A friends dad passed yesterday.
He died of a heart attack yesterday. It was known that he had heart problems for a while now but other than that, he had a very healthy lifestyle. He biked, played baseball, traveled with his family a lot.
I knew my friend through a swim team. Were good friends but not really "family" close. I really feel bad for her and her family and I wan't to say something to her. I'm afraid that It'll unsettle her and remind her about her dad. I want her to know that I'm there for her and that I'm sorry for her.
What should I say or do?
October 8, 2012
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I lost my mother last year and made a point to not talk about it even with my friends. I didn't want people butting into my life, and I highly doubt that girl does either.
[quote=PonyCard]Tell her the only answer is suicide.[/quote]
I agree
Do you live in Britain by any chance?
I know someone whose dad died of a heart attack yesterday as well, I know it's a slim chance, but if you live in England it could be the same person..
[quote=LeonDragneel]I kind of know what your friend is going through, my mom passed away last April When that happened my friends were there for me[/quote]
I feel your pain... My grandfather died on April as well. My friends manged to find out, and asked my teacher to call my parents to take me home. Family and friends are the best thing for situations like these.
I know that feel. What my friends did when my dad died was making me laugh, and that's all it took for me to understand them. Then again it might be different for girls, and it depends how long it takes to get over it. To be frank, I got over it within a week, but the effects of it still linger.
I feel pathetic righting this down lol
Nothing would bug me worse than someone I am not friends with trying to butt into my life after a tragedy. You aren't my friend, you never were, I don't need your pity because you feel bad.
I kind of know what your friend is going through, my mom passed away last April When that happened my friends were there for me
[quote=DrHye]Might I add that anyone who's being a jerk or smartass here must have really crappy fathers?[/quote]
I agree, but I guess there's a reason why they were left more unattended.
Give her Basil's condolences.
I think we should just lock this thread about the immaturity level on basili market sadly... I hope he may rest in piece.
What you should do is just give her hope. Make her think about the future rather than the present right now. Just get the "I'm sorry for you loss part" since you don't want to bottle up her emotions it isn't good for the long run.
Might I add that anyone who's being a jerk or smartass here must have really crappy fathers?
Just let her know you're there for her.
I had a friend lose his mother recently and all you can really do is give her a hug if she needs it.
just look at her.. then burst out with laughter
Don't say anything
Have a moment of silence
Tell her. "Your dad died, move on."
Just say that you're sorry about what happened and you're here for her. I wouldn't talk about it more than that unless she starts to.
I'm sorry, if there's anything i can do or even be a shoulder to cry on just let me know.
You put a hand on her shoulder.