Why do people like dating nice girls
This has been on my mind for a while.
Is it actually a desirable trait for somebody to be nice? If you actually think about it, if somebody acts nice toward you, don't they show the same kindness to the majority of people they meet? In most cases, you're not special at all. To me it seems like a shroud that they hide under to appear enticing.
Of course, this is a bit of a generalization, but I don't really care.
Edit: It seems that I have articulated my point poorly, seeing the way people have commented. To clarify, I don't find assholes or rude people attractive, but I don't see the appeal of people who are JUST nice.
For example, when people are asked about their ideal type, they might respond with "someone who is nice". I just don't get that, I'm not trying to say that not liking what some people like makes me special.
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I sort of agree, it's definitely possible for girls to be overly nice and that's a turn off for me. I don't like spineless women who are just sweet and nice to everyone, I like girls who don't take crap and who are sure of themselves. When a nice girl is nice to you it's nothing special.
There are people who only present themselves as nice to give themselves a more positive image rather than having the true intention of being nice, while there are people that are actually sensible and would rather take the time and connect with individuals emotionally.
You see- when you get a little older, you'll realize that relationships aren't formed solely on the basis of one aspect of who they are like whether someone is nice or not. There are all sorts of factors that go into dating people, so being nice could be desirable/undesirable depending on the entirety of the person and the other person's needs (etc, etc, etc)
I love dating girls who are mean to me.
when i say someone is nice, they are not a liar or mean to others or fake (or that i'm aware of). they won't stab you in the back, or talk behind you. someone that is real, sincere, honest, caring about others. i think people are mean to me or i've been hurt, maybe thats why i like those qualities.
I'm generally a nice person but when I get comfortable enough with someone I make fun of them (as a joke) and they're fine with it.
I think that being a nice, kind person is a great personality trait that a lot more people in this world need, [i]especially people who are in highschool or lower[/i].
Once you get old and start getting all wrinkly and stuff and start losing your looks, what do you have then? Your personality. And if you have a bad personality, well, good luck.
Unless you plan on dying young or something, good luck on being an arse towards people for the rest of your life.
Would you rather date some biotch that you constantly clash with or can't even stand talking to?
I'm usually nice until I decide I actually like/trust someone and then I'm a big bully. Pseudo-nice girl
people like whoever they want and in general being nice gets you places with people but obviously there's going to be other reasons to date someone...1 reason is not good enough lol but nice is a good trait that most ppl like and its goin to build up with your other good traits.
do you mean flirty not nice? cuz i get that more than nice, like, id feel less special if i dated someone who flirts w everyone but im a jealous hoe so yeah
[quote=DocRomance]guys date girls because of what they have in their jeans[/quote]
ewww.....i guess some guys like guys who dress like girls =(
@ShamieeKill hush.
OT: i agree with you
It explains why most of the girls like "badboys". Guys who are only nice to them (in their face) and "bad" to other people.
[quote=DocRomance]Guys don't date girls because they're nice LOL, guys date girls because of what they have in their jeans
They might happen to be nice on top of that, but no real man just dates a girl because she's nice, and most don't care about your personality at all, including me[/quote]
stfu
OT: (Correct me if I completel messed up the meaning)
I see where you're coming from.
Basically what you're saying is why should we be attracted to nice people. If they're nice to you, won't they be nice to everyone else? Don't you want them to not be nice to you, so you stand out in their book?
Well, I mean like others have said, you don't want to date rude people.
However, I feel someone shouldn't be too nice because you're not standing out. They have to be playful and tease you.
The most retarded thread I've ever read
Why would it matter to me if they're nice to everyone else?
It's that trait that gives the illusion of being faithful and loyal.
It seems that I have articulated my point poorly, seeing the way people have commented. To clarify, I don't find assholes or rude people attractive, but I don't see the appeal of people who are JUST nice.
For example, when people are asked about their ideal type, they might respond with "someone who is nice". I just don't get that, I'm not trying to say that not liking what some people like makes me special.
I put my hand into my soul last week, and when I took it out it was black.
[quote=DocRomance]Guys don't date girls because they're nice LOL, guys date girls because what they have in their jeans
They might happen to be nice on top of that, but no real man just dates a girl because she's nice, and most don't care about your personality at all, including me[/quote]
Get out. Just get out.
[quote=DocRomance]Guys don't date girls because they're nice LOL, guys date girls because what they have in their jeans
They might happen to be nice on top of that, but no real man just dates a girl because she's nice, and most don't care about your personality at all, including me[/quote]
Wait until you actually become an adult.
Is being nice not a good thing anymore?
Because no one is too special. If you want a rude girl just to sound special you are special,but in special hospitals only.
I think you raise a quite interesting point. Half the time people are just nice towards everyone, but being nice is just one side of the coin. Like the first poster said, who would want to date a rude and snotty girl? If all we cared about was how nice someone was, you would see people would fall in love left and right on the street just because someone opened the door for them.
Traits such as physical attraction (call me shallow w.e lol) and personality can't be ignored. With all that being said, some people like having a relationship where they take harmless jabs at each other. (me i guess). Being nice is just a status quo, or something that we have been cultured into. -shrugs- Don't worry there are girls/guys who like bad boys/girls LOL. Just don't be foul and rude.
Literally just woke up, I apologize for my unorganized thoughts
I thought being kind to others was a common courtesy.. guess I gotta be a bad beetch
[quote=Thiefy996]Why yes, it is so much more appealing to date a condescending piece of trash. How right you are![/quote]
If you aren't nice, it doesn't make you condescending. But sometimes I would agree with your sarcasm.