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Friends with Benefits

Would you have one?

Yes/No?

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August 26, 2012

34 Comments • Newest first

Lokiyll

Nah, I'm ridiculously loyal to the person I like and keep liking them for a looooong time. Unless they express interest in me, I won't be going after anyone ~le shrug~

Reply August 30, 2012
Miney

[quote=Rezoina] Well I'm the loyal type of person; once we're friends I got your ass no matter what. If I just decided to play around and fling it would be like playing around with them in my opinion. If you keep playing with them, eventually it's gonna be serious and someone is probably gonna be burnt out.[/quote]

Point of friends with benefits is both parties show their intention of this "relationship" is sex only though.

But then, people always fall for companionship

Reply August 30, 2012
Rezoina

@Miney: Well I'm the loyal type of person; once we're friends I got your ass no matter what. If I just decided to play around and fling it would be like playing around with them in my opinion. If you keep playing with them, eventually it's gonna be serious and someone is probably gonna be burnt out.

Reply August 30, 2012
Miney

[quote=Rezoina]Fufufu pulling out the double standards card.

It's just that you're pointing out that you should be able to detach yourself from a fling like it was nothing with a friend. If it was a stranger yeah that would be easy, and not all the time, even with friends is it easy to be on the same page.[/quote]

Double standard card ftw

I guess the way I'm thinking is that there are some friends you just aren't emotionally attracted to but you don't mind sleeping with them.
Of course, I'm not saying that you won't catch a feeling. I mean, come on. Human beings are fragile.

I said I didn't mind having one because I ain't really a commitment type of person. Though it also doesn't mean I'll sleep around.

Reply August 30, 2012
Rezoina

@Miney: Fufufu pulling out the double standards card.

It's just that you're pointing out that you should be able to detach yourself from a fling like it was nothing with a friend. If it was a stranger yeah that would be easy, and not all the time, even with friends is it easy to be on the same page.

Reply August 29, 2012
Miney

[quote=Rezoina]@Miney: Then you might as well be a hooker.
@RajaAKshay: Hahahaa, I wasn't thinking of that movie, but I would think it's pretty hard if you just fling with someone on a regular basis as a perk of being a friend and denounce it as nothing.[/quote]

Girls get labeled as "hooker" because girls want friends with benefits but it's okay for guys. I see.

Btw, it's friends with benefits, not random strangers on a spot.

Reply August 29, 2012 - edited
imtwocats

Of course. I don't see what's wrong with having friends with benefits. A little causal sex here and there with a good friend seems perfectly fine to me.

Reply August 28, 2012 - edited
Chema

lemonAIDS?
no thanks

Reply August 27, 2012 - edited
marilanna

Maybe... if they're good friends and it's like the in-between of just friends and a relationship. Can't just give yourself over to randoms LOL

Reply August 27, 2012 - edited
Rezoina

@Miney: Then you might as well be a hooker.
@RajaAKshay: Hahahaa, I wasn't thinking of that movie, but I would think it's pretty hard if you just fling with someone on a regular basis as a perk of being a friend and denounce it as nothing.

Reply August 27, 2012 - edited
xFaceIess

@SonsOfAnarchy: ISTOO, KTHENKS.
or well, I guess that's how I saw it, & how I still see it..

Reply August 27, 2012 - edited
dimo

Since I work long hours this has been a viable option for me for a year or so now. I have a few female friends who are in similar work orientated lives as myself. Since we don't have time for proper relationships, still require sexual gratification and don't want to have to go pick up every time, we tend to meet up for casual sex whenever we both have free time. It's actually a great system.

Reply August 27, 2012 - edited
easyrolling

you are all cute virgin pures awwweee

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
RajaAKshay

[quote=tuesdaymorning]@bigredmeat: hahaha we did a little more than just kissing, I just left it out. But you don't have to go all the way for fwbs.[/quote]

I agree haha. It can be simpily cuddling, kissing, and etc.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
tuesdaymorning

@bigredmeat: hahaha we did a little more than just kissing, I just left it out. But you don't have to go all the way for fwbs.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
RajaAKshay

[quote=StrawberryKiwis]You didn't get that from.... "No Strings Attached" now did you?[/quote]

That was a stupid movie. What a waste of my time.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
easyrolling

Yeah, I had a rebound after I broke up with my ex. It was hot hooking up with someone older because he really knew what he was doing, but he became really clingy. He'd text me, message me on facebook, then send me anon messages on tumblr. It was just weird so I had to break it off.

I'd probably do it again however I'm so much more horny for people after I know them on a more personal level. Asking for commitment at the age of 18 in an age of liberalism in a homosexual monogamous relationship is begging to get cheated on, so I prefer just dating but nothing too serious.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Dorks

No.
I get into relationships strictly because I'm going for something long term.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
tuesdaymorning

[quote=BigRedMeat]over time they will develop.[/quote] ...No. Like we literally bored each other whenever we tried to talk. We used to just make out passionately and then once we finished would just kind of stare at each other before one made an excuse to leave or hang out with our friend group.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
tuesdaymorning

[quote=PimpsDragons]Lol you made my day.[/quote] Good to know, PimpsDragons. Good to know.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Rawky

Hooking up at parties and club are quite fun. But no, I wouldn't go as far as sex.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Luapxal344

Yes. A simple kiss can turn my day from >.< to

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
tuesdaymorning

[quote=BigRedMeat]Someone always gets feelings

dating>FWB[/quote] I dated a guy until we realized there was zero emotional chemistry. Then we broke up but....couldn't keep our hands off each other. LOL

No feelings were developed.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Deciduous

unfortunately not
i really just need some casual action and/or cuddling makeouts

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
xFaceIess

no.
pointless and disgusting. I see the er, benefits part as something that is like, something special you do with someone special
jeez. :c

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
TylerBREW

@Miney: sounds like a plan , im Tyler!

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Miney

[quote=Rezoina]Maybe? I feel like eventually it'll get down to where you or the the person is basically toying with their emotion if it drags long enough.[/quote]

I think there won't be any emotion if both parties just hit and quit & not spend time knowing each other.

[quote=TylerBREW]wanna be friends?[/quote]

Aloha

[quote=RajaAKshay]I ain't on that Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake stuff.[/quote]
JT is cute <3

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
RajaAKshay

[quote=Rezoina]Maybe? I feel like eventually it'll get down to where you or the the person is basically toying with their emotion if it drags long enough.[/quote]

I ain't on that Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake stuff.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Rezoina

Maybe? I feel like eventually it'll get down to where you or the the person is basically toying with their emotion if it drags long enough.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
TylerBREW

[quote=Miney]If I'm not seeing anyone, why not? [/quote]

wanna be friends?

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
RajaAKshay

[quote=Miney]If I'm not seeing anyone, why not? [/quote]

My thoughts exactly.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
Miney

If I'm not seeing anyone, why not?

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited
NonSonoFronz

Yes, I can't take majority of the girls my own age seriously enough to want a relationship with them.

Reply August 26, 2012 - edited