if she's texting me asking where i am or what i'm doing all the time, i'd go crazy. we need some personal space too. at the end of the day, we're still 2 independent people.

I agree with everything billabong79 said.

Depends on what you view as clingy.

Lulwut?what makes u think I'm 15? Just cause I think differently doesn't mean I'm immature, what are you? 45? F3

fact: people fall out of love sometimes, and the other person remains inlove, so everything they do will seem meangingless, cause you secretly desire for them to let go and stop being "clingy". Seriously have you ever been in and out of love? When you love someone you look forward to their presence, messages, dates, not cringing at the sight of them or feeling that this person is too clingy.
but yeah relationships are not for me. Single ftw.

[quote=billabong79]Depends on how much you love them. If you love them it wouldn't be called clingy. If you dislike them, everything they do will be annoying frustrating and downright boring. Hence the words clingy and nagging. [/quote]

r u younger than 15

Depends on how much you love them. If you love them it wouldn't be called clingy. If you dislike them, everything they do will be annoying frustrating and downright boring. Hence the words clingy and nagging.

do no like, do no want.

i hate clingy ppl