its been 5 months
So I pretty much only post here about my girlfriend (now ex... ouch)
we broke up a couple of days ago. I know I've even said it here before and took it back but it's for real this time.
Honestly she's kind of an evil person. She admitted herself how our relationship has become abusive and she's the main abuser, she took my virginity when she didn't even have feelings for me, and she allowed me to treat her pretty nicely while faking her feelings for me.
I thought we had a really good relationship when we were together. We dated for 2 months in person. Looking back the connection we made was NOT as strong as I thought it was. I took it all way too seriously. She came out on top of it with a damn birthday present I got her, which kinda makes her a golddigger in the end.
She is actually a very sexy girl, so I'm not really upset about having sex with her at all. The entire time I was under an illusion that she had loved me. I don't know if she ever really did to be honest, all I think she is now is some evil, terrible human being. I think I did love her though.
Ultimately the reason we split was because she didn't have feelings for me. It had been a problem between us since I moved. She had lost feelings for me shortly after I had moved, but we stayed together for 3 whole months. The entire time it was pretty emotionally devastating.
Her reasoning: "I'm leaving because you deserve to be with someone who loves you."
Our 5 month anniversary was in two days.
Breaking up, I am really realizing how EVIL she really is... makes sense too because her mom is evil too. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree I suppose.
I was upset about it yesterday. I was in straight denial all day. Today I kinda had a farewell with her and now we are done talking. Now I'm realizing she's evil and I am kinda glad it's over. I could never date her again
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The best thing you can do right now is to avoid reaching out and contacting her, it will hinder you from being able to move on.
It seems you're still very young in experience with life. Let this mature you and don't make the same mistake. Find someone else that's probably the easiest thing to do, or just focus on you and strive for success.
I did the same thing your ex did, except it was a longer relationship and neither of us moved. I went home from uni one summer, and a month before going back to uni I lost feelings for my boyfriend at the time. I dragged it on for another 4 months or so because I felt bad and I wanted to see if my feelings for him could come back. We still had sex regularly even though it was purely for pleasure on my part. Later I met a new guy at work and I broke it off. I never ended up dating the new guy, and my ex never knew about him, but it was a relief to finally get out of a dead-end relationship.
From the perspective of your ex, I just want to tell you that she doesn't give a crap about you anymore, most likely. So forget about her and you'll find someone better. She's completely right about you deserving to be with someone that loves you.
I knew this was going to happen, but it's sad that it really did.
[quote=dbenbaruk]I don't want to be harsh but get over it.
No point in reminiscing over a crappy relationship, especially when the feelings you had for her were not shared by her in same regards to you. Move on from her, Literally it was a two month relationship. I understand that she hold special meaning to you because she took your virginity, but coming from experience, the next girl will take your mind off of this girl and soon enough you will forget her as a lover and only see her for what she is. She is free to do whatever she wants just as you are free to do what you want. If she doesn't have the feelings, then she doesn't need to be in a relationship? Is she evil based off what you've written? ya probably. But does it matter? Nope. Because she's not the one for you anyway and there's someone out there who is.
Goodluck. You will continue to feel the initial sting hatred/and all other confused emotions in the coming days/weeks, but you'll recover and move past it. We've all had our fair share of bad relationships.Mine happened to be with a girl I was with for 4 years who cheated on me while I was deployed overseas. But in the end, I got over it as is all I can do...and is all you can do.
Goodluck[/quote]I'm getting over it.
I don't want to be harsh but get over it.
No point in reminiscing over a crappy relationship, especially when the feelings you had for her were not shared by her in same regards to you. Move on from her, Literally it was a two month relationship. I understand that she hold special meaning to you because she took your virginity, but coming from experience, the next girl will take your mind off of this girl and soon enough you will forget her as a lover and only see her for what she is. She is free to do whatever she wants just as you are free to do what you want. If she doesn't have the feelings, then she doesn't need to be in a relationship? Is she evil based off what you've written? ya probably. But does it matter? Nope. Because she's not the one for you anyway and there's someone out there who is.
Goodluck. You will continue to feel the initial sting hatred/and all other confused emotions in the coming days/weeks, but you'll recover and move past it. We've all had our fair share of bad relationships.Mine happened to be with a girl I was with for 4 years who cheated on me while I was deployed overseas. But in the end, I got over it as is all I can do...and is all you can do.
Goodluck
[quote=nocoply]I was in sorta in the same situation as you. I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both had a crush on each other for about 5 months or so even though she had a bf at the time too.
But anyways we had our first kiss then a week later she took my virginity. I honestly did not care that she took it, I just wanted experience. I did not feel so emotionally attached to her either. But for her it was different she thought we both really really liked each other, I did not feel the same way but I just kept going with it just because I wanted s3xual experience with someone who I'll actually care for. I did not get to see her very often so that was frustrating but anyways, she was also started to love me but I ended things before it got way too serious.
Moral of the story is just take this as an experience and that you wont be as awkward in bed anymore, and to actually invest your time in someone you care about and to have more confidence.
(sorry if this doesnt make any sense im just flowing)[/quote]
I appreciate your story but I just want to say your situation was nothing like mine
I was in sorta in the same situation as you. I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both had a crush on each other for about 5 months or so even though she had a bf at the time too.
But anyways we had our first kiss then a week later she took my virginity. I honestly did not care that she took it, I just wanted experience. I did not feel so emotionally attached to her either. But for her it was different she thought we both really really liked each other, I did not feel the same way but I just kept going with it just because I wanted s3xual experience with someone who I'll actually care for. I did not get to see her very often so that was frustrating but anyways, she was also started to love me but I ended things before it got way too serious.
Moral of the story is just take this as an experience and that you wont be as awkward in bed anymore, and to actually invest your time in someone you care about and to have more confidence.
(sorry if this doesnt make any sense im just flowing)
play some maplestory. get to level 250 and send her a screenshot of it. when she sees it she will try and get back with you....thats when you laugh and say "no thanks...im better than that" and go back to your online wife.
@xdwow: I don't even want to / can't really even think about her being having found somebody else/cheated on me. I believe 100% that if she had done either of those she would have told me, and definitely not have had sex with me. For my own mental sake I'm going to hold on firmly to those beliefs.
I've got a few solid reasons why I believe this, on top of the fact that she was my partner so she had my trust, but I don't need to defend her anymore
I will move on. I think it's gonna be hard. I really want somebody to feel that way again with (I REALLY want her to feel that way again with but I guess that can't happen..)
[quote=zetradedd]She said recently that she had started to love me before I moved, but a few weeks after I moved she had fallen out. I moved from East Coast to West Coast.
Funny you reference the Rome bit, cause she said the same damn thing about it at one point.
I wasn't her first relationship. She's been with a good # of guys before.
The things that hurt the most about it is how cold she was to me today, and that we had something great together and it got destroyed because I had to move. I honestly believed fully that it was going to work out. In the end, her best friend was right; the day I got out here I had a little chat with her best friend. She told me that my GF needed physical attention. It's true.
I still have feelings for her, though they're lost now.
I actually visited her last weekend. I thought things were great, the first night we had together felt wonderful. The first kiss we had again felt like magic. I really felt a romance in the air but I guess she didn't. The second night we had sex. She told me she had sex with me to see if it would change things but it didn't for her. I guess the fact that she did have sex for me meant she really did try to make it work out... I never really thought she had.
My feelings now are mixed and there's pain and hate mixed laced with the joy and love and happiness I used to feel with her. But I used to say that the love I felt for her and from her was the best feeling I've ever felt in my life. There is nothing that compared to it.[/quote]
Chances are, she prob found another person, which is why she didn't "felt" anything for you now. And the fact she's been with a # of guys means she's very frivolous in nature. She might be a pretty one, but she's not worth your time if she's like that. Move on soldier, you got a whole life ahead of you, and it's better not to spend it with someone who whores herself.
[quote=xdwow]Iight bro, don't be so down. Here's my take on the situation. You two dated for two months, that means initially she had to like you, but the problem is you moved away. I don't know how far you moved away, but the thing is you didn't really stayed long enough with her in person to consolidate the relationship you had. Rome wasn't build in a day, and neither are relationships. I supposed that you at the very least anticipated something like this when you moved right?[/quote]
She said recently that she had started to love me before I moved, but a few weeks after I moved she had fallen out. I moved from East Coast to West Coast.
Funny you reference the Rome bit, cause she said the same damn thing about it at one point.
I wasn't her first relationship. She's been with a good # of guys before.
The things that hurt the most about it is how cold she was to me today, and that we had something great together and it got destroyed because I had to move. I honestly believed fully that it was going to work out. In the end, her best friend was right; the day I got out here I had a little chat with her best friend. She told me that my GF needed physical attention. It's true.
I still have feelings for her, though they're lost now.
I actually visited her last weekend. I thought things were great, the first night we had together felt wonderful. The first kiss we had again felt like magic. I really felt a romance in the air but I guess she didn't. The second night we had sex. She told me she had sex with me to see if it would change things but it didn't for her. I guess the fact that she did have sex for me meant she really did try to make it work out... I never really thought she had.
My feelings now are mixed and there's pain and hate laced with the joy and love and happiness I used to feel with her. But I used to say that the love I felt for her and from her was the best feeling I've ever felt in my life. There is nothing that compared to it.
It's your first relationship. You have nothing to compare it against and everything will seem much more intense than it really is. Sounds like she is trying to figure herself out and got bored of you. Ironically she is right. You do deserve better.
Iight bro, don't be so down. Here's my take on the situation. You two dated for two months, that means initially she had to like you, but the problem is you moved away. I don't know how far you moved away, but the thing is you didn't really stayed long enough with her in person to consolidate the relationship you had. Rome wasn't build in a day, and neither are relationships. I supposed that you at the very least anticipated something like this when you moved right?
[quote=zetradedd]So I pretty much only post here about my girlfriend (now ex... ouch)[/quote]
Didn't you make a thread about a lost hamster or something though
Love is exciting when it's new. Only when it's over you look back and realize how stupid it was