girl problems
hey yall lol Im a 16 yr old guy whos having problems w girls. haha so ive been dating this girl, lets call her lexy haha for about a yr? lately our conversations have been boring af, we basically go over the same routine everyday.. "how was your day?" "good, yours?" and stuff like that. its not like it used to be. shes a good girl and I dknt want to hurt her but ive lost some interest in her and I kind of have my eye on this other girl. lets call her selena. so ive lost some interest in lexy and im kinda gaining some for selena, dont get me wrong, I still like lexy and all like alot, just idk. the relationship is boring and when I started talking to selena ive had that satisfaction and feeling that I had with lexy at the beginning of our relationship. ive been trying to hint to lexy that I want to put things on hold, but she said she got me a gift? just out of nowhere. she said she remembered me saying its what I wamted a while back, and I said that she doesnt have to waste money on me but she said its not a waste if its for someone you love. I feel so terrible and guilty and idk what to do. I need help. I kinda want to put things on hold with lexy without hurting her, at least for a little while. and I can make excuses but not ridiculous ones. but yeah what do I do? thanks guys.
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[quote=SodiumOH]Hi I'm Lexy:
All I ask, is just a little honesty. Though I know, that you're not coming back to me. You know, I'll do anything to make you stay.
But I just have to let you go, if the feeling is gone. [/quote]
Crap I'd be in tears if I were him and this Lexy person actually said that.
To TS:
Lexy sounds like a wonderful girl. If she's boring then that's mainly your fault. You're the guy. You're responsible for initiating events. You have to influence her the way you want her to be influenced.
The other girl's probably just prettier. Either that, or you find excitement in new people you meet and get bored of people you've already known fairly quickly.
its not the realtionship thats boring its you whos boring since you dont do anything with your girlfirend
Hi I'm Lexy:
All I ask, is just a little honesty. Though I know, that you're not coming back to me. You know, I'll do anything to make you stay.
But I just have to let you go, if the feeling is gone.
That sucks but obviously you two couldn't last forever so break it off.
Be careful about the lust!. Just because your bored of your gf now doesn't mean you will be bored of her again next week. And you might have lost interest in that other girl already >.<
you cant just go back to that girl once you've failed with the other. that aint right.
don't think you are ready for a relationship yet
Relationships are bound to usually break off if you go "on hold"
Relationships can get dull BUT it is up to you two to spice it up! Try to invite her to go places or do stuff and connect better then just sit and stalk/text! It kinda erks me you are debating to got rid of her ov something so easy to fix, it tells me you might not be all the suited for a long lasting relationship.
@Quik I can't say what exactly is going through your head, so I can only make observations based on what you've said. Right now you seem to have that mentality of "the chase" you want what's new and interesting rather than what you know you already have and that makes it seem "boring." Because honestly all relationships start out new and exciting because you're still getting to know each other, but as you settle into the relationship, things slow down and become a bit more calm. And for some people, that's what causes them to never keep a long term relationship, because the butterflies and fireworks that happen at the beginning of the relationship wear off and they chase after someone new and start the process all over again.
Is this new girl really an improvement over Lexy though, or will it just end up being the same thing in a year? Or will it fizzle out sooner? There's no guarantee Selena will be better than Lexy. That's why it's never a good idea to end a relationship to be with someone else. Because it could end up backfiring in your face and you end up with nothing.
So, if you don't like how things are with Lexy, that's fine, but don't leave her because you feel you've found someone that will work better, leave her based only on her and make an honest decision. Is she worth working through the routine and finding ways to make things more exciting? Or do you think there's no saving it? That it was just a crush and your feelings are fading? Selena shouldn't be a part of the picture at all, until you've sorted through things with Lexy. Because if you can't decide what you want out of a relationship then you're just going to hurt everyone involved.
Honestly, If you keep pretending something's there when there isn't, .you're better off breaking up with rather than have her find out you've been talking to someone else.
It's not fair to her from what you're doing. From the way you described your relationship, she likes you and has feelings. Don't prolong things, you'll only hurt her more.
If you feel that way then you should break it off with her.... a relationship requires 2 people not one and your obviously not returning the same feelings she has towards you....however wise words, if you do pursue "Selena" it's gonna make lexy think that things were happening between the two of you. Just because another girl gives you attention doesn't mean their the right choice....temptation comes when your in a relationship and if you're still with lexy you should be faithful and leave selena alone....thats just how i see it.......you do have another choice in actually WORKING on the relationship that you're in i mean a year is a long time and after that "honey-moon" stage things tend to die down a bit just become creative and do different things you never have before best of luck~
It seems like you just want to get as many girls as you want rather than a real lasting relationship
Don't accept the gift. And don't waste her time. Just break up with her. Some people just aren't compatible.
[quote=usuklolxp]You are in the exact situation I'm in right now LOL. I broke up with my previous girlfriend just about a week ago, because although
I felt like I liked her, I just had another girl in mind. (Also we'd end up saying the exact same thing everyday just like you)
So now I'm chasing this girl who probably doesn't even like me. Yay[/quote]
[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pBXniiEgmMk][b]about a week ago[/b][/url]
@Quik For me, I had language barrier problems (She's chinese, I'm korean, she speaks bad english.) So I kind of had to end it.
I also always thought about girl no.2 while I was dating girl no.1... So basically I kind of always liked girl no.2.
As for you, I think you should break up. There's no point in maintaining a relationship that you're already doubting.
1. If you think the relationship with "lexy" is boring then youve probably reached the end.
2. If youre thinking of/interest in another chick while in a relationship you clearly dont like your girlfriend a whole lot.
3. How do you lose interest in someone yet still like them a whole lot? Kinda contradicting honestly.
Youre better off just breaking up with her.
either work on your relationship or break up
there are only 2 options
either you work on your relationship or you admit to that girl you're leaving her because you're bored
im not saying dont leave her, im saying man up about it
[quote=usuklolxp]You are in the exact situation I'm in right now LOL. I broke up with my previous girlfriend just about a week ago, because although
I felt like I liked her, I just had another girl in mind. (Also we'd end up saying the exact same thing everyday just like you)
So now I'm chasing this girl who probably doesn't even like me. Yay[/quote]
yeah man! the relationship got boring for me LOL I want to end things without hurting her, cause shes actuslly really nice. the 2nd girl is actually interested in me but doesnt know about lexy. like damn I dont want to cheat!
You are in the exact situation I'm in right now LOL. I broke up with my previous girlfriend just about a week ago, because although
I felt like I liked her, I just had another girl in mind. (Also we'd end up saying the exact same thing everyday just like you)
So now I'm chasing this girl who probably doesn't even like me. Yay
You're not ready for a relationship. Just break her heart and go out with whoever you want since you aren't going to be serious with either of them. You basically like "the chase".