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Oh, this is a REALLY rare case in Basilmarket... A GIRL having BOYFRIEND problems...

OT:I was thinking about the "hit it, quit it" theory, but appearantly I was wrong. I'd say you shouldn't try anymore. Trying to get together may just make it worse.

Sure you may still love him and all, but it has to end someday right? Just don't try to sulk TOO much about it, and try to go on with your life and leave the emo-box where it belongs. The more you try, the worse it gets IMO. Then again... I haven't been in a relationship yet.

The world is big, Idiots are many ,just go for the next , untill u find the best 1 fits for you
GL

I think he cheated. =I

i had the same problem with a girl
she dumped me when i was on holiday and didn't saw me for 3 weeks
and when i saw her i crushed again
but she is angry at me for some reason i still don't know
so we have the same problem: take your crush back? or leave him alone?
i chose the first option but I still didn't talk to her, so i could apologize for some reason I still don't know
ask yourself if you really love this guy en then you will find the answer
for me this was an easy choice
hope it helped

Go for another guy.

Atleast he was honest, than anyone that would rather make up things that don't truly shine for their partner. =/
You better move on.

"A wind blows through the city.
The wind is cold, and at times, it may make you want to stop
When that time comes, I want you to continue moving forward. no matter how slowly.
You'll definitely reach it someday.
Even if sad things happen, you'll be fine.
If you reach out your hand, someone will be there.
Because we can share warmth
Even if you're alone on a tough journey.
as long as you don't let go of the hand you hold onto, you'll definitely triumph
That's why you should never give up.
At the end of the long, long road, happiness awaits you.
Happiness gathers together and becomes an even greater happiness
One day, I want you to realize this:
You've experienced plenty of happiness when you walked down this road
Never forget.
You're not alone.
Carve your confident footsteps into the ground, transcend the seasons, and look up towards the sky.
Even without wings, you'll make it...
To that dream you saw one day,
that dream of a future, overflowing with light---
Two becomes one, forever through all eternity.
Put your wishes into memories you don't want to forget."

Read that famous quote, It'll make you feel better ^__^

He wants you to go and confess how much you like him, he wants to have the upper hand in the relationship.

I'm dead serious. If you want to be with him, talk to him and he'll accept you. If you shrug it off and act tough, he'd prob get jealous and start talking to you and wanting you again. Then it's your choice if you want him back.

I'll be honest, I don't really see what's wrong in your scenario.

I can relate, but in all honesty... what I'm about to say is very opinionated. I wouldn't try for love in this generation. We're just going in a down spiral of stupidity.

before you left, you were eric and he was donna.
now after you came back you are donna and he is eric.
ask him out, dont be afraid.

I don't see why everyone is flaming that guy - he did the best thing he could do in his situation; be honest. Kudos to him.

At Literature, sorry that it ended the way it did. People's emotions change and the best thing would be to move on. As far as I can tell it's neither of your faults, it just didn't work out. You've got a whole life ahead of you - live it.

to me there is no point of loving someone if they dont love you back . But there is you can love him and and show him and he may love you again

Don't try to force someone to like you again. If they don't like you anymore, there's really nothing to do. I think all you truly need is closure.

[quote=Literature]
A part of me wants to keep on trying and hope he'll like me again, but another part of me doesn't want to risk getting hurt again and waste my time. Do I have a chance? [/quote]

What I did was give up. I couldn't stand being hurt anymore, so I pretty much stopped talking to her. Ever since five, six months, she's the one who starts all conversations, who just keeps on talking. That's the thing: you can't get him out of your head, and that's what you hate. After a while, you'll see that it's time to move on, but you can't because he just keeps floating around in your head - that's when you realize that this is not going to work, and you want him to stop talking.

Or something like that. Anyway, I say give up. Prevent yourself from getting hurt any longer.

[quote=kevinccf]1 month and he decided that fast?
I would say what the hell, but if this just happened, well, today. Then maybe it could be a stupid decision on his part, confront and talk it out.
If he avoids the convo (and i swear, if you are really serious about this, you NEED to talk) then its not worth it.

Basically, if someone you like refuses to communicate on such a serious topic, its not worth it
Edit: After reading a few more post, ima guess ima side "For" talking it out within the next day or two, but OP, please keep us informed.
Always nice to talk and clear your mind, ya know?[/quote]

Hell yeah. If you'd like to know what happens I'd be glad to PM individuals, but I don't want to make another thread, or add onto this one. I'm just shy like that.

@EtherXFayt Yeah.. but when I read your comment I was like "Wow, someone who gets what I'm feeling for once. "

[quote=EtherXFayt]Neh, just let it be. Also, you know what really gets into guys' skin? When you don't pay as much attention to them. If you just back off and let him think what he thinks, you might make him miss what you guys used to have.

Another thing, I do feel really sorry for you. Thats the ultimate sacrifice... to wait for somebody for true love. I surely hope you get someone good in the future..you deserve it[/quote]

Someone who understands !

Don't take the chance of him doing it again. He didn't have a legitimate answer to why he didn't like you anymore, which can mean many different things, none of them being good. But no-one is stopping you.

Well you can't expect everything to be like they are in korean dramas =/

but I think what you should do is kind of "avoid him" and make him realize how much less fun life is without you there to flirt with him. Don't keep trying to make it obvious that you are pursuing him for it will prob be counter productive

[quote=Cooljax]It seems that he ''hit it and quit it'', next time actually go out before letting them ''hit it''.[/quote]

There was no "hitting" of any sort. I'd appreciate if people will stop commenting on this thread, thank you.

It seems that he ''hit it and quit it'', next time actually go out before letting them ''hit it''.

Would you prefer him to pretend he likes you?I know of people who have done that to not offend the other person,he is miserable she loves it because she doesn't know.

[quote=jeffrey44236]Told you to forget about him =([/quote]

Alex <3 I'm trying.

Love all these little white knights coming in droves to tell you how at fault the other guy was. Nothing about what he did was jerky. People lose interest and end relationships everyday, and he did it with politeness which is about as much as you can ask for.

Thanks everyone for the advice. A lot of helpful and non-helpful replies. I decided not to do anything yet because I'm still broken-hearted and I don't want to do anything irrational, but logically I'll just move on even if I dread not to..

I don't see how it is his fault... He might have just met someone else and started liking them.

Eh, read the whole thing. I haven't been in this situation, but if I ever did that to a girl, I would have no reason to live further. Some guys are pricks, but hey, you can get someone else that is better. Look in light of it.

And also, as a side note, how was Japan! I have wanted to go there for a while now, about 3 years actually. What part did you visit?

I think in a way.. he is an asshole and at the same time, he's not. What he promised and didn't fulfill was wrong, but appreciate that he let you go and didn't lead you on at least. To answer your question, I think you should just move on. If he ever comes back to you, you'll know it wasn't your fault at all.

Wow, all you ratty kids calling him an ass, it's a perfectly justifiable move he did.
If you chicks wanna hear it, at least be prepared to get what you were lookin to hear.

Well yea you might have a chance until he tells you the real reason he "isn't into you" because tbh It doesn't seem like that short of time could change someones mind. I did something similar, convinced a girl that I didn't like her anymore because I didn't think I wasn't good enough :I maybe its something like that? iunno :o
but good luck with it o.~

[quote=brewskie425]Chances are he fell for someone else during his surgery. During recovery he probably spent time with someone else but basically he was "vulnerable" and wanted someone. If he moves on that easily, you shouldn't be wasting time crying. Life is still in front of you and letting this heartbreak stop you won't do. You'll be stronger after this. It takes time of course and nobody will blame you for that. But just don't fall down the emo-staircase. That's never the way to go.

Return to normal life and hang out with friends, have fun. The time you spend moping over someone can be better spent happily with others that matter.[/quote]

I doubt he fell for anyone while I was gone because he wasn't able to go out at all and no one was able to come over. Thanks for the advice, though. No one really answered my question yet..

Chances are he fell for someone else during his surgery. During recovery he probably spent time with someone else but basically he was "vulnerable" and wanted someone. If he moves on that easily, you shouldn't be wasting time crying. Life is still in front of you and letting this heartbreak stop you won't do. You'll be stronger after this. It takes time of course and nobody will blame you for that. But just don't fall down the emo-staircase. That's never the way to go.

Return to normal life and hang out with friends, have fun. The time you spend moping over someone can be better spent happily with others that matter.

he probably got it on with another girl while you were in japan.

Awww... How sad =( Well if you need someone to talk to, you can PM me ^~^

[quote=ElitistMan]And you said that he instigated it, yet you also said you were the one to tell him you like him first.

So another possibility is that he took advantage of you liking him, and used you for whatever else he "instigated".[/quote]

You are so pessimistic, lol. But I was afraid of this. He's a genuine guy so I never expected this from him which is why I'm so upset and in shock.

well maybe being away from you for so long made him kind of ... forget how he felt about you. especially that 3 week period of you being there and not seeing him much.

I say just be his friend. You can't force love but maybe he'll rediscover what he saw in you before. I know it will be hard though, having feelings of love and rejection lingering over you everytime you meet. Friendship is really the most special thing though. I'm friends with every guy I've ever dated, except one. And that hurts worse than anything.

[quote=ElitistMan]I think that he told you he liked you because you told him you did, and it was his natural reaction to say it back.

You said you acted like a couple around other people, but did you guys ever hold hands? Hug? Kiss?

I doubt he ever felt the same way you feel about him.[/quote]

I don't want to go into detail how far we went, and he instigated it. Before I told him I liked him he dropped hints like crazy. So I doubt this.

Gosh you're pretty, can i have your number?

guys pms
and theyre jerks
besides if he isn't for u, think of that as like a little tiny favor
he's telling u, u both can find better ppl and you'll be happier with another guy
of course its going to hurt but thats just how love relationships are

[quote=TagShadow]Is he is a wheel chair?[/quote]

No, he was on crutches but he got them off Wednesday.