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@Arcunize: She's.....difficult. She doesn't like to open up so its hard for me to tell if she's attracted to me or not. I can get her talking but rarely is it about her emotions. Actually its never about her emotions.

i numb myself by surrounding myself with jerks

Being a former antisocial kid myself, I would say the biggest barrier is that when you talk to
girls you're somewhat attracted to, you worry that they'll think what your saying is weird or stupid.

Just throw those worries down the drain. Just firmly believe that you have something interesting to say,
and don't get bogged down with worry. Just be natural, and remember to smile , i find that always helps me relax

[quote=Arcunize]I think most of people are shy around their crush.
All you gotta do is just talk to her , i know it's hard when your shy and don't know if she's intrested in you also but just talk to her.
& Just talk to alot of other girls not just her but more , because if you keep talking to more girls and other people then you will eventually realize that
it's not that hard. Make lot of friends with 'girls/females' They can help you with your confidence and give advices.[/quote]

we're actually good friends but then i started to like her and we have a lot of awkward lulls where we both dont know what to say/do.

"You're insecure
Don't know what for
You're turning heads when you walk through the do-o-or~"

It's a slow process man. I was once shy as hell and unable to express myself due to fear of what other people thought.
If you have the bullocks, just face your fears head on and be you! ...unfortunately, most people don't, so we take it slow.
Little by little, push yourself to do SOMETHING that will bring you ONE teensy tiney step closer to your goal. Something, like
raising your hand and answering a question the teacher asks the class when you know it. Do SOMETHING everyday and eventually
you'll be more confident and able to express yourself more freely. At the same time, keep in mind, not to try to be someone your're not.
[b]BE YOURSELF.[/b] Meaning express who YOU are totally and completely. IT'S PRETTY %$@#ing hard but when you get
there, THATS where REAL confidence and believe it or not, true happiness lies. [b]BE YOU AND CONQUER THE WORLD.[/b]

[quote=CastilloHero]Walking up to strangers and introducing yourself works pretty well. After a while, you get used to meeting random people and it becomes easy.

What I recommend the most though is to actually take your focus away from women and find your own passion. Something that you really enjoy and that will make you feel proud of yourself. A nice job, an interesting hobby, working out, a service group that you create, anything. Then, when you meet attractive women, you'll keep in mind that you're an awesome guy and that nothing anyone thinks of you matters since you're "that guy that rescues puppies from sewage drains" or you're "that nice guy that works at best buy and knows what he's doing."[/quote]

I'm a realtively good photographer, i enjoy drawing, and i like helping people.

i get drunk usually

sorry that's not a helpful answer but it encompasses most of my personal experience (otherwise, my anxiety medication has helped)

I'm almost 17 and growing up my parents kinda of stripped me of all confidences in the hopes that i'll be easier to deal with as i grow up so I'm lacking there. I'm not some pathetic kid who's afraid of everything but if i finally get comfortable somewhere i'm in no hurry to leave.

It's better you ask alcohol for help! If you're underage, then a can of redbull would work fine

Find out what makes u insecure and do something about it ^__^ or before you're about 2 talks 2 a girl say YOLO and freaking do it !
Either one of those haha

develop some sort of confidence, even a little is fine just enoughfor you to say a few words in a big man manner

you're insecure. don't know what for... YOU'RE TURNING HEADS WHEN YOU---*gets shot*

You develop a massive ego to hide behind.

sometimes in life u just gotta say screw it and just do what u gotta do

Think, what's the worst that could happen, I ask her out, she says no.
And unless they're some kind of F'ed up sadist that's it and in that scenario you're better off with them having said no.

just keep doing it no matter how embarrassed you get.. eventually it'll wear off