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[quote=RitoPls]RIP in peace social life[/quote]

you only yolo once, best i take care of my body

[quote=RitoPls]RIP in peace social life[/quote]

everything fun is harmful to your body haha.

[quote=heartofachamp]

Also I will not do anything that will harm my body to fit in[/quote]

RIP in peace social life

I just moved in last Friday and had my first classes today.
It isn't that bad, dude. Just calm down. If you don't want to go then don't go. No one's forcing you to do anything.

[quote=RitoPls]Freshman year was pretty good to me. However, it was nothing like Animal House.

I'm sure you've heard all of the cliche things like meeting everyone on your floor, engaging in Open Door Night, and being involved in clubs so I'll give you something you probably haven't heard. You should start smoking because the people who smoke become friends easily.

[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGFw6OVMzYs]Also, watch this.[/url][/quote]

i appreciate all the words of encouragement, even though my nerves are still fray I feel a bit better.

Also I will not do anything that will harm my body to fit in

Freshman year was pretty good to me. However, it was nothing like Animal House.

I'm sure you've heard all of the cliche things like meeting everyone on your floor, engaging in Open Door Night, and being involved in clubs so I'll give you something you probably haven't heard. You should start smoking because the people who smoke become friends easily.

[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGFw6OVMzYs]Also, watch this.[/url]

(some of) us upper classmen are excited to meet the new freshmen ^_^

i even crashed a freshmen orientation social dance thing with a friend, though we didn't really talk to any freshmen. danced with them in the mob tho haha
was always one of those people who made friends in all grades, so don't worry i'm sure there's more people like me too at your college to help you and befriend you

I'm also gonna be moving into dorms this Thursday and having my first classes on the 26th. I'm not sure if it just hasn't sunk in or what, but I'm not as nervous as I thought I'd be either. I made friends at orientation and got to know my faculty advisor (this super strict, old, braggy professor. Joy.), and did my best to make an impression on my future classmates and professors. Since it is the college that you got in and chose to go, keep in mind that a lot of the students at your college will be more similar to you than students at another college that you may have not gotten into or chosen not to go. That's something I tell myself when I meet new people at my college.

Also, think of college as a way to start fresh. I had a "cute" image when I was in high school, so now in college I'm trying to go for a chiller, "cool" image. (My high school friends say it's not gonna work, and cute Vivi will always stay cute Vivi. ._.)

I'm in the same situation. Just roll with it! You can't be the only one who is nervous.

@heartofachamp: Suure

i really hope you guys are right, i will have an update thread maybe a couple weeks/months in. i appreciate all your kind and not-so kind words

[quote=FinalFreedom]o, I'll be in Chicago too. Maybe I'll run into you.[/quote]

if u want i could pm you the school id be going to

@spiritual2

wasnt to fond of high-school but i crave the consistency of seeing the same classmates

[quote=heartofachamp]i appreciate the sentiment[/quote]

o, I'll be in Chicago too. Maybe I'll run into you.

@heartofachamp: then study, eat out, join clubs, go to places together.. there are lots to do there will be people who play games too if it's what you're into

I'm actually going to be a freshman in college too! However, i doubt i'm nearly as nervous about it as you are. Friends can be extremely helpful in succeeding in college, as they make great study buddies! Think of it as this; to be truly successful in college, and life in general, you're going to need connections. As a result, push yourself to converse with the students you sit next to on the first day of class. DO IT, FOR YOUR FUTURE SUCCESS! It's great practice for when you eventually look for a job, as most jobs come with an interview.

[quote=Ness]Yeah, you don't seem ready for college.[/quote]

so just because i made an error means im not ready for college?

like i said im nervous and jittery

[quote=heartofachamp]as I [b]right[/b] this.[/quote]

Yeah, you don't seem ready for college.

[quote=heartofachamp]surely studying wasn't all you did, was it? if you had free time what would you do?[/quote]

Well as I mentioned, I'd just go home after school. I did the same things I do now, which are basically play vidya, listen to music, and watch anime. Back then, though, I also went to a few football/basketball games and other events with friends. I wouldn't have gone if they didn't invite me, though.

[quote=askmiller3]I leave for my first year tomorrow as well.

I used to be very introverted like you. I hated talking to most people in high school. (except for my friends)

What I've found from orientation events I've attended at my college is that the first couple weeks of college is VERY easy to make friends. What I did during the orientation events is pretty much walk from person to person, introduce myself, and start a random conversation. What happened was people responded to me and it made the day much easier. (for instance, I didn't have to sit alone at lunch, and I had people to talk to during down times)

I highly suggest you try that as well. Just talk to people. I know it's hard and you'll probably be a little shaky, but they're probably thinking the same thing. I did have some people I talked to during orientations that turned me down and wouldn't talk to me, but that happens. In the end, it's worth it if you can make at least a few friends.

Also, first week of college is as good a time as any to make friends with people who may one day form romantic relationships with you. Think about it, there's MUCH less pressure talking to a girl when they're probably by themselves with no one else to talk to and nothing else to do. Also, if you're a girl reading this, if a girl starts a conversation with a guy, there's a VERY low chance the guy would blow you off. Just go for it. Worst that can happen is you have to go find someone else.

Seriously this is an important life lesson you need to learn. You don't want to spend your whole life alone do you? MAKE FRIENDS! [/quote]

i wish you were at my school...

@natalie

i dont party or drink, never had and probably never will, im just not that type of person

ALSO, this may seem weird but if you want to play xbox with me, just pm me, other than tomorrow it will be my last time on xbox for a long while....

@heartofachamp: i was worried that you'd assume that but i'm hardly ever sarcastic when it's a serious issue so you're okay. you can drink, party, go out with your flatmates, study with them, etc etc

[quote=natalie]@heartofachamp: you poor baby... but you'll probably even go "that's it?" or something. it'll be okay[/quote]

i cant tell if you are being sarcastic or actually feel bad for me. anyways even with the hot girls on campus what would i do other than look at them?

@heartofachamp: you poor baby... but you'll probably even go "that's it?" or something. it'll be okay

[quote=natalie]don't worry about it too much! just work up enough courage to say hi to people on your floor. you have a roommate too so it'll be kind of hard to not be friends with them. also if you miss your family, facetime/skype with them as much as you can. i go to university and i live at home but my cousin lives on res ~2.6k miles away at her university. her flatmates are like family to her and she had no problem adjusting. i honestly think that if you live on campus you get more freedom and opportunities to make friends, not to mention that you also don't have a curfew. so stop sweating the small stuff and think about all the things to be excited about... like hot girls[/quote]

this probably sounds pathetic, but I live 26 miles from my home. I live in northern suburbs of illinois and I will be attending in chicago, i will be seeing my parents maybe twice a month to help them out at work. there are people who go across the globe to study and im here scared to leave the confines of my room

[quote=heartofachamp]in ny college there is a huge luncheon room where you can eat[/quote]
No one cares if you have lunch alone; most people's schedules are packed in the afternoon (because there's a higher quantity of afternoon class sections than evening/morning) so it's difficult to eat lunch with friends, especially if their schedules are different.

When I lived in the dorms (the 30/whatever mile requirement at my uni) my first year, I had breakfast at 11:30am, lunch at 4:00pm, and dinner at 11:00pm. My lunch was typically a Subways sandwich prepared in the dining halls that I ate on my way to class, though that was my experience.

If you live in a dorm, you can usually ask your suite mates to go to the block party with or ask someone to go look for classrooms early. That's what I did. They might become your friends this way. Also, it's ohkay to be introverted, you just need to talk about stuff and maybe you'll have common interests. In the end, you'll eventually hate almost all your suite mates and roommates like I did. I only made one friend and ironically my common interest with her was that we both had online relationships before. We both are introverts. Just try your best, and hopefully you'll meet someone like you. Basically, look for another introvert. ^_^ goodluck~

don't worry about it too much! just work up enough courage to say hi to people on your floor. you have a roommate too so it'll be kind of hard to not be friends with them. also if you miss your family, facetime/skype with them as much as you can. i go to university and i live at home but my cousin lives on res ~2.6k miles away at her university. her flatmates are like family to her and she had no problem adjusting. i honestly think that if you live on campus you get more freedom and opportunities to make friends, not to mention that you also don't have a curfew. so stop sweating the small stuff and think about all the things to be excited about... like hot girls

[quote=FinalFreedom]I'm going on a flight in a few hours and my orientation is the 24th. My school is 800 miles away from home. It'll be fun, don't worry man.[/quote]

i appreciate the sentiment

@heartofachamp I mean if you can be dedicated to get level 200 you can make the effort to be successful in college. Sorry I can help you with the social aspect of it. But you'll be okay. Everyone gets nervous in new situation and different setting that they're not accustomed to being in. Eventually you'll figure everything out and it won't be so strange of a place to you. If you're nice and respectful to everyone generally they'll treat you the same way. Think of it as an adventure and a challenge. College is a wonderful experience. Be serious about your study but enjoy the experience. You'll learn skills to prepare you for the real world, build relationships and discover who you are.

I'm going on a flight in a few hours and my orientation is the 24th. My school is 800 miles away from home. It'll be fun, don't worry man.

I am the same as you I am completely introverted and can't make new friends like its very difficult for me to talk to them so I just end up alone like the only reason why I even have friends is because in grade 9 I was an extrovert and was open to meeting new people but now of course I'm not. My advice to you as someone who understands your situation is that you find other people who seem nervous and shy and befriend them thats what I try to do lol idk this is my 10 cents.

[quote=Wallflowers]It's easy to make friends in college because most people are on the same boat as you (fresh from high school, no one went to the same college they did, etc.).[/quote]

we had this summer orientation which was like a tour of our school. This was during the nba finals, and while most freshman were at this school funded "party" I was in the lounge room with a couple of non-freshman watching the game. Didn't really talk to anyone.

ofc none of us were talking much

@2005chuy

surely studying wasn't all you did, was it? if you had free time what would you do?

@heartofachamp: During times I had a long break I'd either go home (I lived like 5 minutes away from campus) or do my assignments at school, sometimes in the library sometimes in the student building. During my lunch (break in between classes), I'd just eat my sandwich or get some on-campus food and eat alone because my friends had different schedules. Now, I'm attending a different school, taking one class a day (for like 6 hours a day), and enjoying it much better.

[quote=yumtoast154]That's not how college works.[/quote]

in ny college there is a huge luncheon room where you can eat

I'm in the same boat as you bro but im not gonna dorm with someone cuz i live literally 5 blocks away from the college im going into lols.

I'm about to be a senior in premed.

[quote=heartofachamp]what about during lunch, who did you sit with?[/quote]
That's not how college works.

[quote=2005chuy]@heartofachamp: I did not make friends in college, the only people (2) I actively talk to are friends from HS. Even then, only one of them I'd actually call a close friend. I wasn't looking for friends, though.[/quote]

what did you do all day? did you have a roommate? what about during lunch, who did you sit with? how are you doing now?

I constantly help out classmates if i have time. If they're struggling with the review, I stay awhile and help them. That's how I make friends. "Can I help you with that?", "Yo I can get that for you", and "Need a hand with that?" You will instantly make franss !Guaranteed!

@heartofachamp: I did not make friends in college, the only people (2) I actively talk to are friends from HS. Even then, only one of them I'd actually call a close friend. I wasn't looking for friends, though.

[quote=metaghost4]well then you're screwed, hf in college, it's going to be hell for you.[/quote]

appreciate the honesty

[quote=2005chuy]Of course it didn't, it's impersonal and more like a brochure with extra text instead of pictures.

The anxiety will wear off within a month or so (I say a month, because most people get into a groove by the second or third week). Bring a laptop if you have one, a notebook, and a pen and pencil. I don't know exactly how it works where you're going, but here they'll tell you if you need to buy a class book or not. Not all the books listed for each class are actually required. You can look up a map of the school to get more acquainted with it, I personally used my phone's map because all the buildings were labeled on it. You don't need to make friends in college. If you do want to, though, you could start by joining a club or just going to school events.[/quote]

do you have friends in college?

[quote=Vendalken]I never understood why being a "freshman" is such an intimidating thing for americans, it's not that bad.[/quote]
Are you sure you're not attending some cruddy community college? It's pretty easy to understand why people don't like/fear being a freshman.

Aside from the stigma of being ignorant and at the bottom of the totem pole, it's hard for a lot of people to adjust to a completely new surrounding. To me and you, taking a step out of our comfort zones might not be bad, but some find it terrifying (i.e. OP) and not everyone is you. Most incoming college freshmen that are forced to live on-campus probably spent their entire 17/18 years of life being coddled under their parents' roof; the transition is particularly rough if the college setting is different from what they experienced in high school (e.g. attending high school in the middle of suburbia and suddenly you're taking classes at some university campus that stretches 25+ city blocks). Humans are creatures of habit, and for the most part, strive for consistency. Some people are able to adapt, and some aren't -- this isn't limited to just Americans as many people get anxiousin new surroundings.

It's really a very easy concept to understand, yet you make it seem like you've never been nervous before.

[quote=heartofachamp]I read that twice and it didn't help me at all.[/quote]

Of course it didn't, it's impersonal and more like a brochure with extra text instead of pictures.

The anxiety will wear off within a month or so (I say a month, because most people get into a groove by the second or third week). Bring a laptop if you have one, a notebook, and a pen and pencil. I don't know exactly how it works where you're going, but here they'll tell you if you need to buy a class book or not. Not all the books listed for each class are actually required. You can look up a map of the school to get more acquainted with it, I personally used my phone's map because all the buildings were labeled on it. You don't need to make friends in college. If you do want to, though, you could start by joining a club or just going to school events.

[quote=RePainted]Don't worry, stay calm and be open to people around you. First impressions are everything and I'm sure you don't want to be known as 'THAT' one guy.[/quote]

sorry but i am that guy and i cant change who i am

@vendalken

i know nothing about college, I did recieve one scholarship and financial aid but still am expected to dole out around 11k a semester

Don't worry, stay calm and be open to people around you. First impressions are everything and I'm sure you don't want to be known as 'THAT' one guy.

I'm about to be a junior in college.
Don't sweat over the little things.
Try and push yourself out of your comfort zone one step at a time. Once you get into it, approaching people will be much easier.

[quote=yumtoast154]Do what you want to; I highly doubt the housing admins are going to force you to attend a block party.

And are you living in a dorm, or an apartment/suite?[/quote]

the block party is not mandatory and I live in a dorm. I have a feeling that my roommate will be the only person I will be talking to for a while.....

@idrinkoj
i got to level 200 by myself, the last time I recall actually talking to people in this game other than wb,ty is probably 3 years ago

@zomgitjon
i would happily live at home, but i didnt want my parents to think im a total loser

Think of it like getting to level 200. You'll start of as a noob then acquire skills and better equipment then do your job advancements. You'll use many pots and speed pills to progress but don't use hacks or you'll get banned. You might meet a cute girl that makes you laugh, feel happy and warm inside, and you might end up taking her to the altar. You ultimate goal is to get to level 200 no matter what it takes and in the process increase your will power, charm, ambition, diligence as you enter your profession in the future. "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself" - fdr

Everyone else is probably a little nervous about their freshman year and everyone's looking to make new friends. If you're an introvert then I suggest you to step out of your comfort zone slowly one step at a time by start saying hello to some people. then making small talk. advance at your own pace.

You'll be fine man don't worry about it

Do what you want to; I highly doubt the housing admins are going to force you to attend a block party.

And are you living in a dorm, or an apartment/suite?